Do you hold yourself to a different standard than other people?

I always hold myself to a much harsher standard than I hold other people.
I am quite a forgiving person, to everyone but myself.

If I talk the talk, I walk the walk.

unless it is raining, then I ride the ride.

I’m with @filmfann. The standards I hold myself to are much tougher than what I hold other people to. However, I do hold family members to slightly higher standards than other people, which has led to me being more frequently disappointed in family members than others.

I’m psychoanalyzing myself here, but I think that because they’re related to me, they should be awesome at everything like I am. I’m much more forgiving these days, but I still feel a trace of this in my attitude toward my brothers and their work ethic, achievements, etc.

I used to be a TA. I think it’s one thing to say “these are the things you should do if you want to do yourself a favor” but another thing to expect everyone to be perfect. I also hold myself to harsher standards than other people. If people are making the effort I would go completely above and beyond for them.

I think some people when they’re new to a position like that try to protect themselves from over-committing. It’s easier on the TA or instructor if they draw harsh boundaries for others even if it’s not reasonable. That way they don’t feel taken advantage of by students who seem to want you to bend over backwards.

And sometimes these are all just excuses because the instructor wants to be doing their research and could give a crap about teaching other than the pay check. Sad that.

I believe in rules, I also believe in teaching by example! Where I work, has Rules and Regulation! I am the only person that follows them. My manager doesn’t even follow them. He also does not enforce them either. He says, no one will listen anyway! And he wonders why?

I was going to answer the title Q and tell you how I hold myself to higher standards than people around me. But after reading the details, I’d rather focus on that aspect. I understand why your teachers do this even though I still think that lady who wouldn’t give a review session is a bitch. There’s nothing wrong with holding others to a higher standard than you when you have a position of power. The role of your teachers is to try to motivate you to do things the right way. This is similar to parenting. Parents tell their kids not to smoke, drink, and to practice safe sex etc. This doesn’t mean they follow(ed) these own guidelines. Hell, doctors tell people not to smoke and yet I see so many med students doing it! The point is, in these cases it is more of a “do as I say not as I do” because these people want the best for you. They don’t want you to get to the same stage they do, they want you to surpass them, whether it is in studying habits or smoking habits.

If the rule was that you must practice what you preach, then those that are unable to uphold the values they want their students/children to learn would be incapable of imparting any knowledge to them. I know it seems unfair and hypocritical, but no one’s perfect – that doesn’t mean they can’t want you to be. That said, their standards would be upheld much more and easily if they themselves followed them. But if they don’t follow their own rules, doesn’t make the rules lose their inherent value/lesson.

Lastly, an example: I am amazing at procrastinating but if I was in a teaching/parenting position, I would still tell the kids that they should get things done on time and work on a consistent schedule. Just because I am unable to adhere to this doesn’t make it a lesson not worth teaching.

No, I do not hold myself to a different standard than others and I find it horribly hypocritical when people do behave the way you described in your question. I think it is good to have high expectations and standards, but we all have to remember that anyone can make a mistake or have a difficult day.

I have an unyielding dislike for hypocrisy so I avoid it at all costs. I always try to practice what I preach and I’m honest to a fault. I know that some others won’t always live up to my standards and I won’t always live up to some other’s standardards but if we can agree to disagree and get along most of the time, I’m comfortable with that.

If children are people, yes.

I try not to. Often I let people get away with things I would not let myself do. When I rake the lawn, I like to get every single leaf, but my sister-in-law seemed shocked when that’s what I did for her lawn. I think I know that other people are willing to do what I would call a half-assed job. I don’t mind. It’s easier to fix it later. Or even do it myself.

In the case of teaching—as well as the case of directing—then it is very important to role model what you expect—in all senses. This is just good leadership.

When I direct actors, for example, not only must I show up on time, but I also make sure that I let them go on time. This tells them that I respect the time boundaries of our session. (Obviously if we are in the middle of something white hot I ask the actors if they are ok with running over, and usually it’s a yes).

Ditto when I teach writing. I write with the students so that they can see me enjoy writing, and we critique my piece along with theirs—and in this way, they see that writing really is a process. It’s not important to get it punch perfect every single time. Obviously this also keeps me on my toes and my pen well honed. Also, it allows me to realise how when a question/topic is badly set, or why students may have trouble doing a certain question. Some things you don’t realise until you actually do it.

In the case of the teacher not giving a review—that’s just ineffective teaching.
I think a teacher is always there for the students.So for example, I know that there will always be those students that (for whatever reason) come late to class. I start my class on time in order to be fair to students who do show up on time. However, what I do is I make the beginning of class fun and non-essential, which acts as a sort of buffer—before going into the main topic. So as a teacher, I think one is always negotiating ways to encourage students to do what you want, be it setting and role-modeling principles, or adapting the teaching to take into account student flaws.

I like to think I hold my self to even higher standards than I expect of others. However, I know people who expect certain behavior from others when they themselves just suck at that same behavior. It’s called hypocrisy.

Everybody does, Every single individual, White, black, Yellow, Red we all set are own standard of life, even if you don’t think so. Because in your eyes, if you think your even the tiniest bit Smarter, cooler, dumber, lamer, ect, then you indeed set a standard.

Usually people have no idea they do it until they really think about it. Talking behind someones back is setting a personal standard, you (In most cases) discuss how much better you are than the other person.

Now when Expecting standards, thats different, and you will have to reach pretty legit to do that, everyone has a specific standard or Expectations, and if it were visible it would be like a (-1000 – 1000,000,000) Number line, Negatives being how much people don’t care.

Don’t be like, oh no i set standards I’m an evil person Rawr rawr rawr, because Like i said everyone does it, and more than once.