For those of you married or in long term relationships do you think you would still choose your partner today if you were to meet them today?

For some reason I read that as you are 22 and have been married 7 years…whoa.
In answer to your question, I am in the longest lasting relationship I have ever been in, 8 months. And abso-fucking-lutely I would.

@mponochie Although I understand the feeling you are having right now my answer is still Yes I would. I just love him so much I can’t imagine feeling any differently. Not to mention he is still quite attractive ;).

Married 25 years, and I know how lucky I was! Absolutely!

In the time my spouse and I have been together we have both been through a lot and both of us are not the same people we were when we met.

I like to think of us as much better- especially myself. I have matured and learned that life is better shared with a soul mate you can trust. We both have varied interests and sometimes we run along parallel paths but we always meet in the middle.

If we were to have met now I am certain we would be attracted to one another instantly.

Conversely if we could have gone back in time into our pasts and met as teens I am not as sure we would have been attracted to one another.

I was a young punk artist who liked living in the shadows away from the crowds. My future spouse was working at a nightclub, Since I don’t dance I doubt we would have met up or hooked up.

Definitely. I am lucky to have found such a wonderful guy. Nobody else compares. So yes, I would absolutely still choose him.

well, things have changed. The person that was responsible for getting us together is dead. Makes it kind of difficult, and being 27 years later, well, do I know them as well as I do now, or not? tough question with no clear cut parameters. As a random guess, yeah, probably, she has that certain je ne sais quoi.

In a heartbeat. he is the best thing that ever happened to me. I adore him and he still treats e like a princess.

3½ years in. The fact we hit it off the first time was due to my curiosity. I don’t know if I would have the patience to get past a bad first impression now, though he may not give me one this time either. Based on personality, yes, definitely yes.
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I honestly doubt it – but after twenty one years with my wonderful wife, I know there’s a lot more to “love” than first impressions.

In my previous long-term marriage (together 20 years, married for 17), we both agreed that we would not have chosen each other during the last 10 or so years of marriage. We had grown apart that much. Eventually, it was too much, and we went our separate ways. I am remarried (4+ years), and so far… absolutely. Like @Dog‘s example, we would not have been a match made in heaven had we met earlier in our lives, but we are now.

Yes I would. He’s amazing in so many ways. I’d totally go for him again.

I am a sort of a loner. I like my own company so for me to be with someone is a want situation more than a need one. My bloke and I have been together 11 years now and I love and like him as much as I ever have anyone. So despite the fact he annoys the hell out of me sometimes (and he says the same although I find it hard to believe that I could be annoying) I’ll keep him.

I would. I would also do many things differently if given the chance. After 18 years together both of us have done things we aren’t proud of. Who doesn’t in any long term relationship, right? I am grateful that the two of us have had the patience to ride out the storms because I feel that I would be lost without my partner in crime.

@Dog It’s interesting that you bring up meeting in the past. My husband and I did meet at a young age (20 years old), but when we met we found out that we hung out with the same crowd during our high school years. I always wondered what would have happened if we had crossed paths then. I’m sure we may have hooked up, but I doubt that we would be where we are today. I’m so happy I didn’t meet him sooner!

This is hard to imagine for me. But when I think about it, if I were looking now, I doubt if I would see my wife. I’d be looking for someone younger.

A lot of the reason I love her now is because of what we have been through together. I’m not sure how to picture this. Would she have the personality and interests she had when we first met? Then I would definitely be interested. If she had the interests she displays in our marriage, I wouldn’t be interested. But she wouldn’t be like that if we weren’t married, so she would probably be someone who attracted me a lot, if I gave her a chance.

I kind of feel bad about this answer because I want to be one of those people who would instantly say, “of course!” On the other hand, I don’t think it would have mattered who I married. By this time in the relationship, if I were single, I would be looking for someone different from the person I was currently married to. In fact, if I were single, I don’t think I’d want to marry anyone. I’d be either a loser or someone who can’t commit (which some might think is also a loser).

I’ve been married 4 years now and when we met we were both in similar places. Now however I have a career and she decided to go back to school. If I met her now I would definitely pursue her, but she would probably have a college boyfriend I would have to circumvent first.

Yes, I love him very much and my feelings have grown in the time we have been together. I have not been interested (not even vaguely) in anyone else since being with him which leads me to think that I would still be interested in him if we met for the first time now.

Absolutely

Hands-down, without a doubt I would. I’m so incredibly lucky and he’s my reminder everyday how amazingly beautiful my life is<3 Awh, I love you Boo!

Wished I had met my wife sooner in life….

I’m actually divorced, and yes, I’d still have picked her because I didn’t know then what I do now. And on the outside she’d still seem great. Now obviously if she’d had this marriage with someone else (with everything that followed) and I was another guy who just met her today in the situation she’s in right now, I’d probably be suspicious.