Do you have to 'friend' someone on facebook to read messages sent?

yes

yes, you can send messages to people without being their friends.

No you don’t have to friend them. You can send and receive messages from someone you are not friends with. I do that often when someone tries to add me and I have no idea who they are.

@RedPowerLady do they get a ‘friend invite or anything? or just the message?

@trailsillustrated Just the message. I think it is awesome you don’t want to put that pressure on your daughter btw. Cool mom ;).

@RedPowerLady thankyou, I don’t want her to feel pressured! I just want her to hear me and be able to answer without it being censored. Thankyou, again

@trailsillustrated no problem :)