Who signs the card when some people don't chip in for the gift?

Sign from all of us.

Does their friendship matter to you? If yes, chalk this up as a “little thing” and sign it “from all of us”.

If no, then leave them off the card.

Personally, I would sign it “from all of us” if you wanted to do it in good faith. Because, your couple friends stated they could not contribute financially, the assumption is that they would have if they could have. If they are your friends, you may believe this. It would be a nice gesture, including everyone in, and not show pickiness on your part.

pass the card around for each to sign. that way the non chippers can sign or not.

I would first….pass the card around….and if they sign, they sign. If they don’t, then you are off the hook.

They may actually be in that sort of position, given the current economic situation. If so, then contribute a bit in their name by giving five dollars more, maybe, or something and then sign from all of us.

Or….just sign it “From All of Us” and let it slide.

If this happens again….just circulate the card….that way, the option to sign is on them… not you.

@trailsillustrated and @DarlingRhadamanthus Having people sign the card themselves isn’t an option, unfortunately.

@Siren I actually don’t believe even for a second that they can’t contribute just a few bucks, but I know it’s not my place to comment on their finances. to people I actually know at least. Bitching to you guys is apparently ok. :)

I think I will sign it from everyone. Neither way seems exactly right to me, but signing it from everyone feels the least wrong. Thanks all. :)

@Likeradar: Glad you came to a solution that worked for you. And yes, I agree with you that Fluther does offer a great venue to bitch and complain without repercussions. ;)

I must be cynical, or bitter because I’ve been burned so many times by “group gifts.” People who contribute sign the card. Those who don’t don’t.

@SuperMouse That way makes the most sense to me. The gift is not from you if you didn’t pay for any of it! It annoys me that my friends, who are lovely people but ridiculously cheap (they never have money to contribute or go where anyone else wants to, but they’re constantly going to the games and bars they want to go to).

But not putting their names on the cards would be a glaring omission, and I know the recipients would notice, especially since at this point I would be writing all the names. I really wish I had the cards when I collected the money so people could just sign then. Funny how such a simple thing like a name on a card can stress me out like this!

@Likeradar My mom has had to deal with this more than i have. She belongs to a “Girl’s Club” that consists of friends she’s had from HS (actually some go all the way back to Kindergarten).

I’m blunt——-Some people are dicks!

She had a few friends that did this consistently for meals/gifts/events. Unfortunately the one that was most known for stiffing everyone or making excuses died young from cancer.

I’d say sign their name, let it go, and try to remind yourselves they will probably always be this way. If they are some what fun to hang out with, look at it as the price of their friendship.

@SuperMouse: If you have been burned a lot, it’s understandable to feel that way.

I say go with how you feel, especially if the person/people in question have a history of being tight-wads in general and could contribute. However, when in doubt, I suggest to add everyone, especially if there may be repercussions from the exclusion.

Its not like theyre deliberately not helping out. There are bigger priorities than baby shower gifts.
From all of us would be very kind of you

@pinkparaluies I’ve already signed the card from everyone, but I really believe it is like they’re deliberately not helping out.

@Likeradar: Chalk this one up to good etiquette – yours. You were kind enough to include them, whether they deserved it or not. That’s honorable.

@Siren Thanks. :)

either sign someway as a group like “from us” or just let everybody that wants to sign sign it that way they dont get singled out.