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You people who have lost weight- how did you do that?

Asked by trailsillustrated (16804points) November 5th, 2009

I am doing one meal a day- dinner. I drink a carnation instant breakfast in the morning and maybe at noon, then eat a normal dinner. It’s working but I’m pretty hungry. I drink water in between to try to feel less hungry.I never have energy anyway but I’m feeling pretty tired. How did you lose weight? and manage eating with your family who were not trying to lose weight?

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erichw1504's avatar

Everyone’s body is different, so people lose or gain weight faster or slower and by different methods. I wouldn’t recommend skipping meals, though, that’s not very healthy. Try eating 3 or 4 small meals instead of one big dinner. Also, exercise, find something you enjoy doing that will make you sweat (perhaps swimming) at least three days a week for 30 minutes or more. If that doesn’t work, try asking your doctor.

MrGV's avatar

Wow that has to be the worst diet ever…You are most likely putting a strain on yourself
1. EAT breakfast….it helps your metabolism throughout the day
2. Not drinking water will put you in survival mode
3. Eat 6 times a day to boost your metabolism (3 snacks = apples bananas orange 3 meals cereal real lunch and a light dinner)
4. If you’re not working out you should start.

aprilsimnel's avatar

Yes, eat real food, especially at breakfast. I find that eating a good breakfast keeps me from eating too much over the rest of the day. Proteins and fats produce a feeling of satiety, so it’s OK to have some of those, but get it from nuts and natural sources and not the 99ยข burger at McD’s.

Eat more veggies! It’s OK to have a big leafy, veggie-filled salad at lunch. You need the nutrients that food provides. Stay away from processed foods and white carbs and sugar as much as you can. I joke about nomming on bacon, but I don’t eat that stuff so much anymore.

Ironically, the sugar substitutes like Splenda and Equal seen to keep weight on as well. Cut out diet drinks and Snackwell-type foods, too.

Meagainandagin's avatar

I started cycle 22 miles per day, going to the GYM and eating healthier.

rockstargrrrlie's avatar

I eat a serving of a cereal with lots of fiber every morning for breakfast- usually something like a special K with red berries or Fiber one. This usually keeps me full for a little while. I drink a TON of water- at least eight glasses a day, and usually more than that. I started buying more fresh fruit and veggies to enjoy when I was craving something sweet or a snack. I also work out 5 days a week.

kevbo's avatar

The times when I have lost weight were due to significantly increased physical activity. I wrestled in high school and dropped 20 or 30 pounds. I lived without a car in Seattle and dropped about the same amount. I did bicycle delivery for a month (about 6 hours per day) and dropped 10 pounds that month (which I gained back the following month. As an adult, the best weight loss was my time in Seattle where I walked every day in the course of my regular schedule.

While I haven’t fully adopted the regimen, I’ve come to understand that Weight Watchers is probably the best method to lose weight, and it’s backed by a lot of research. One advantage is that it retrains you on better eating habits and also gets you to look at your food triggers. So, it’s really about adopting an improved outlook on eating (and exercise) by taking some very manageable steps. It is great for deconstructing and decoding the modern food landscape—sort of the antidote to all the “bliss point” engineering that is put into today’s food. It also helps ensure that you’re eating a healthy mix of “the right” foods.

The last thing I’ll say is more of a personal revelation… when you think back to the “futuretalk” of the 50s (or whenever) and how modern man wouldn’t have machines do our work for us and we would be able to have more leisure, etc… well, when you stop and think about it, we’ve reached that point with food. We have more food calories available than we need (but instead of eating less, we are manipulated into supporting the health of the food industry by buying and eating more calories). So we don’t have to worry so much about wasting food or making sure everything gets eaten other than maybe adjusting our shopping habits. Plus, it gives a sense of freedom to start eating better by choosing better calorie sources. A friend of mine put it another way. She said when you eat too much, you’re wasting food twice because you are eating food you don’t need and then you have to do extra work to lose the weight.

MissAnthrope's avatar

You’ve got the eating schedule backwards. I was always taught: eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince, dinner like a pauper. Basically, you want the bulk of your calories early on in the day.

