Need friendship advice. Am I blowing this out of proportion?

Is the concert for a group/singer she wanted to see, or is she agreeing so that you won’t have to go alone?
I think it makes a big difference. If she’s excited to go to the show, and is getting a free ticket, I think she should drive her butt to you. But if she’s just being a good friend and going for you, pick her up and thank her for going with you.

@Likeradar I don’t really think that should make too much of a difference, but shes excited. I def. didn’t have to talk her into it. And she hasn’t even OFFERED to pay for the ticket. (Which I would have done, at least if anything out of politeness.)

I would just tell her you don’t feel like driving any extra distance if you don’t have to. No big deal,..

I would be upset also. I used to have a friend that tried to frequently pull the same kind of crap. Don’t stand for it. She’s already getting a free ticket. She should be thankful!

Do I need to mention that I don’t handle situations like this very well?
Its really hard for me to stand up for myself. So confronting her and saying.. hey bitch, this won’t float -... would be really, really hard.

It’s not worth getting upset about.
Why can she not meet you at the concert?

@The_Compassionate_Heretic I have no idea. Nooo fucking idea. And its on a tuesday night! So it won’t be because of traffic.

I’m horrible at sticking up for myself too. I can usually only give people a piece of my mind in a text message. Maybe you can try that?

I don’t understand why it has to be drama. Just tell her no, meet you there.

@bagelface Its not drama.. Its just hard for me to deal with these situations. Not to mention shes been REALLY avid about not meeting me there. For whatever reason. This is just flustering me.

Eh, forget it then, just go by yourself.

@pinkparaluies If she doesn’t want to meet you there, it doesn’t sound like it’s that important to her. Maybe ask someone else?

@The_Compassionate_Heretic Thats what I was thinking.
I just found out that two other friends of mine are going. I might meet them and have dinner before we all carpool to the concert.

If you want an excuse to cushion things for you, tell her that you can’t afford to spend that much in unnecessary gas, since you already spent $40 in tickets.

@pinkparaluies Have a good time. ^_^

Well I basically just told her that I have to pick up a friend that lives 15 minutes away my direction. (Even farther away from the concert) I don’t really think its fair of her to be asking me to do this.
The fact that she didn’t even offer to pay for her ticket is miffing me, anyway.

@pinkparaluies Call me paranoid but it seems you have literally responded to every other person’s post on this thread but mine. Is there an issue? I’m just trying to help. Being ignored doesn’t exactly inspire me though…

@ItalianPrincess1217 Oh of course not! Its because I’ve agreed with everything you’ve said :P Haven’t had to clarify haha <3

@pinkparaluies Oh! Well in that case, keep ignoring me! My misunderstanding :)

She lives two hours away, she is willing to drive almost to your house, and she wants you to pick her up there, then drive her to the concert, then drive her back, so she can drive the rest of the way home?

That doesn’t make sense to me. That makes a lot of unnecessary work for you. I can see why you would be upset.

But it also seems like it makes unnecessary work for her as well. How much have you talked to her about this? It seems like she might have a good reason that she hasn’t communicated effectively.

@petethepothead Well like I said earlier, she drives like a maniac. I told her earlier that it would take me fourty+ minutes to drive to and from our meeting point. But she tells me it would only take 15…

I think she doesn’t really have a good point for all of the work. Its just silliness for no reason.

@pinkparaluies She should have offered to pay for the ticket, you’re right, unless you presented the concert as something you wanted to take her to. My point was if she sees going to the concert as a favor to you, you should be partially responsible for getting her there especially since she lives a while away.

I’d be better to take a more logical approach and have her suck it up and drive the entire way as opposed to you already buying her a ticket, then having to waste gas money on top of that by driving back and fourth. You didn’t have to ask her, you could have asked someone else, but you want her to go, she agreed and is now complaining about the travel aspect. I think you have a right to be upset about it.

Maybe she doesn’t have gas money??

Tell her you don’t have the extra money for gas, and it would be really out of your way to do that.
Or say you’re not getting off work until right before the concert, you said it’s tuesday, and she would have to drive herelf if you both want to make it on time.

Yes, you seem to be blowing this out of proportion. Tell her it’s too far out of your way to pick her up, and thank her for coming to the concert with you. Unless there’s a really good reason for her to need a ride that she hasn’t articulated properly, If she gets upset with you about that, then it will be HER that is blowing things out of proportion. Not your problem.