What did they say that completely spoiled the moment?
You know those moments with the one you care about when somebody just says something awful? The ones where they don’t realize that their words are wrong or are so seemingly benign that they couldn’t have known it would strike a nerve? What have you said, innocently enough, that you wish you could take back? What has your partner said that that rubbed you in all the wrong ways?
No need admit guilt, I’m just curious about the mistakes we make.
Conversely what did they say not realizing that it would get your engines going?
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We mock the things we are to be. Mel Brooks.
Me: “I need to get something special to wear for my wedding night”
Best friend of a decade in town for wedding: “Why? It’s not like he hasn’t seen it all before.”
Me (trying to avoid gasping out my hurt and surprise): “If you don’t understand why my wedding night would be special to me, I feel sorry for you.”
My ex (boyfriend at the time) we’re talking about marriage. I was happily talking about him and I tieing the knot, then he said pretty absent-mindedly “I can’t wait to meet the woman I’m going to marry.” Needless to say we didn’t last long after that! – LB
@Marina oh my gosh! I would have been so hurt! However, I hope you did find something amazingly perfect ;) and that he enjoyed it a million times more then what your friend thought! – LB
Many years ago, while reaching for my pants after having sex with my girlfriend, she says, “Y’now, you’d have a pretty nice body if you worked out.”
The scene: My husband, my sister and a friend in a Chinese restaurant in San Francisco. We’re all eating specialty dishes, drinking beer and having a great time when the conversation turns to the candies brought out on the tab tray. Our friend picks one up and goes, “ooh… coffee nips (something like that) I love all kinds of nips!” The words “nips” being derogatory towards Japanese but still a insult directed to other asians as well, obviously everyone in the restaurant was familar enough with the word for the place to fall silent and eyes were burning us at our table. Yay friend, way to put us under the bus in a frequently visited restaurant.
After the wedding with my first husband, we were driving off into the sunset when he proceeded to tell me about a girl that had been in attendance. He told me that he had told her, ‘You know, that could have been you up there.”
@hungryhungryhortence ; Yet another time I would have been clueless. I had never heard that word used as derogatory towards anyone.
@hungryhungryhortence Yeah, well, she liked it well enough now after hooking up again briefly. I do work out now and am in much better shape than she is.
@Judi That’s pretty f’ed up!
I guess I was too embarassed to write the very worst one but here it goes:
The man says to me, “I totally dig you even if you are built like a Korean orphan boy.”
Oh my! It’s so cute—just like my baby brother’s.
I asked my husband to whisper sweet nothings to me and he leaned over to my ear and whispered “cream filled doughnut”.
The first time a girl said she loved me, she said: You have said you have these feelings for me, and now I feel those feelings for you. I love you!
But I still want to see other guys.”
@ElleBee Thanks for your sympathy. Actually, she must have understood my hurt, because she went out the next day and bought me a lovely negligee. I forgave her.
Yours sounded horrible! At least it validated your judgment regarding the break-up.
while making love, she kept smiling and looking up at me, saying “hi” over and over and over again.
@cc34 Um, kind of creepy for you.
The most unintentionally hurtful thing anybody has ever said to me is when my mother came into the room when Angels in America was on TV, asked what I was watching, and then commented, “Something about gay people has the word ’angels’ in the title!?” That put another nail in the door of my closet…
I love you, but I’m not in love with you.
Really? So why on Earth were you kissing me like that – and trying to kiss me again AND spoon me? Piss off!
When my aunt told my Mom at my Dad’s funeral “Well, he’s better off now.” Maybe she was trying to make my Mom feel better, but I think it was a pretty horseshit thing to say.
@MacBean I’m sorry you don’t feel free to open your closet.
@Judi No wonder he’s an ex! He said it, and he told you that he’d said it!
Me and my bf (now ex) were just finishing up a makeout session when he looked and me and said…you look just like my sister. I was speechless to say the least.
Regarding my first marriage:
I said, “I Do”
She said, “I Do”
Those words pretty much spoiled my life for the next several years.
@FireMadeFlesh ; Actually, he’s an Ex because he died, not because we divorced, but it was a difficult marriage. I never realized life could be as good as it is with my current hubby.
I had a boyfriend that I was all excited to bring home to Dad to meet… he was looking at a family picture of my sisters and I, which was taken a few years prior..he took a long look at it and said “you never told me you had a brother!”
Um, that’s me.
@MacBean I’m sorry to hear that, family can be so cruel, and it’s because they just don’t think.
“Yeah, I keep my cat’s litter box beside the bed.”
My girl and I were on her bed, get busy, when I suddenly heard her cat right next to us taking a dump. The smell, and just the whole idea of it all killed the moment.
Oh, shit. I didn’t read through the details section of this question. Well, what she said wasn’t hurtful, but, it did ruin the moment. Sorry.
@MacBean So sorry! You know what they say about mothers. They installed our buttons so who better to know where to push?
@ABoyNamedBoobs03 Euwwwwwwwwwwww!
I had an argument with Friend B. It was over something stupid but it blew up to the point that she sent me a suicide note saying things like it was clear no one cared about her etc. This was not the first time she’d done something like that and I was upset that she used it over such a stupid argument. I showed the entire conversation to Friend A who had stopped being friends with Friend B a long time ago.
Her response ”<laughter> <serious face> You know you can show this kind of thing to the people at _____ (a local mental ward) and they’ll take her away for a night or two.”
My response ”... What?”
Trust me when I say she didn’t mean it to get Friend B help. It disturbed the hell out of me and I haven’t been completely comfortable with Friend A since. I’m only sad I never told Friend A how much it bothered me and that it’s a big reason why I let physical distance dissolve our friendship.
@jmah: I know the male doppleganger to your cat box girl! ewwww
A female friend of the guy I was dating called while we were fooling around, he paused to see who was calling and then didn’t answer the phone, no biggie. After we finished later on we ended up talking about her. It turned out she had been recently been dumped, launched an unsuccessful suicide attempt and had been leaning on my dude way more than he wanted to deal with. She was kinda crazy so none of this particularly surprised me.
But then he asked me, “You wouldn’t kill youself if I left would you?”
@fundevogel
A guy friend of mine only dated a girl for a month and then he realizes she’s really really clingy so he wants to dump her. She threatens to overdose on some pill if he does… yeah that was awkward. I’m not really sure how he got out of it but he did and she’s alive.
It really scares me when people use their life that way.
@Judi Oh, I’m sorry to hear that. Glad you’re happy now though!
I was so into this guy but he wasn’t into me as much. You know, he was like we could totally hook up whenever you want but dont be gettin crazy on me thinkin we’re gonna be boyfriend and girlfriend. He said it like it was the right thing to say and he very confident about it. LOL
@LuhvKiller I hope you told him that after a classy remark like that, you two could hook up on the day his nuts froze!
I did totally lol his face was priceless lol
oh, I have bazillions of these!
A walking on clouds newlywed, I was standing in front of a movie theater waiting for my husband of less than a week to come pick me up. I was telling a lady next to me how thrilled I was and how fantastic he was; I couldn’t wait to see him.
He pulled up and I jumped in the car and threw my arms around his neck. He said, “Please stop. I married you and now I have to get serious and concentrate on my career.” Was I trying to prevent that? stay tuned for more soul crushers.
When I was 25 I went to the hairdresser’s; my then husband came and picked me up . I said, “how do you like it?” and he said, “God, you look like you’re forty years old!”
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