"Why does this guy talk to me when we're alone, then ignore me if others are around?"?

Breathe.

If he can’t talk to you when you’re both around his friends, then I have to ask, why is it that you like him? I wouldn’t want to give so much emotional energy to someone who is nice only when it’s convenient for him. Don’t be one of those people who pines for the unattainable (emotionally or otherwise) person, or any person who, for whatever reason, isn’t responding positively to your interest.

Its a waste of time and a drain on your self-esteem. Just be cordial when he speaks to you, and keep going. There’s a guy out there who you’ll like, who likes you and will be open about it.

Show interest in him. There’s a girl I’m currently going for at my college. We have a class together and walk towards the parking lot together after which. But she never takes any initiative to talk to me. I always have to break the ice. Once I do we have wonderful conversations but if I don’t say anything she won’t. Because of which, I tend to easy off on my advances, simply so that if she doesn’t feel that way about me, I don’t make the rest of the semester awkward between us.

So show interest in him. If he’s interested, he show more back. Try to strengthen your time together using your friendship. Do things with him outside out of class. If you are afraid he’s not interested and will find you advances weird, you can use friendship as sort of an…excuse I guess? I dunno.

The thing about relationships is that everyone is afraid to break the ice. Sometimes, you got to just step up to the plate. I feel it’s always better to get rejected then to go on never knowing.

Best of luck to you.

Why not just ask him what the deal is? Life is too short for guessing games.

How old are you both. Guys in HS, by and large, are shy, immature and terrified.

@gailcalled also in college… in the workforce… hell even some in “assisted living” facilities.

@gailcalled I agree with Dr_C. As a college student I’m not to ashamed to say I am shy, immature and terrified. Women can be as well though.

It’s all about facing those fears.

Do any of his friends have girlfriends? I’m guessing not. Talking to you when he’s around his friends will probably get him teased.

The best thing to do is when he’s with his friends, take the initiative and be friendly to all of them. Say hi first, use their names.

You know, I’ve been following this thread and I see where I might have been too hasty in my advice. I’m not there to observe this fellow and it was a bit quick to jump the gun and say he’s clowning you. @PandoraBoxx gave some very kind and empathetic advice.

Women can be so scared of men hurting them emotionally that we can get into a defensive posture when it’s not necessarily called for. So being nice to all his friends first is a good idea. We women don’t understand how hard it is to be a guy when other guys feel as though they aren’t supposed to have emotional needs and want relationships, especially when they’re teens and young men.

If you do make friendly overtures (like you would with your own pals) and they’re unacknowledged, then I think my earlier advice stands.