I wrote him a letter telling him how much I like him. Should I send it? I dont know what to do.

I’m getting the impression you’re a man.
If he doesn’t like men sexually, that’s all there is to it and you would need to accept this to move on.
The letter is not likely to yield the results you want.
If he’s attracted to men already, you’re not going to change that.

edit: If he’s not attracted to men already, you’re not going to change that.

you say that you haven’t told him that you’re bisexual, but to me it seems like he may already know. if he keeps talking about girls, it just might be his way of getting you off his mind or trying to put a front up with you(maybe he figured from the way you were acting with him that you wanted more than friendship, its usually a pretty easy thing to see- be it in a same-sex or opposite-sex situation). i say that the best thing to do is to tell him face-to-face. don’t do the letter thing, it seems kind of creepy and childish. if you don’t feel like you can tell him up-front then try the telephone, at least that’s better than a letter.

Consider the letter as therapy for you. Do not send it. I repeat: Don’t send it.

I’m of the mindset that if someone is clear about their sexual orientation, you should accept it until you hear anything else about the matter. Like, if you become good friends and he confesses he’s attracted to guys or gives some sign that he’s interested in you. To not do so is disrespectful to the person and, having been on the receiving end of unwanted opposite-orientation attention (after being clear I’m not interested in that gender), I can tell you it’s very irritating.

So, no, I don’t think you should send the letter and I also don’t think you should tell him you’re attracted to him unless you’re prepared for a negative reaction and/or the consequences of doing so.

Unfortunately, telling him how you feel may ruin your friendship, so I suggest you don’t send the letter.

If he is 100% hetero, that would be about the scariest thing you could possibly say to him (straight men are weird like that). I suggest SUBTLY letting it slip that you’re bisexual at some point just to get the idea in his head. (Talk somewhat negatively about a date you went on, maybe, and use “he, him, his..” multiple times.

“His car was utterly filthy. I told that there was no way that I was doing anything in there with him! It didn’t go over entirely well. I know I probably should have gone for it but I just can’t stand when…”

Pretend that he should have known about your bisexuality all along. Don’t give him a chance to be weirded out by it.)

Do not hang your heart on this. He can be great eye candy and a great friend without being in a sexual relationship with you.

Keep the letter.

I thinking the letter is not a good way to go. Instead, the next time you two are sitting around talking about women; what you have done, what you would like to do, who’s hot, and that sort of thing, make sure by the conversation he knows you are in to women. Then ease in a story of a past experience involving a guy. See what his reaction is. Typically at this pointy you may here something like, I’m not in to that, or what ever makes your boat stay afloat… Alternatively, you may just find that he wants to no more about your experiences. Either way, you will spare your feelings from a possible negative reaction to your letter.

Thanks guys for your advice.