Exercise is really the only thing that’s worked for me, as I have a very slow metabolism. However, there have been times I dropped 20 pounds without thinking about it, but that’s mainly due to not eating (not purposely, just wasn’t hungry), and I don’t recommend that.

casheroo's avatar

I lost 55lbs after giving birth (only gained 50lbs)
Some of it was easier, and just came off from giving birth, but I had to work for the last 25lbs.
I ate lots of fiber, and walked. That’s basically it. I also rarely drank soda, which I think had a major role. Oh, and we switched from shopping at a chain grocery store, to going to Trader Joe’s. The temptations are such healthy alternatives, and I found myself trying new healthy things for meals. There’s too much junk at a normal grocery store, and I hate that we shop there now :(

poisonedantidote's avatar

3 proper meals a day, some snacks in between and the occasional treat combined with burning off more calories than i eat.

last time i tried to cut down how much i eat i made my self feel very weak and unhealthy. i need a good 3000 calories a day.

inkvisitor's avatar

Yes – eat more whole foods (and more often/earlier in the day) and increase physical activity if you can so your metabolism can even out. While all people’s bodies break down food differently, it can’t help your metabolism any the way your diet is at the moment.

gailcalled's avatar

I need 1500 calories to maintain weight and 1200 to lose. The exercise issue is now up for debate. Moderate exercise make you feel better, reduces stress, keeps you fitter and trimmer but may be unrelated to weight loss. Source is the NYC, and they do cite the studies. Comments from readers are interesting.

http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/11/04/phys-ed-why-doesnt-exercise-lead-to-weight-loss/

faye's avatar

i lost weight easy as can be with dr atkins a few years ago. now i have osteoporosis. i knew intellectually such a severe diet coulbn’t be all good but it’s so easy.

erichw1504's avatar

Kirk Lazarus: What do you mean, “you people?”

janbb's avatar

I’m “dieting” now or rather slowly trying to get my weight lower. I don’t have a lot to play with as I am short and don’t need many calories. When I’m being “good”, I’ll have yogurt, blueberries, banana and a few walnuts for breakfast, hummus/veggie pita sandwich or small pb&j for lunch and a homecooked veggie or fish concoction of some kind for dinner. I do walk several times a week and do water aerobics. The two places I tend to shoot myself in the foot are eating out too much and/or noshing on candy.

MissAusten's avatar

I’ve lost about 20 pounds in the past three months by working out for an hour three times a week, cutting out the unhealthy snacks (my own baking, for example), and being more careful about portion sizes. I also used to eat a snack before bed, like a bowl of cereal, more from boredom than anything else.

My workout has been with a personal trainer, which helps me out a lot because I’ve never worked out before. She has me doing all kinds of things to help boost metabolism, like alternating the treadmill or elliptical machine with other exercises. I’ve had to buy new jeans, and they’re already starting to droop on me. :) Even during the weeks when travel or sick kids have prevented me from getting to the gym more than once, I’ve still lost some weight.

Usually I have cereal for breakfast, half a sandwich, yogurt, and fruit for lunch, and some kind of lean meat, veggies, and fruit for dinner. I drink a lot of water. No soda. And a lot of good coffee! If I get hungry between meals, I have a banana or some whole grain fig newtons.

As for family meals, lunch is usually just me and my youngest child, so I make myself something quick and healthy and give him a typical “kid” lunch. Dinner isn’t so bad because we always have fresh fruit and vegetables. I just watch my portion sizes. I don’t turn down dessert on special occasions, still have a cookie or two when I bake for my kids, and still use real sugar in my coffee. I want to get into better shape, but I don’t want to be miserable!

LKidKyle1985's avatar

I stopped drinking beer 5 times a week, and then started eating the proper regiment of meals during the day to help my metabolism and drank lots of water. lost 15 pounds doing that (175 to 160) in a matter of about 2 months. Now that I’ve gotten back into my 2 meals a day routine, im back at about 165. If I worked out or Ran, it would probably significantly improve the rate that I lost weight, and def burned the fat and built some muscle.

trailsillustrated's avatar

thanks, everyone, for the really good ideas. !

gailcalled's avatar

My breakfast is either ½c. steel-cut oatmeal, 1 T flaxseed, some cinnaman, 6 prunes, sunflower seeds and a pinch of dried, unsweetened coconut…in winter

Or in summer, ½ C. lo-fat cottage cheese with fresh, unsprayed berries and the flaxseed and cinnamon. A large mug of tea with skim milk for all seasons.

nikipedia's avatar

My completely unscientific opinion is that portion size is the largest contributor to weight gain. The difference between how much food we need and how much food we can/will eat in one sitting is enormous.

I think you are probably torturing yourself unnecessarily with this starvation diet. If I were you I’d eat a little bit of exactly what you want, and if you’re still hungry, fruits and veggies.

hearkat's avatar

I’ve lost ~35 pounds. I eat whatever I want, but I eat smaller quantities and proportionately fewer simple carbohydrates. I also move more… going to the gym, swimming, hiking, walks with friends, etc.

