Do you feel guilty?

Guilt pangs are normal for the Catholic. But usually I get over them pretty quickly. I’m doing my best.

I feel guilty about a lot.
Am I okay with it? Not really. It takes a toll on me daily.

All the time, I live in a weird constant state of guilt… and no, it really sucks

Yes, and no I’m not OK with it.

Not really, no.

To put it simply: no. I feel guilty about certain things from time to time, but I do not have a constant feeling of guilt and I don’t feel as if I should, either. Sounds pretty awful to me. I’m fine with my life and there’s nothing to be guilty about.

Absolutely.

No. Only certain memories, which can only be triggered by certain events or certain other memories, can cause me to feel guilty. Usually it’s just regret. Maybe I am too egoistic to feel guilty. Hurrrr.

you can only feel guilty if you have a consience. I hate my consience. I have yet to kill it.

I do have moments of guilt now and then. I think it is easier to forgive others than it is to forgive myself.

Man I’ve tried to live a meager life wondering why exactly I deserved any more than the homeless person. Never ever use credit and buy my vehicles under $2500.

In the past year, the guilt has actually turned around. I pick up my kid from school in a beater van when all the other parents have mostly newer nicer cars. Obviously the repairs on an old junk car can eat away at the finances and my kid has started asking why “our” car has so many problems.

Money is not the issue. My stupidity is the issue.

The guilt turned around when I felt guilty about embarrassing my child. He wants to be proud of his father and I should not deny him that right. I also realized that my job was to set an example to others and be the very best person I could be. That means keeping myself and my possessions clean and well maintained. I look at things differently now, understanding that it’s not so much a matter of whether or not I deserve more than the next person, rather than if I’ve actually earned the privilege or not. A false sense of entitlement is an ugly beast. A false sense of impoverishment is even uglier.

So, three days ago, I had the salvage yard come and tow my junk vehicles away for good. I bought a (used) shiny black sports car and can’t wait to pick the boy up from school tomorrow. Do I feel guilty about that? Not at all. I earned it.

I most definitely do not feel guilty, it’s called taking responsibility for your own actions, not so much a guilt thing as it is trying to do better and do your best, that’s all that matters imho is that you are trying your best. If you are not trying your best then yes you should feel guilty. That’ just my take on it.

@OutOfTheBlue

That is precisely the discovery path I’ve been on for the past year. You are absolutely correct.
“If you are not trying your best then yes you should feel guilty.”

I don’t feel guilty any longer. But I do feel stupid for feeling guilty in the past.

I have some things I feel guilty about, yes. But I’m not going to beat myself up over it. You learn to cope & move on.

I feel guilt at times. It does not rule my life, but it is there now and again. I dont know if I really deal with, I just kind of push it to the back of my mind and try to block it out.

In the past, yes, for stupid decisions that I made. Now? Nah, guilt free.

not guilty

I don’t think anyone who has raised their kids to adult hood can ever be free of guilt, even if it’s over relatively minor things…meetings missed, tempers lost, the nights you didn’t spend very much time tucking them into bed, mistakes made.

I feel guilt often, but it’s tied to certain memories of situations I cannot make amends for. In the past year or so, I have decided to just live my life. If I feel guilty about something, no matter how long ago, I talk to the person involved and apologize for wrong doing on my part. I’ve been calling it living without regret. And since I’ve taken the time to accept everything I’ve ever done and making amends for those I did not feel good about, I’ve been doing great!

I grew up catholic, so I definitely have some unwarranted guilt I’m trying to overcome. As for real guilt, there are few bad choices I’ve made in the past, that I do carry a bit of guilt over.

I feel guilty all the time, about everything… even things that have nothing to do with me! I realize it’s ridiculous, but can’t seem to break it. I’ve learned to accept that it’s just part of who I am, but I don’t let it rule me. Like so many emotional things, I feel it, recognize that it’s irrational, and move past it into logic. Takes a little longer for me to get there, but I do. Works for me.

@augustlan That’s understandable because everything IS your fault! So, what did you do to make it so hard for me to find a job???!!!

I do not feel guilty! In general. Sometimes I feel guilty over little things though for extended periods of time. I hate that feeling. Eventually I have to make things right and get it off my chest, and then it really does feel like a weight has been lifted.

@Val123 I wish I knew, then I could fix it! I can’t find a job either. :(

Nope. I have no reason to feel guilty.

@augustlan We can cry on each other’s shoulder…you use career builder and stuff? What about Kelly Temp services?

No, I am as innocent as a newborn lamb. On second thought, maybe it isn’t a newborn lamb, but Charlie Manson. Shit! I can’t remember.

I’ve made amends with mistakes – quite literally in most cases, by apologizing to people affected. Regarding my personal life, angle and direction, I have nothing to feel guilty about. I am not subservient to a god or church, and feel no guilt for enjoying life.

But it’s that last part that does make me feel guilty. Being able to enjoy life. Being able. I’ve realized that my disdain for a materialistic culture is selfish, perhaps rather ego-minded. I’ve learned to look into myself and realize that I’m no better than they are. I smile, and that’s enough to make me feel guilty.

I really appreciate everyone’s honesty!

Thank you for sharing your humanity with me.

:-)