@shego obviously your parents said something which sounds generally true, but isn’t. From your other post it is apparent that you do need a man to make you happy. And as you rightly described it, companionship. And guess what? Nothing wrong with that, because we all need that special someone.
Which is not to say you cannot survive without a boyfriend. I’ve been without a girlfriend for many months now, and even though it would be nice to have someone around, what I miss about my last girlfriend is not the sex, or the time we spent together, but the ability to talk to her, and the moral support she gave me (and she kept giving even after we broke up for a while). My last girlfriend was more of a friend than a girlfriend. And I think that’s the sort of thing you also need. Not the sex, which I am sure you can get fairly easily. Or the “date time”. But the knowledge that there’s someone there for you. The thought of the guy, more than the guy himself. Though of course physical presence is also important.
Pandora’s advice is the best I can think of when looking for a real companion. It will also help you find someone with good chances of survival, rather than a guy you’ll keep fighting with and split up a couple of months later. And it will also help you meet friends in general, which you should never underestimate, whether you have a boyfriend or not.
5 years is a long time. Whoever you meet now will always be compared to your last (and one and only) boyfriend. Assuming there’s no going back to that relationship, you ought to move on. And rather than looking for the next guy, who I am sure you’ll probably unload a lot of baggage on, you should concentrate on getting closure on the last one. I know this is not the right time, and you have to deal with this depression phase first. No hurries then. You don’t have to replace the old bf straightaway. There’s plenty of guys out there, and thousands that would date you. There’s plenty of time for all that. But get better first.
Dating sites are a good idea for now, not so much to meet people, but to look at different guys and think about what you want. Maybe strike a couple of internet chats for now (from the safety of your own home). I have met several people online, and most of them were wonderful. Not always what I expected, but so far only 2 have been freaks, and one of those was not really that bad if you think about it. Many of the guys you meet online might be fat or bald, but overall there are many who could talk to you and make you feel better for the time being, before you’re ready for a real date with a real guy in your neighbourhood.
Anyway, sorry if this was too long. Good luck, and take it easy. It will all work out in the end :)