@valdasta The word nationalism conjures up some negative ideas in my head, I prefer to say I am patriotic and grateful to live in America.
America has a long history of asking people what they are and where they are from. My Mexican brother-in-law and his Scottish boyfriend (who both came to the states about 15 years ago) were talking to my sister and I about this. They dislike when people ask them what they are, or where they are from. They see it as rude or maybe that someone wants to prejudge them. At one point in the conversation the Scottish one said, “but it wasn’t always like this here, that people asked where you were from.” My sister and I looked at each other, looked at him, and at the same time said, “yes, always.”
The history in America is not the same as other countries. I don’t know if there is another country in the world that was founded on the idea of a country of new immigrants. Of course there are other countries in the Americas, but their history is slightly different. America actively solicited and accepted new immigrants, ”...give me your tired, your poor, your huddled masses yearning to breath free…” we still do it today. We accepted them on the premise that they too would be citizens of the country, equal in every way (of course our history is not perfect and we missed this ideal at times, but I would maintain that when people were treated poorly and discriminated against it was unAmerican). Now we do not so much solicit, but we still see ourselves as a country that people seek to live in for new opportunity. Now, certainly other countries are seen the same way at this time in History.
When I ask where are you from? I am not secretly saying, I’m American what are you? I’m thinking, where are you from, you tell me yours, I’ll tell you mine. I think stories of coming to America are interesting, courageous many times, not to be hidden or thrown away like they never happened. People should be proud of the journey their families have taken.
Meanwhile, I too play a game when people ask me where I am from or what I am, because they are many times trying to get at that I am Jewish, and since they don’t just come out and ask my religion, I don’t tell them. I say I was born in Washington D.C., and if they press it I say my family was from Latvia and Russia.