How great is your need for physical intimacy?

My need for sex is lower than average. I can go at least a month or maybe a few with no desire at all.. no idea what that says about my stress levels etc. I’m a 20 year old almost and should desire more perhaps. Ahh well. I’m a gal, for the record.

My need for sex, to me, is normal to slightly high. I “crave” my partner at least 3–4 times a week. It’s not uncommon for us to have sex 4 times a week ;) – LB

about average for people my age.
A little less on the random hookup front…
But a fair bit more with a certain person…

so i feel that not much, and alot, average out to to about normal.

Very low, actually. I can go about a month or so without. I don’t “need” it, but feel that visceral tug in my lower abdomen every now and again.

Lower than it used to be.

It’s a want. It’s not a need.

In the context of a loving relationship it is a sine qua non because it is one of the lubricants (forgive me) for emotional intimacy.

Other than in that context I am indifferent. Too many empty sexual gestures in my life earlier.

Sometimes I can be a sex camel -go without for long periods of time. Although lately I have been craving a naked body on top of mine.

Me meds diminish my urges but do not diminish my need to be close to my wife. We are very touchy-feely in both sexual and non-sexual ways. Some people don’t even consider what we do sex.

To be blunt. We have full-blown sex (by our definition) maybe once every six weeks, but there are many orgasms in between.

@IBERnineD Mmmm thanks for that wonderful day-dream <3 Thinking of him on me gives me shivers ^_^ – LB

My need for sex is exceptionally high. I am ofter thinking about it. Any fine ladies in the house the same way? ; )

I’d also like to add that when I do get those urges, I turn into Jack Black.

it used to be much higher than what is is now. if left to myself it would probably be hardly ever. but as I am required to have sex everyday whether I feel like it or not….I go with the flow- sometimes I’m glad and sometimes not.

I would be happy with 3 times a week. Where I am now – about once a week, sometimes twice. Unless the husband is super-stressed or sick, then it’s less. Longest stretch since married – 38 days. Each of them more hellish than the one before. As for averages, I think I’m just about average.

I don’t need sex..
I’m not sure what the “average” is.. but I only want it with one person.. and I crave him anywhere from 7 days a week to once a week.
It all depends.

My need for physical intimacy is probably very high. I can certainly function adequately without sex and have done so for months at a time (I’m 19 and was in a long distance relationship when i started college), but to be completely honest I think about it a very inordinate amount. So to make a succinct conclusion I suppose that I don’t need it, but i unceasingly want it.

Daily, I want sex daily

Physical intimacy doesn’t equal sex necesarily to me. But to answer your question, I have a lower sex drive than average I think. I can go several months without even thinking about it if I’m single.

when my boyfriend and I are actually together, it’s anywhere between 1 and 3 times a day… and we crave each other nearly constantly when we’re not together.

If my partner isn’t the one to initiate sex, we usually don’t do it. But that doesn’t mean I’m not thinking about it all the time. As of right now we have sex about 2 times a week. I’d prefer much more…

I think I have an above average sex drive and am usually the one who wants it more often in a relationship. When single, I definitely crave it more and more as more time passes since my last encounter. It gets to be a real physical craving and drive for the touch of another person.

Over my life, I’ve slept with 28 people, which is a lot to some people, but consider that I’ve only had a few relationships, and only three long-term ones.. not by choice, but by circumstance. I’ve spent more of my life single than not and when I’m single, I sleep with maybe one or two people a year, which I don’t think is that much.

I’m single now and the last time was two or three weeks ago with my ex.. but she seems to be getting some elsewhere, so I think my near future sex life looks a bit bleak at the moment. ;)

When I was married I didn’t think I craved intimacy or sex at all. It was like co-habitating with my brother, we kissed maybe once a week and had sex a couple of times a year. It wasn’t until I left my husband and found the love of my life that I realized I crave physical intimacy constantly. If I had my way, I would be constantly touching my man and he would be constantly touching me. Once we are married and living together I see us being intimate at least daily, maybe more than once a day.

@ElleBee haha your welcome, I wrote that right before class and was worried it may have been to graphic. My imagination though is far too vivid, so my class period was enjoyable, to say the least. :)

@Grisaille I just clicked the Jack Black link…do you move that well?

You know it, toots.

I crave physical attention and affection, but I don’t necessarily crave sex as much. I think I said this in a different recent question on here- I like sex. I enjoy sex. I’ve been having it for awhile now. However, I don’t need sex and I can go for quite awhile without having it. I went a year and a half without having any and didn’t really notice for about 6 months. I masturbate (tmi) quite a lot though, so I wonder if that has anything to do with me not needing sex as much.

When I’m in a relationship, I can’t get enough. I tend to get too caught up in the physical aspect in the early stages, as I find it difficult to repress it until I get to know the person better.

In between relationships, the urges are strong; but at this stage of my life, “no strings attached” sex is unfulfilling, so I prefer to take care of my own business to preserve my health and emotional well-being.

Oh no!!!!!

Brown chicken brown cow.

Yea!!!! 3 times in a week.

