What should I do about my friend?
Me, and my friend got in a bad fight, having to do with her boyfriend and other things. Her boy friends a sleaze ball, and I’m just trying to save her from getting hurt again. I said stupid things that I didn’t mean to her, and I said sorry. She wouldn’t accept my sorry, She wanted me to mean it. So I told her that what she did wasn’t right either, and that I’m not going to bow down to her, and say sorry. We went a day of not talking, and seeing each other.. and it was too much for me I decided to be the bigger person and say sorry one more time and I really meant it this time. Except that she had a wise rude comment back to me after I said sorry and completely ignored what I had just said. It made me feel so sad that she didn’t even care what I just said. I argued with her for a while, and she just gave me a one word answer, and went to bed. She never said sorry. I know that loosing a friend over this would be out of the question, and she obviously doesn’t care. I need help from fluther. I’ve tried everything! Please help, Thank you very much
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Perhaps just leave it for a little bit. Either she’ll realise she needs to talk to you, or she’ll realise her boyfriend is an idiot and need your support. Just be there with open arms when she comes around.
give it time. it’ll be ok. she’ll figure out he’s a douche but she’ll have to do it on her own.
Like the brilliant three people above me said, give it time. She’ll realize. Time will also show her that maybe this guy isn’t right for her. You saying that is one thing, but her realizing it on her own, is another.
I hate it when you apologize to someone and they say you don’t mean it, and ask for a “real” apology. That’s really petty behavior. Saying sorry to your friend more than once has just made her more and more rude towards you- she’s manipulating you to keep the upper hand in the situation. Whatever you decide to do, change tactics, because apologizing again and again won’t help.
You know, it is normal to get in fights with your best friend, about their boyfriend. My best friend, told me that my boyfriend was a jerk, and that he was starting to mess around. We had been together for such a long time, that I didn’t want to believe her. But I should have. Now, I know that I should listen, and ask some questions. Just remember, “love is blind” That’s where she is stuck at.
If she loves this guy then it will be very hard for her to hear anything bad about him. If you are 100% sure that her boyfriend is not right for her and you have valid reasons other than your own opinion (ie: he is cheating on her for example and not just because you, personally, don’t like him) then you were a good friend for telling her and trying to save her the heartache.
Give her time is the best advice. I wrote a friend of mine a letter after a falling out once and it worked. She read it in her own time and let it sink in. We are friends again now and haven’t had a falling out since.
Sometimes being the best friend means having to watch your best friend go through something you would otherwise avoid. As the best friend, you will be needed when the stuff hits the fan. Sometimes they have to come to the point where they say for themselves, I have had enough. It will always seem like that time will never come soon enough.
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