Deprivation diets are so unhealthy, you feel miserable, and you rebound even worse. I approached this as a lifestyle change that I am making progressively, rather than a short-term attempt claiming to get quick results. It took me many years to get this far out of shape, it’s unrealistic to expect to be in shape very quickly. Love yourself and respect your body.

smack's avatar

i’m really really lazy, so dropping weight has always been hard for me – fortunately, i’ve been able to stick around 125 for the majority of my life. for me, there are a few simple rules:

1) walk: take the stairs, go the long way, etc
2) stay awaaay from soda
3) don’t eat bagels
4) don’t drink soda

hope that helps at all :)

kellylet's avatar

If you have time it is smart to make one change per week. First week drink more water, second week cut out white carbs, third week etc…

Writing your goals and what you eat is important. Also note when you are triggered to eat “bad stuff.”.

Be patient and if you falter don’t beat yourself up or give up. Just be ok with it and go on with your life.

Plan. Plan. Plan. Think about when you struggle and how are you going to get out of your own way. Ex/ I never have time for a real, high protien breakfast so rather than buy dounuts everyday I keep almonds around. Plan meals and it’s ok to have your whole family eat what you do.

Also if you get tired of plain water but don’t want soda try brewed and iced teas in fruity flavors- they are so good you don’t even need sugar.

….now if I could only do this for myself!

hungryhungryhortence's avatar

I do what my Grandfather swore by all his long life, cut the plate in half- eat half of what you’d really like to take and then swill down water in between meals to keep hyrdrated and to gauge if you’re really still hungry after eating. Also, you might try these things:

no added sugar to food or drink
no juices
no sodas
no sport drinks
no pasta
no bread
no rice
no potatoes

*it’s not a lot of fun but it works

trailsillustrated's avatar

I never was overweight before, this happened in the last 2 years, I don’t eat fast food or dumb food. I think it’s inactivity and menopause sorry about the tmi. Thankyou again for all the great and helpful info.

FutureMemory's avatar

I’ve lost an assload of weight over the last few years. Let me see if I can find the post, will edit this one with a link when I do.

drdoombot's avatar

@trailsillustrated Don’t take it as an insult, but the approach you’ve taken is a testament to how poor health education is in the US. I didn’t know anything about it either until I went out and researched it myself. One interesting thing I learned is that the greatest experts in the world on fat loss are bodybuilders; their careers depend on having as thin a layer of fat as possible so they can show off their muscle definition in competitions. They have figured out how to focus on losing fat and not the things you want to keep, like muscle.

On the most basic level, fat loss should be easy: just consume less calories per day than you burn. But the human body is sophisticated and that approach is too simplistic. One thing you need to do is get your metabolism working. There are two ways to get your metabolism going: exercising and eating. Yes, eating. Every time you eat, you jumpstart your metabolism. When you don’t eat, your body, evolved over millions of years to survive in tough situations, triggers a “starvation response.” When your body doesn’t receive enough fuel, it anticipates a long period of starvation and starts holding on to your fat stores more strongly than ever, instead catabolizing your muscles. However, you want to keep your muscles! Your muscles are burning calories when your sitting at your desk, when you are sleeping, etc. The more muscle you have, the more your body is working when you’re not moving. So, the goal is to eat enough to prevent your body’s starvation response so you can keep your muscles.

So how do you turn all of this into a weight-loss plan? First, you have to figure out how many calories you need to eat per day to stay at the same weight you are now. The most accurate way to calculate this figure is by learning your body fat percentage and plugging it into a formula. You’ll need skinfold calipers to ascertain your body fat percentage, but most people won’t bother with this so I’ll give you some broad numbers:

Maintenance
——————————-
Men: 2700–2900 calories
Women: 2000–2100 calories

Losing Weight
———————————-
Men: 2200–2700 calories
Women: 1400–1800 calories

These numbers are highly generalized, and you’ll see better results if you knew your own precise numbers. These numbers happen to correspond closely to my own figures; I currently need approximately 2749 calories for maintenance (because I’m considered “lightly active” in going to the gym 3 times/week), so I’m currently restricting myself to 2199 calories per day.

Now that I know I am limited to around 2200 calories a day, I roughly split that number into 5–6 meals, approximately 400 calories per meal. It is extremely important that you eat this many times a day, because each time you eat, you are jumpstarting your metabolism. Since you are eating so few calories, your body ends up burning almost all of it, with virtually none of it being converted to fat. With time and exercise, your body will burn your excess fat stores. It’s important to note that even when you reach your weight goal, you should still try to limit your calorie intake to your maintenance level so that you stay at your ideal weight.

