Is it easy for you to turn the other cheek?
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November 2nd, 2009
Inspired by The Compassionate One
http://www.fluther.com/disc/60054/what-is-it-that-makes-it-difficult-to-turn-the-other/#quip880718
A lot of people I know tend to hang on and hang on to real or imagined slights or hurts. For some reason, it’s easy for me to just let them go. There are instances in my life where people have hurt me, deeply, but I don’t dwell on it. Basically, I can forget about it. So many people can’t. I wonder which one would you be? Any insights as to why some can and some can’t?
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If I’ve been deeply hurt it’s extremely hard for me to forget about it and move on. Why? Probably because the only people capable of hurting me that deeply are the ones I love the most. So I get scared that if people I love are capable of hurting me like that once, what’s going to stop them from doing it again? I already guard my emotions, so once I let my guard down and someone has hurt me… It’s really hard for me to trust again. Probably has a lot to do with my childhood.
@NewZen I’ve noticed that about you.
To me, turning the other cheek implies a ‘real time’ response, whether it’s passively accepting the situation (turning cheek) or proactively opposing it (firm cheek?). I generally get in the thick of any conflict I’m embroiled in, so turning the other cheek (from a ‘real time’ perspective) is generally not an option.
i can be very forgiving, but quite vindictive too. it depends what mood im in really. or what happened.
its pathetic of me i know, but i still have grudges against people who did me wrong long long ago. and i do plan to have my revenge some day. on the other hand i have forgiven people for worse things with ease.
@FutureMemory Even in real time I can usually let insults just roll on by. Usually.
It’s hard but I’ve been practicing. I’m getting better.
@gemiwing I think it’s better for you emotionally if you can manage it…good luck!
@Val123 Oh I’ve got years of practice. Eons it seems sometimes. I just don’t like to say I’ve stopped healing… seems too much like having growth stop.
I really cant hold on to my sadness or hurt. If someone hurts me I will be a little wary around them for a little while, but I will eventually frogive them.
Nope. I beat a dead horse like its going out of style.
My future husband will be one lucky, lucky man ;)
I believe that each event is a learning opportunity. I actually relish people who oppose or restrict me for they are the forest through which i can see the path of success.
I can pretty easily turn the cheek when someone hurts me…but if they hurt someone I love….my husband, my kids or my parents…I will never forget! thats being honest
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