What am I supposed to do when my most BEST friend is turning into a meaner (mean person)

There’s no such thing as a perfect person. It’s why we’re humans and not angels.

I don’t think the important part is her and how she’s acting- the important part is what you’re going to do about it. You can’t control what she does so you have to figure out if her behavior is something you want in your life.

Talk to her and tell her how you feel, in a kind way. Then ask her about her behavior. She might have a valid reason and could use some support. You’ll never know unless you ask her.

thanks @gemiwing I’ll try but she get’s offended really easily : (

Maybe she has some undetected health issues, or family problems that she’s not discussing.

Or maybe you’ve assigned attributes to her that are in your head, and aren’t really her. Are you sure you fit her description of a “perfect” friend?

I didnt mean she was a perfect friend I meant theres no such thing as a perfect friend, but also everytime I see her she’s always complaining about her family but after I talk to her she always seems happier but when she isnt complaining its like she’s mad at me : (

I sounds like she’s using you as therapy. Sometimes relationships cross boundaries where too much familiarity alters the relationship, and not for the better. I just had a situation where I offered to help a long-time friend (30+ years) out with an event they were planning, and somewhere in the execution I crossed from being a friend to “hired help” (even though they didn’t pay me) and that role didn’t sit well with me, and I said things that a friend should be able to say, but hired help should not. Things are very strained, and there is no going back to the way it was before.

Everyone here who is perfect, raise your hand. All relationships are constantly changing, for better or for worse.

What is she doing now that is different from before. What do you mean when you say she’s meaner? How has her behavior changed? Maybe you could describe and interaction from before and then how it goes now.

meaner means a mean person, mean people, sometimes semi-mean
I dont really know how to describe how she changed but she did =(

I feel like her therapist

I can’t help if I don’t know how she is behaving. It is possible that she could be moving into some mental illness, but without knowing what you’re talking about, there’s no way to get an idea. In any case, you may want to urge her to get checked out just in case.

When friendships begin to become wearing, perhaps it’s time to take a break for a bit, or put parameters on the relationship. Perhaps limit what you do with her to planned activities, perhaps with others, and see if that helps. If her family problems are real enough, you may want to suggest she see a therapist to help her work through them, and that she be screened for depression.

I dont think she has an illness… maybe
sometimes she insults my beliefs without knowing i can\cant blame her
she literally kicks my sister back then now she kicks me sometimes
once she slapped my father because he was teasing us (in a playful way) but she claims to be playing
idk what to do maybe I will take a break but thats already happening,
she never calls me,
but when she does as soon as I get the phone she always says: hold on (its kind of annoying)
I’m not giving up on our friendship though
help!