Do you think it is possible to love someone too much?

Well isn’t it that how we feel about others reflects how we feel about ourselves? You must love yourself a lot :) That’s a good thing.

I’ve had the opposite problem. Up until recently I found it difficult to love others because I didn’t fully love myself. I’m still working on this.

I also have this underlying belief that people in general can’t be trusted so without trust there can’t really be love…. so I’m working on that also.

Do you think you trust and love easily? I actually envy you in some ways…but I guess either extremes aren’t favourable… I don’t know.

The topic of loving too much turned into an industry for Robin Norwood, the author of Women Who Love Too Much.

Surely you did that much research before talking to Fluther, eh?

I dont really believe in “love”. I believe in hormones and pheromones. I think the ones that love too much are just kind of.. easy to walk all over, etc.

I dont think its a good thing at all. Like I said: It sucks when its not valued.

And I didnt do research. I was looking for opinions not facts.

Hormones are for mating purposes. The dreamer side of me doesnt like relating it with love.

Ok…... well how much is too much?

If you mean more than the other person loves you, then obviously it is possible. But you choose to take the risk. I’m sure you reap rewards of loving others as well don’t you? Often people reciprocate and often they don’t as well.

Rejection sucks for sure. But do those people really matter?

Love is always awesome and appreciated. It only becomes too much if you can’t stand on your own two feet, and you need to love another person. Then you’re not giving them your love, you’re just draining them.

No, I don’t think there’s such a thing as loving someone too much. What you do with the feelings can be a problem though.

“Loving too much” is akin to obsession which while powerful, is an unhealthy emotion.
Obsessed people fixate on their perception of a person, essentially putting them up on a pedestal. Then when the object fails to live up to those standards, the obsessed one gets angry and it’s all downhill from there.

There isn’t such a thing as loving too much, but only if you love yourself first.

I don’t think you can love the right person too much, but you can love someone for the wrong reasons.