She wants to be friends. What should I do?
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November 12th, 2009
She found someone else, but says she still cares about me. I love her, and I can’t seem to cut myself off, but I also can’t just be friends. It’s making me sick.
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tell her the truth. in time, you’ll be able to be friends. you just need that time. if she really wants to be just friends, she’ll give you that time.
I assume this is about a recent breakup?
End the relationship in all forms. No contact at all for a while. When you’re over the initial hurt and can be truly friends with her without it hurting, you’ll know. It might take months or even years, but trying to be “friends” with her now will make life sucky for you.
Be friends. It will show her you are a good guy. If it’s meant to be, she will come back to you. If it doesn’t, then you just get a good friend. Win-win.
Watch The Office and learn from Jim.
eek, if she’s not just being polite then…hang in there for as long as you can bare… but if it makes you feel so sick I’d be tempted to move on and be kind to yourself…
Nope. No relationship is worth making yourself sick like that. Wait to be friends and stay away until the feelings have worked themselves out of your system. She’s moved on. Don’t torture yourself.
Run away.
Eventually she’ll discover she is still mad about you and will start looking for you again.
She’s trying to let you down easy. She might not really want to be even friends.
What she’s saying that there is no hope of future romance between the two of you.
It’s best for you to move on if the relationship isn’t happening.
No problem now. She’s gone beyond the friend stage to the “get fucked” stage. It’s very rough.
Wow, that was fast! breaking up really can be extremely painful, there’s no easy way through it, just got to ride it out, not much consolation though is it
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