Your boyfriend is different from your dentist in terms of call priority. If you disagree, then it sounds like your boyfriend is a pretty low priority. At the very least, I think you should have a good talk with him (and with yourself) and discuss how you want things to be.
In any case, I think you can forget about normal. If you are bothered by his presumption, then you are bothered. However, if you expect him to read your mind about this….. Well, you get the idea. You could tell him what he did is not good as far as you’re concerned, and you don’t want him doing that again.
And no, I don’t think you have to get super-excited every time you see him. It might be easier if you just try to be yourself, and express whatever feelings you have that are true feelings. If he doesn’t like that, then too bad. Maybe you aren’t a good match.
I think that when people ask questions like this, they are looking for validation for a choice they’ve already made. Maybe someone has already accused them of being whatever, so they need to find support for their position.
Well, relationships are not about voting about the course of action. Relationships are about communication and enjoyment and partnership and commonalities. No one should have to change their true selves for someone else. If they do have to, it’s a bad sign for the relationship.
But I think you should never apologize for who you are. Never ask what is normal. I used to do that, and screwed myself up the wazoo. In fact, I still am. Doing the wazoo thing.
You are who you are and you can’t change that much. Most people, it seems to me, are happier if they nake peace with it and do what they need to do to keep their lives livable, being as kind as possible in the process.