I’m wired to feel sex as intimacy, comfort, acceptance, bonding and love so my need for it is HUGE but I have far less of it than I’d like because I have to be so careful of my partners that they can give the emotional aspect I need. When I am coupled, I will want to have sex every evening, before morning and then before leaving for work. This has worked with all but one of the few parnters I’ve had and it’s a challenge to me to tone myself down. The downside to this is when I have issues with a partner then sex is what’s going to suffer. If my respect or trust are altered, sex suffers and sometimes the drive will not return. I’ve lost relationships because I couldn’t reconcile the sex after troubled times even when I wanted it to work out.

I always wanted to have sex then I found the right guy,but a huge suprise to me that I wasn’t able to come during sexual intercourse.For a woman it’s a need, for a man it’s a want; thats my opinion.

In my opinion/experience… sex has generally been one of the expressions of my feelings and love for someone. Personally, if the feelings (or the potential for them) aren’t there… I’m not interested in crossing any sexual lines. But when a relationship is on good terms, I’m a ravenous sex beast ;)

Oh yeah.. one night stands are totally out of the question in my book. I’ve got one heck of a case of germaphobia!

@shockrocks i know what you mean. The very few times i tried to have a one nighter i just went limp. there has to be some kinda feeling for the person. Like even when i had a girlfriend, it took a goot week or 2 before i could even start anything with her, pissed her off, but i never could finish, id always die out. Theres really only one person that it works really well with, and she doesnt believe that its only with her. She thinks shes just another girl. Its kinda annoying.

5 says i get yelled at for this later

Im prety sure the reason that I can’t come during sex is because before I started doing it I was masturbating with a vibrational device;just kind of wore my-self out a bit I guess.

@DOMINO hi…. i do believe i can help….. lol jk jk

@Grisaille excellent so when are you visiting me? ;)

It makes me sad that there are so many people going without because they don’t have the kind of relationship they want in order to be physically intimate with someone. In a way, it reaffirms my feeling that it really is intimacy people want, and sex is just the technology to express it.

I always get this urge to say, “come to me. I’ll love you.” But of course, that’s my problem—always feeling like I need more love. I feel like I am filled with enough to take care of so many people. When I hear the stories, my heart goes out to you. But, unfortunately, we do not live in a world where that kind of thing is possible. I’ll bet that hookup sex makes more sense to most people than having many loves.

You can dismiss hookups as just sex; as just a kind of selfish self-gratification. I think it is something that desperate people resort to because they don’t have a lover. They don’t have someone they can express themselves to using love-making.

The thing I don’t understand about myself is why, when I already have so much love, I want more. Part of it has to be the stuff going on in my brain. My desire for sex triples and quadruples when I’m manic. I think what I would like, normally, is maybe once a day. I can be pretty happy with only twice a week. This is much more than I was getting before we went into counseling.

When I’m manic, I want it two or three times a day. Well, that’s not exactly what I want. What I want is an intense involvement with someone where we can’t not do it three or four times a day. However it is the connection that is important. When I’m manic, I can fall in love in days.

It’s scary, because I ask myself how can this be possible? People won’t believe it. They’ll say it’s an infatuation, and maybe it is. But these relationships usually last way beyond the time the intensity is over. I make some serious virtual friends that way. But it never goes beyond that. It’s something I truly struggle with. I wish it were so simple as telling myself to stop and stopping. Anyway, when I get depressed, I need to feel love even more. It’s all such a mess, and it seems like there’s no way out without someone getting hurt. And that makes me want to take all the blame and so on and so forth….

@DOMINO, @Grisaille was talking to you or @kibaxcheza was?

Dosn’t matter, I was just kiding. He he, very funny of me:)

wow…. havent seen a girl that aggressive over me since that bear thought i was her cub….. you think my mom was scared, try being drug by your shirt for about 100 yards…. that was some nice cuddle time though… very fluffy

@DOMINO hahah alright I was concerned!

It once wasn’t that important but now that i’m in a premature serious relationship it means a lot. Not necessary that that is what i based our relationship on but that intimacy is not something to fling around. We are intimate with one and other and that is something that we can only share.

In general, on the standard bell curve, my partner and I are way out on the lower end.

My want is higher than my need. My need is lower than what I get. I’m dealing with my 6 year relationship to my girlfriend whilst being 600 miles away. I see her once every two months for three days so…..about once or twice every two months.

My need is most definitely below average, and my want probably is as well for a 23 year old male.

was Jack Black pregnant when he did that clip?)

Its way higher than average…I need it constantly. I get it everyday sometimes more than 3 times a day. depending on what day it is. Thats still not enough.

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~decides to be nice~

You should have said “sex” in the title. No, I obviously love sex, but it’s not that I can’t live without it. I definitely wouldn’t pay for it and I don’t think I’d have sex with someone I didn’t love just for the sake of having it (did it one a few years ago and it was just a waste of time). So no one-night-stands or anything.

But general “physical intimacy” like hugs from friends, yes, I need that a lot. I like hugging people, being close to them, shaking hands or even kissing (non-sexual kisses on the cheeks I mean). And it’s quite important to simply be close to them.

Just read @Jack79‘s comment and agree with the need for physical intimacy aside from sex and that I will accept this from friends, even some acquaintances. The problem becomes when I have a partner and then don’t taper the physical contact from others, the partner might question just how far the physical contact goes. In my selfishness and neediness, I’ll let an acquaintance hold me or rub my back if I don’t feel I’m getting enough from my partner, I have to watch myself carefully with those impulses so I don’t cause hurt feelings.