In your relationship with your spouse or S.O., which one of you is the dominant (aggressive) one and which is the submissive (passive) one?
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November 2nd, 2009
I know that ideally each partner would be 50/50 in the relationship. However, from what i have seen there is often a dominant partner and a submissive partner.
This seems to hold true for sex-capades, too. there is often a more aggressive partner and a more submissive partner, and these roles can switch too. In your relationship, who is the dominant one and who is the submissive one?
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Hubbs and I really are 50/50. It just depends on the situation.
I wear the pants in my relationship. Unfortunately they are the real kind.
He and I trade off organically. As far as sex goes, he’s the dominant one most of the time.
Outside of the boudoir, we’re equal. When it comes to sex, I’m the more dominant one. which is a huge turn-on for the both of us.
Usually clair is more dominate, she makes a lot of decisions, but it doesn’t bother me at all. I’m laid back and pretty much just go with the flow. If we both try to be dominate we usually butt heads.
We are equal. There is no dominance or submission.
It’s different depending on the situation.
well, as im in the dog house at the moment there is only really one answer to this at the moment.
My wife is the dominant/aggressive one in our relationship. She has much stronger preferences as a general rule, and is more prone to anticipate outcomes and form expectations. All this means that she’s heavily invested in how things work out; when things don’t turn out as she imagined, or her plans fall prey to the unforeseen, or somebody screws up, it upsets her. So she invests a lot of energy into trying to keep chaos at bay.
I’m very different. I take what comes. I rarely indulge in expectations, so I’m not taken aback by how things turn out. I don’t try too terribly hard to circumvent the unforeseen. I relinquish control easily to my wife (except in domains that I feel are my prerogative alone) simply because the outcome usually matters a lot more to her than it does to me.
in bed, I’m dominant… otherwise, we seem to be on a pretty even keel except for the few times he actually has a really strong opinion on something, which isn’t often, so 9 times out of 10 it goes his way in that case.
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