Counting calories is tough, but doable. There are a number of websites that make counting calories easier than ever before. I happen to like fitday.com because they seem to have more of the foods I eat frequently. But you should definitely check out dailyburn.com and sparkpeople.com to see if they fit your eating habits better. You might have noticed that I said nothing about eating healthier and that’s because I don’t really need to. A person who is counting her calories starts paying attention to how full she getting from the 400 calories she is allowed in a meal. After a while, a person will get so sick of eating 4 chicken nuggets or half a burger that they start choosing healthier foods because they are much less calorie dense. A huge salad will hold you over until your next meal much better than a slice of pizza.

Diet is by far the most important factor on a person’s weight, but exercise is important too, if only because it is an additional boost your metabolism. You are forcing your body to burn calories when you do aerobic exercise like walking. Your heart is a muscle that can only be worked out by aerobic exercise and there is no one who does not want their heart to be strong. When you do weight training, you build the muscle your body needs to metabolize calories efficiently and constantly. Never forget: muscles burn calories when you are doing nothing, so it’s important to pack on at least some muscle so they can work for you.

I realize there is a lot of information to digest above, but it can condensed into the following general points:
-eat frequent but small meals
-avoid calorie-dense foods (like sweets, white flour and fried foods), so that you’ll feel fuller
-do weight training to build some muscle
-walk at least 30 minutes every single day

trailsillustrated's avatar

@drdoombot thankyou so very much the helpful post. ps- I didn’t come to the us until I was an adult!

FutureMemory's avatar

This is my approach. Considered extreme by many, but it worked/is still working so I stand by it 100%. Apologies for the rambling writing style, my brain is funny that way

link

MissAusten's avatar

I have no idea if this helps or not, since I haven’t tried it, but my personal trainer says drinking one cup of hot lemon water each morning helps to boost your metabolism. I’m always skeptical of these kinds of claims, but she said a lot of the trainers show knows (and many of them are very serious runners/bodybuilders) swear by it. This is also the only tip of the kind she’s ever shared with me. I just keep forgetting to buy lemons. Pour some hot water into a cup, squeeze in the juice from a quarter lemon, and drink it. I once googled “hot lemon water” and found a lot of articles (using that term loosely) extolling the benefits of lemon water. None of them commented on how well it would go with my morning coffee(s). ;)

I’d also ask a doctor for suggestions. I think it’s normal for your metabolism to slow down as you age, for women in particular. There might be some natural, healthy things you can do to keep your metabolism up.

kellylet's avatar

The prevention magazine website has amazing tracking tools

rockstargrrrlie's avatar

I forgot to mention a lot of tips in my first comment. I gained appox. 15 pounds in the first 3–4 months I lived in Los Angeles- I moved there exactly a year ago on November 3rd. In the last 3–4 months, I’ve lost almost all of it. I was about 2–3 lbs away from my original weight when I weighed myself on Monday.

In my case, I tried quite a few times to lose the weight once I realized how much I gained. I failed everytime because I wasn’t truly committed- I would try crash dieting and end up eating lots of quick and fattening snacks because I was hungry. I would go to the gym and not do a full work out because I was “tired” that day. The difference in the last few months is that I have been fully committed. I chose a time frame that I wanted to be back to my goal weight, and a reason why- I’m going to two weddings this month, one of which is full of friends who haven’t seen me in awhile. I want to look my best for these events. I found that setting definite goals was a huge help for me.

I also try to cut out a lot of temptations- my friends and I like to have BBQs frequently, but they are big fans of soda and beer. In the past, I’d indulge in soda while at a BBQ (not a beer drinker at all) because there was no water nearby. Now I take my water bottle everywhere with me so that I’m not tempted if someone offers me a soda or other sugary beverage. Because it’s a 32oz bottle, it also means I’m able to get ½ my daily water intake just by finishing it once!

wildpotato's avatar

I try to keep in mind how much better I feel when I’m in shape. I have a few tricks:

From the great nutritionist Michael Pollan: “Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants.” Link.

Also, eat slowly. Keep in mind that it takes about 20 minutes from swallowing food for you to feel your fullness level from taking that bite.

I’ll add to drdoombot’s list the iPhone app LoseIt. It’s a great little calorie-counter program, with a bunch of extras.

trailsillustrated's avatar

@wildpotato thankyou for such an interesting and thought-provoking article. I really appreciate it.

gailcalled's avatar

@trailsillustrated: Better yet, read Pollan’s books.

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