Should I risk asking someone out?

Whats the worst that could happen ?
Just ask her and see what happens its the only way to find out , go up to her and just ask her . If you stay friends too long chances are thats all she will see you as.

“you know, i could not help thinking how well we get on together. what would you say to a date?”

Well, there is never a perfect timing, I suggest you go out and hang out together, you will know if she likes you back from the looks and smiles, it is usually how we girls let guys know we are interested. If it all does happen, then well, all you have to do is ask her out, it doesnt have to be fancy or big, it is not a proposal afterall.
Good Luck

@Roory Thanks, that’s what I was thinking. It’s nice to have a woman’s opinion on matters such as this.

@pikipupiba anytime dude, and if you need anything else, you can always ask, or message me if it is something more specific
Good Luck again

You can ask her casually if she wants to hang out, get a cup of coffee or something. It doesn’t have to bbe a big deal (even though it is to you, of course.) She’ll get the message.

Oh wow, I’m going through the exact same crap as you right now.

I’m a college sophomore and I recently lost a year long relationship. It blows big time, but I’ve been trying to move on. I have this one weekly class. In it is this girl I befriended and am rather interested in. Now I don’t want to flat out say, “Wanna date?” because if she’s not interested in me in that way then I don’t want to make the rest of our friendship or at least the rest of the semester awkward.

So I’ve been playing the safe card. Have conversations, get to know her (remember what you hear!) and build on that friendship. Make advances that be considered “friendly” at first. For instance, I enjoy pool. So instead of asking her to a movie or to dinner, I asked her if she wanted to play a game. A social activity that bonds us a bit, but nothing that she should feel awkward about. Sadly, after that is the hard part. I think one of the biggest signs is if she prompts to hang out with you. That she wants to spend time with you. Make your time together memorable so she’ll want to spend time with you.

But that’s just my opinion. And I’m just another lovesick fool.

Best of luck to you. I know what you’re going through.

Just be honest, ask her… I did this recently and although I was rejected, the guy was really sweet and flattered all the same. It has given me the confidence to ask someone else if the moment pops up…and now i’m not thinking..what if all the time….

It’s my personal opinion that if you think that she’s interested in you at all, just go for it. Do it casually. She probably won’t decline. It’s not worth NOT asking and missing out on a great relationship…ya know? Do it do it!

If she isn’t ready to progress to that stage, she’ll likely NICELY tell you so. Otherwise, the very worst thing that can happen if you ask her out is she’ll say no. There’s no electrocution or pointing and laughing involved. And if she’s already interested, she is probably wondering what the holdup is.

Read this book (although some people prefer the original edition).

There is no right or wrong time to ask (as far a length of relationship.. obviously a family member’s funeral would be the wrong time).

The worst possible outcome is that she says no. If that happens you are right back where you started and you haven’t lost anything. If she’s really a friend and turns you down there’s no reason you can’t still be friends.

I remember how hard it was to go up to a girl and ask her out when i was a freshman in high school… until a friend of mine told me: “you’re nervous about asking girls out.. you think girls aren’t nervous about being asked? you think they get all dolled up for the hell of it? they are just as nervous as you are if not more… the best thing you can do is to be calm and make it as stress free for her as you can… she’ll be releived and grateful. Wether or not she says yes… this will probably shift things in your favor.”

Since that day i never had trouble asking anyone out again… never got stressed and did pretty damned well. Give it a try.

Rather than asking people out, I subtly slip my crush on them into conversation. If they act totally normal or more into me, I reckon it’s mutual, or they’re thinking about it. If they at more distant, I know they’re not interested. I think it’s easier cause I’m a girl, so when a guy catches on that I’m into him he’s more likely to act on it than a girl is, in your case.

It’s all about how you ask, if you tell her you like her and she acts weird, just act completely normal and she will too. If you act weird, it is more likely to be weird.

Girls are receptive to how guys are around them. I’ve been known to assume guys who pay attention to me want me, sometimes erroneously. If you just pay her a lot of attention she might very well suspect your interest.

She said yes!!! (just an update. didnt want to leave u hangin. hehehe)

@pikipupiba Great to hear! Have fun!

Aw @pikipupiba congrats!

well done!! and congratulations xxxxxx

congrats! I’m curious, did you these answers help you?

I don’t really remember if I used these answers (sorry!), but I do know that she apparently had the hots for me from the moment she saw me, she just sucked at showing it.

I’d say go for it. Tell her how you feel. At least that way, you’ll have a specific answer. If she says ‘yes’, well there you have it! If she says ‘no’, you can always let her know that you can continue to be friends… Life’s too short man… Go for it!