Advice about anxiety problem?

i think many of us feel this way. there may be a better medication for you just for awhile. talk with your doctor

The right kind of therapy can help you re-frame your thinking and diminish the anxiety. Drugs can sometimes interfere with treatment for anxiety.

It’s just that I thought, “well after im done with this exam thing I’ll be fine” but it’s worst, I feel like very “adrift”, like where do I go now, what do I do now.. You know the cancer issue actually made me realize how I always used to take things for granted, to realize how uncertain life is… I just dont know how to deal with things… this sucks

1 Talking to a friend about it just tell them how nervous your are about something. Talk about it with them then you will get the perspective of someone who isn’t nervous about doing that thing. I found that picking peoples minds about how they thought about things and following what they did was a good way to initially learn how to over come some anxiety. After a while it becomes you and you can adapt to make the teqniques your own.

2. The second is analyze the absolute best and absolute worst outcomes of an event. Lets say you have test anxitey the absolute best would be you ace the test. The absolute worst would be failing. What happens for each well if you do good on it you do better in the class. If you fail the test you might do not as well in the class or fail the class. But its not the end of the world. Usually you do something inbetween and don’t have anything to worry about.

3. Anxiety is generally future oriented and depression is past oriented. Learning this helped me through almost all of my anxiety problems. You worry about what will happen you never worry about the past you are depressed over things in the past. If you keep your mindset in the present it can help eliminate anxiety. Yes you might have to deal with something in the future like a test but thats for your future self to do. Think about what you can do now to better prepare yourself and do it. Keep yourself busy doing something where you can’t worry about the future. If its something you can’t prepare yourself for find something to keep your mind in the present. solve a puzzle juggle keep your mind so busy that it forgets it has to do that in the future. after a while you start doing it subconsciously. and the anxiety dissipates.

I don’t know if this is what your looking for, but this is advice someone gave me to deal with anxiety.

I haven’t tried Lexapro but some other medications really made things worse for my anxiety and depression. I had to try several ones to find a combination that worked for me. It was worth it for me to keep trying. My brain was driving me nuts too but now it’s much better with Gabapentin and Ativan. Hope that helps. Best of luck!

i have read that gabapenten is being used for many more things than it was developed for., to help epilepsy. i am taking it for nerve pain from broken vertebra. do you feel a little stoned all day? and sorry- i’m ruining the thread but i did answer before

i’m just full of things i need to say!! my aunt used to stay what doesn’t kill you makes you strong.

Gabapentin is replacing Depakote because it doesn’t metabolize – it passes unchanged in your urine, whereas Depakote can be hard on your liver.

You need to find a therapist that you can work with. They can help you work through your anxiety and find things that work for you to reduce anxiety in the moment.

Another thing is that some medicines don’t work as well for some people as others. Part of the reason there are so many on the market is because different ones work for different people. If your medication isn’t working for you and you think a medication might help, you could try a different medication that might work differently/better.

Paxel really helped me during a very stressful time. I had that same thing, with the brain constantly going, and not being able to relax.

Definitely see someone about this. Therapy and/or drugs (the right one for you) can do wonders! There is no need to live your life in this fashion… please get help.

Lots of us on Fluther have similar issues, so always feel free to get some support here, too.

@Lorenita, I would definitely find someone to talk to. You’ve had two intensely anxious events overlap each other—your mom’s cancer and the bar exam—overlap each other, and while cause for anxiety has abated, the awareness of lack of control has replaced something concrete to worry about. Almost everyone has struggled with this at one time or another to varying degrees, as is evidenced by this well-known quotation. Medication should help keep things straight but therapy will help you manage what you worry about and how you worry.

BTW, congatulations on both passing the bar and on your mother’s improvement. And welcome to Fluther.

I wish I didn’t have to take medication… I really do hate Lexapro, I wish I were more mature or stronger to face these issues, Lexapro makes me feel absolutely numb, like If nothing matters. It definately helped me go trough the exam because It made me feel like ” I don’t care whatever happen will happen”, but at the end It just masks things.