I'm bisexual but I know my mum thinks I'm gay and will not believe I'm bisexual how can I convice her?

Casually leave lesbian porn open on her computer?

It sounds like you’re projecting your feelings on your mom. Did she tell you she thinks you’re gay or is this an assumption? Just tell her you’re bi. What she wants to know is if you like your same sex.

The elephant is in the room. Someone has to point it out because pretending it isn’t there won’t help.

Tell her to think what she wants. Why does she need to be convinced? You are who you are, and you don’t need your mom to believe anything other, perhaps, than you love her and are a good person.

it doesn’t really matter if she doesn’t believe your bi, if she accepts you as gay, chances are she’d accept you as bi too no? be confident in yourself and she can believe what she wants, it’s your preference anyway, not hers…

Why does it matter?

This might seem like a harsh question, but it is actually very important. My mother doesn’t really believe bisexuals exist. My friend’s mothers thought his coming out as “bi” was an insult to them because he couldn’t “handle” coming out all the way or something.

The reason it matters to her—the reason she doesn’t believe you—also dictates how you should talk to her about it since it obviously does matter to you.

I agree with @EmpressPixie and do not know why it matters.

Just live and enjoy your life. If your mom will not listen to your words she might accept what she sees.

You are going to find that there are many people who won’t want to believe you are bi. They all have their own agendas, some political, some emotional, some sexual. Forget it, @Meagainandagin, it’s Chinatown.

Just bring boys home sometimes, and girls home sometimes. Actions speak louder than words (though you should try to keep your activities quiet).

Who cares what she thinks. It’s your life.

Show up with a date.

@DrBill
my bf does want to meet my mum and tell her her son wants boys. If my bf believes i’m really gay my mum will never believe I’m bi

why do you care? is it because you think your mom will handle this better if she knows there is still a chance for you to be living a “straight lifestyle”, if so, that is your own problem you have to deal with.

@airowDee
Dee it’s because I want her to know the truth.

Step 1: Tell your mom, in some vaguely related conversation about you and perhaps a date you went on previously.
THEN, if she doesn’t believe you, well… oh well.
To be honest, if your mom accepts you as gay, the hard part’s over. Even if she doesn’t believe you, it really won’t come up as an issue until you do find a solid relationship with the opposite sex, when she’ll be a little confused.

You have no control over what your Mother thinks and believes. You only need tell her your truth, and then let her think what she will. There’s no magic bullet that will make her see things your way. So tell her what you want her to know about you, and give up trying to control what she thinks about that.

I suspect this has more to do with the history of your relationship with your Mother than it has to do with this current event. You’re not going to fix a relationship that has had miscommunication and misunderstanding for years—maybe even decades. You want her to really understand you as you understand yourself. That may not even be possible. Like I say, all you can do is be yourself. Maybe one day she’ll get it, but you have no control over that.

Sean? Is that you? :)

Listen, have you told her before several times and she still insisted you were gay? It’s these kinds of people I don’t understand. They’re receiving the truth, the deep feelings of another person, of their own child, and they still won’t believe it. If my parents were like that, I would be furious. Like others have been saying, there are some people who are so set in their beliefs that they will never be convinced. You don’t have to do anything crazy, you don’t need to make out with a girl and a guy in front of her, all you can do is continue to tell the truth and if she doesn’t believe you, that’s too bad because then she never will. There are some minds you simply cannot change.

You’re sure she’s just not flirting?

You can bang your head against the wall for years trying to explain to your parents your sexuality, asking them to HEAR you and it won’t do any good – so just let it go and live your life