I work with mostly elderly patients, and I see such a range of functions and abilities. I have some in their mid-70s who are terribly intimidated by technology, and I have some in their 90s who only just reluctantly retired. One 93-year-old patient had fully researched hearing aids on the internet prior to coming in to see me – very refreshing.
Emotionally, I find that the relationships they have with their families and friends seems to make a huge difference in how content they seem to be. Still… I am told several times a day, “Don’t get old, Sweetie.” Some seem to fight it kicking and screaming and complain about how the “Golden Years” is a crock, while others take the attitude that “Growing old is a luxury given to few.” (one of my patients told me that – I don’t know whether she coined the phrase or whether it’s a quote).
The more I observe in my patients and my mother, who is now in her 70s (not to mention the changes I’ve already experienced now that I’m over 40), the more I realize that the old adage is true: If you don’t use it, you lose it. This goes for challenging our minds as well as our bodies. As children, we are constantly learning, in and out of school. We are also constantly moving – running, jumping, turning cartwheels, climbing trees, reading with our head hanging upside down off the end of the bed, and so on. As we get older, our lives become much more routinized. We literally go through the motions, day after day – so some systems become worn down from the repetition, while others atrophy from lack of use and stimulation.
So this past year, I’ve made it my goal to get out and have fun, to challenge myself to do the things I’d always talked myself out of for being to shy and self-conscious. First, I have gone to the gym, to improve my fitness, so I am better capable of handling adventures. I have challenged myself to get out and meet new people socially, as I had always been a wallflower. I have joined groups (which I found through Meetup.com) and I’ve gone hiking, kayaking, paintball battling, horseback riding, zip-lining, to museums and plays and concerts, trying new cuisines, charitable work and fund-raising. Sadly, skydiving was cancelled because of rain. This was the best and busiest Spring and Summer of my life!
I plan to continue to try to challenge my self and trying new events and activities, and to keep improving my fitness. I have met so many great new people (including you, Jan!) and made real friends, and have done some dating, as well. Tomorrow is guaranteed to no one, so I am going out and making the most of today. And doing what I can to prepare for a better tomorrow.