Should the guy or the girl "wear the pants in the relationship"?
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October 20th, 2009
I have just been wondering lately about this. Not only in terms of sex, but, in terms of who is head of the house, who has the final say in what happens, ect. Things like do you think the male should always have the last say? Or Who chooses what postion? Or who punishes the kids when they need it, anything like that…. Sometimes I enjoy being in control and making the guy submit to me (hehehe take it anyway you’d like (:) but sometimes I just feel the need to be shown who is boss lol. Hehe its fun.
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I think a healthy relationship should be 50/50 in all of the aspects you mentioned and more.
50/50 unless it’s in naughty fun ;) – LB
No pants….stay naked and take turns.
See ya…Gary/wtf
My husband and I both have one leg each in.
I tend to think relationships are more fun when neither wear pants.
Calling yourself the head of the house hold is silly to me. Women are just as equal as men and vice versa. Sexism is alive and well outside the house, why bring it in to the house?
In fact, I’m going go in to the other room right now and change into my teddy.
I feel that anyone who regards a relationship as needing a “boss” is doomed to never have a good relationship.
50/50 depending on the day/situation etc
@gemiwing what kind of sitiations shouldnt be 50/50?
Brenna- Hubbs is better at some situations than I am- he has more patience. So he takes the lead then and I sit back.
I’m better at getting us in and out of a store/social situation so I take the lead there and he sits back.
Just depends on the couple and who has strengths where.
I agree with @gemiwing
Each person should work their strengths, yet still work together as a couple.
Eh, I think for most people a relationship where the majority of the decisions are mutual is best. But I guess for some people it works to have one or the other calling the shots, i don’t want to be hating on the old schoolers.
Equal say. No pants either, should be naked sounds right :-)
What about gay and lesbian relationships? Who “wears the pants” in those?
I think gender roles and gender typing are stupid. If one person in the relationship happens to be a more dominant person, and the other is more submissive, then that’s how it works. If not, it should be equal. The gender doesn’t matter.
That said, pants are burdensome.
Fifty-fifty (depending on circumstances).
No pants. Draw the blinds.
Make a list of topics and divide them into 3 categories
1 Girl in charge
2 Guy in charge
3 Joint decisions
The distribution of the topics can be very different for every couple, but a few are obvious like birth control, having a child, buying something expensive or where to spend a longer vacation. It saves time to divide the “smaller” topics. For example I’m in charge of maps and navigation before driving through unchartered territory. My wife’s in charge where all the stuff gets put in the kitchen (and I’m not supposed to misplace them). I’m in charge of all the vacation bookings and paperwork related to it. My wife is in charge packing joint stuff like sunscreen. I’m in charge sorting all our CDs and DVDs and come up with a system to find them quickly. My wife is in charge which bedclothes to buy. And so forth. The list can get quite long.
So sometime one is in control, sometimes the other. And some things can only be handled by both.
It should be equal. However, it never truly is imho. Every relationship is different.. some work better with the woman wearing the pants and vice versa.
I did have an interesting discussion with my wife about this not too long ago. I foolishly posed the question: “If women want to be treated equally, than why should we open doors for them and worry if the toilet seat is in the correct position?” It went on from there for several minutes until we concluded that there never really is an equality. Women are simply different from men. Men are simply different from women. Each have their roles to play in a relationship.
IMO, men (generally speaking) are best equipped to be protectors and providers…biologically and otherwise. They should work, hunt, fight off the bad guys, be the more stern of the two parents, stand up for their wives and their family and be the leader. (Don’t confuse leader with “in charge”. Good leaders know when to be followers as well)
IMO, women (generally speaking) are best equipped to be the nurturer, the support element, the comforter, the voice of reason when the man isn’t thinking straight… they are an equal partner in the relationship yet have their own specific role to play.
Now, of course, I’m bound to have the liberals, the uber-progressives, and the feminists after me about this opinion but.. so be it.. that’s my opinion.. take it or leave it.
@NaturalMineralWater Wow, I don’t agree with you often, but I gave you a GA, you are spot on with that answer. The liberals, the uber-progressives and the feminists be damned. we need to drink a beer together sometime.
@Psychedelic_Zebra Anytime you’re in the Colorado area I’m game. I have trouble trusting a person until I’ve had a beer with them. XD
the guy wearing the pants is an archaic concept worthy of being destroyed
the girl wearing the pants is not the solution
I agree with @NaturalMineralWater (despite being completely liberal and uber progressive and a feminist, :)~ and not completely agreeing that these man and woman roles are inherent) that each relationship is different and not all decisions are 50 50…for example in terms of financial issues my partner is more knowledgeable so I listen to him than to myself more when it comes to that…in many other situations he listens to me more than to himself…but we don’t overpower each other…except when there are no more pants
The man may wear the pants in the relationship but the woman tells him which pants to wear! :P
Ok, I heard a good joke today.. maybe you all know it:
After Joe got married he took his wife behind the barn and dropped his pants. He asked his wife to try them on. His wife said “Joe I can’t wear those.. they are obviously too big!”. Joe said “That’s right. Don’t you forget who wears the pants in this family!”
Joe’s friend Bill heard the story just before he got married and decided to do the same thing. Bill got married, then took his wife behind the barn. He dropped his pants and asked his wife to try them on. She said “Bill, those are obviously too big. I can’t wear those!”. Bill said “That’s right! Don’t you forget who wears the pants in this family!”
Then Bill’s new wife dropped her panties and asked Bill to try them on. Bill said “Baby those are obviously too small.. I can’t get into those!” Bill’s wife said “That’s right, don’t you forget it. If you don’t treat me right you’ll never get into them!”
its good to change positions every now and then
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