What is the best way to break up with someone?

Quickly, honestly, in private, without ego or bullshit.

Go out the back Jack…

I don’t want to be with you anymore Then walk away in a cool fashion without looking back.

There is no good way. There are only bad ways. Of course, some are more bad than others (texting, emailing, voicemail, for example)

“best way?”

I do not understand.
Does it mean without hurting yourself?
Without hurting either parties?
Are you looking for speed?
or to be able to be friends afterwards?

The last guy I dated and I just stopped calling each other at the same time. It was pretty much ideal.

Make a new plan, Stan.

Text:“Sry we r over”

Lol just kidding. Face to face of course.

Thank you guys so much for your answer’s it goes great into my research. i think that it really depends on so many factor’s..Length of relationship, how deep the connection was.

Thank you all so much again,

xoxox

Nicole

Get a sex change.

Don’t need to be coy, Roy.

“The problem is all inside your head,” she said to me.
“The answer is easy, if you take it logically.
I’d like to help you in your struggle to be free.
There must be 50 ways to leave your lover.”

If you do it in person, gently but honestly, and with much consideration, the person will hate you less in the long run and you’ll feel better about yourself. BE GENTLE. Especially if you think the person will really be hurt. Saying something like, “We’re not right for each other, but I still think you’re fantastic” can demonstrate your concern in the matter. It’s so much better than, “I don’t love you anymore. You have 2 days to pack your bags.”

Edit: Another response reminded me to say that it’s nice to be there in case the person has questions. You don’t want to just say “it’s over” and flea the scene. Give the person some sense of closure.

Well, the last time I broke up with a guy, I invited him to a neutral place a diner between our houses that I could walk home from so that neither of us would have to deal with the other after it happened. I told him that it was time for us to go our separate ways because I had changed a huge amount since we started dating and that was that. As @MrItty said, there is no good way to break up with someone, only less bad ways. I’d say the best of these is to meet in person, on neutral territory and just do it. As a famous lesbian witch once said, “A vague disclaimer is no one’s friend.”

On a “Post it Note”...(some of you may remember where this is from.) Just kidding.

1. Don’t drag your feet. Short and sweet.
2. Don’t say, “We can still be friends.” Because they will keep hanging around and still have hope. After two years, when you have moved on, then…maybe.You can have a laugh share some memories without the pain.
3. Don’t say, “It’s not you, it’s me.” Because it was her/him…or you wouldn’t be breaking up.
4. Don’t make excuses….just say it, “I don’t think this is working….and I feel that we should end our relationship as partners.” (If you are spiritually advanced…this can change or be transformed into something higher..other than partners…if not, just let it go. Don’t promise to come for lunch or meet once a week, as that just drags the healng process on and on.)

5. Break up in a place that is private..not in a restaurant or at her house. Neutral territory.
6. After the break-up, write a letter and thank them for the wonderful qualities they brought into your life…..wait awhile….but that brings some closure. Wsh them well and that they find someone to share their future. Be nice. Really nice.

Breaking up is painful….but if you do it quickly, then it ends up hurting less in the long run.

Introduce her to your new SO.

@KatawaGrey : I know that witch! “If you hurt her, I’ll beat you to death with a shovel.”

“I am breaking up with you. Don’t call me. Don’t text me. Don’t stalk me. Don’t tweet me. Don’t friend me on facebook. It’s over. Goodbye.”

@RealEyesRealizeRealLies

Have you been drinking or something?

Bowling Alley. Friday Night. Beer Flowing. Cigarettes glowing. You make a bet with your best buddy. If he beats you tonight he can date your girl. He’s never beaten you. You take a dive. Lose by 14 pins. You make it look good. The dame is his. You are now free. She loves him. They have kids. You did everyone a favor. And smell like a rose.

Change the locks.

@RealEyesRealizeRealLies: Really, what’s the deal?

@Sueanne_Tremendous: Perfect!

My son’s gf broke up with him by TEXT MESSAGE!
That is the lowest of the low.

Homer, on the Simpsons, said a card with the words “Welcome to Dumpsville. Population: You!”

I think the important thing to do is to express that it isn’t about love, or even like. It’s that you feel it won’t work out. I have been in love with women who I could never marry, because it couldn’t last. My wife was the first woman I loved where I knew it wouldn’t end up badly. (not that I didn’t try to marry others… I was soooo lucky)

Like you’re taking a Band-Aid off.

NOT. TEXT. MESSAGE. grrrr djfkskdlkfs

I’m a fan of slowly vanishing.

Just listen to me: hop on the bus Gus.

I kind of like the slowly vanishing idea, of course I am also partial to the “it’s not you, it’s me” approach. When I told my ex I wanted a divorce I said “the door to my heart is closed.” Yeah, it sounded cheesy then too.

Not by text message, that’s pure cowardice. I usually am as honest as possible, balanced with trying to avoid hurting the person. Nothing wrong with saying you care about the person, but don’t feel the relationship has a future, or that there are incompatibilities, or that it’s just not working out.

I think it’s possible to be friends with your exes. It can be hard in the beginning, so sometimes I take a break while I move on. Several of my best friends are exes.. why would I not want to stay friends with someone I like a lot, think is cool, admire, etc.? As a bonus, they know me really well, and there’s a much bigger comfort zone for me there than with most people.

no need to discuss much

Just be aware that you are dealing with someone’s feelings whom you at one point or another cared for and speak accordingly. Be honest and direct, don’t let it drag out and be final. Offering any kind of hope is leading them on and is jut cruel. You will hurt them.. but you decide the extent of how much you are willing to do so.

Not through Facebook, email, or a text. It has to be face-to-face.
Don’t do it in front of others. Relationships are a private thing.
In general, do not try to place blame.
Be calm.

Be direct about it, and don’t act like everything is normal when you greet the person, and then say, “I think we should break up” ten minutes later. This is a hard one to describe, but basically—through your actions, give the person warning. Don’t sit down, have a coffee, ask how his or her day was, and then drop the bomb.

Alternatively, manoeuvre the relationship into the point where your boyfriend/girlfriend breaks up with you. I prefer this, because the burden of guilt and breaking up tactfully is then on them.

It really depends on why you’re breaking up – if they have done something to hurt you, go wild and end it with drama – if the reason is a quieter one, face to face and be honest

@johnpowell Slowly vanishing is evil. Just evil! Do you know how many sleepless nights I had because that was used on me. :’(

@jonsblond I’m guessing 3?
I keed with lurve

So I guess dropping off the key isn’t an option? Poor Lee…

@Dr_C 4. but I’ll lurve you aneeway.

Text message breakups are awesome.

That’s all well and nice, but what if the reason you want to break up is because after almost one year of relationship you’re pretty sure your partner doesn’t share your level of caring or commitment to the relationship. (This is not hypothetical)

There must be 50 ways to leave your lover…...

@Haleth Thanks for giving me one more reason to go to YouTube. I subscribed to Liam show