How often do you and your "lover" fight?

I’m stupid? No, you’re stupid! What? How? Noooooo! Don’t you throw that! I am warning you!
What does my mother have to do with it?! Your sister needs to stay out of this! Don’t you touch that!
Where are you going? No I am not!
But you said…. Ok, ok. Right. But do you understand what I am saying? Ok…
What? Noooo, really? Do you think? Where are the kids? Really???

Mmmm you sexy woman! Close the door and get over here. Big daddy wants to come out and play.
Oh honey. Yes, I do love you. Now shut up and bend over!

Firstly, @ChazMaz all I can say is O_O Right On!!

As for me and my SO “fights” are very rare. We have disagreements, but nothing severe. They are usually about misunderstandings and we are equally to blame. They never last long as always end up in hot rough sex!! WOO!! – LB

In my relationship experience… I try to save the “fights” for the real issues. I can’t stand petty fights. I’d rather just talk about it and work through it rationally – without all the nonsense. But I guess it’s my unwillingness to fight that usually irritates people the most and actually ends up sparking the petty fights. =/ So in the end maybe I’m being petty by avoiding pettiness so adamantly? Hmmmmm…. weird :P

I don’t have one, but I like reading one site I found on stumbleupon about what this guy and his girlfriend argue about. It’s quite entertaining, because his girlfriend is… pretty much nutso.

Things My Girlfriend And I Have Argued About

We’ve never fought. We love eachother to much.

My s/o and I fight about once every two weeks. It usually starts over something insignificant and then the real reason behind it comes out during the arguement. The fight lasts at most 20 minutes before we settle down. One (or both) of us apologizes and we spend the rest of night making up.

These couples who say they don’t fight make me raise my eyebrows. My cousin used to say that about her & her husband & I never believed it for a minute. If you don’t fight at some point, someone’s being overbearing & the other one is being too submissive. I’m not talking about a knock-down drag out. My husband & I have been together for years & years. We love each other tons. That has nothing to do with it, tho. Everyone’s going to fight at some point in time.

Everyone fights.
It’s ridiculous if you don’t.
hint, hint.

I don’t think I’ve ever fought with him. I know I have been a little impatient before when he lapses into his reluctance to try new things (something he’s greatly improved on over the years), but I have never been angry with him and I don’t think he has been angry at me. What’s to get angry about?

We’ve never had blow outs or anything. We’ve had one or two emotional discussions about problems we were having, but they’re always handled in a remarkably mature and civil manner, which is impressive given my psycho knee-jerky nature. We’ve had disagreements, but they’re always discussed in a light-hearted fashion. We bicker in sort of a cute, married couple way. He really brings out the best in me. I can’t imagine ever really having a “fight” with him.

Everyone gets mad eventually. You can have the greatest partner in the world and at some point you two will disagree. In fact, I think it’s unhealthy when people say they have never fought with their s/o ever. Sometimes you have to hash out the details for both of you to really understand one another, especially if you are really different people. Crazy, screaming, ugly roaring fights are not ok with me, but disagreements are bound to happen. Plus then you get to make up! :)

We fight sometimes, but I think in our time together we’ve really gotten to the point of being better at it – I mean we’re not clouded by anger, we’re resolving the issue and moving on. And I feel like we never fight over petty things, so I’m actually really happy with our level of disagreements, I think we’ve both grown a lot in our time together, and instead of placing blame I prefer to see the mistakes we both made and not make it one person’s fault because we’re a team.

We’ve never fought. We love eachother to much,but when he says something I don’t understand,or like we talk about it.

@DOMINO “We love eachother to much”. You’ve said that twice now. You don’t get it. That has nothing to do with whether or not you fight. You can love someone with all your heart & still find yourself in a situtation where you’re going to fight. That’s just a fact of life.

@DOMINO That doesn’t sound normal. No fighting? Fighting is healthy. Normal. It feels good to get out your frustrations and then make up and resolve your issues with eachother.

Well to be fair, I’ve never fought with my boyfriend, but we’ve only been together for 3½ months…

Just because fighting is “normal” doesn’t in anyway mean it has to be apart of a healthy functional relationship. – LB

We get frustrated with life in general, and most of the time our anger/stress gets taken out on each other. It sucks. We both hate it, but until we both figure out our lives, it’s going to happen.. We care too much about each other to not be involved.. so it’s something we have to work on.
I think it happens with everyone at some point.

As for making up.. sex is pretty cool.

We don’t fight, because it takes two to fight, and he refuses. When we have a difference of opinion, he says “I will give it some thought” and then he either changes or continues to do what ever he wants.

@rangerr and how often does that happen/how do yall end up making it up to each other?

@kibaxcheza Lately, I have been very stressed and dealing with home problems so I’ve been pretty hard to deal with. We are separated by distance due to college, so our favorite way of apologizing [which is sex] is kind of hard.. but when we DO get together, we both know that we are sorry and we talk it out then go at it and make each other feel better after being jerks. As for what we do when we are apart.. we talk it out and try to play nice.

@rangerr are you ever around for his birthday?

@kibaxcheza His birthday falls during the school year, so it’s been hard for me to make that trip to visit him at college. With parents that are still paranoid about their daughter driving by herself.. it makes it more difficult.

@rangerr so you only dated in college then? thats sucks i guess. Ive never spent my birthday with a girlfriend. They’ve always had something better to do. kinda sucks.

my bad for digressing.

Thanks all, glad to see that i fight entirely too much with my “love interest” i suppose you can call her….

Over the last 7+ years we have many disagreements and no fights. We talk. One time, when the subject was very volatile we passed a “talking stick” between us to help us structure the discussion, and it never turned into a fight for that reason.

@rangerr No.. we dated his senior year of high school. That birthday, we were in school then he was at work. I pretty much embarrassed him at work with balloons, but I had to go out of town for a meeting that night, so I couldn’t be there with him.
I still feel guilty about it..ya know?

Hmmm—usually it’s about the distribution of housework. I do this and that and this and that. Yeah, well I do that and this and that and this, and it takes longer.

I never say this, but I think ‘that’s because you’re so much less efficient.’

Usually this is preceded by days of glowering sullenness. We’re really good at the passive-aggressive fighting.

It’s been better with a counselor. Now she can bring up these issues during our sessions, and we can sort it out in a neutral place. I really am trying to give her more of what she wants, and it seems to be working, since she’s a bit warmer in bed.