Why are we so uncomfortable seeing our parents cry?

Could be a stronger bond????????

I am comfortable with my mother when she cries.

Our parents were always the ones who we saw as strong, they were the ones who helped us when it was us who cried. Seeing them cry sort of breaks that illusion of invincibility.

For the very few times I’ve seen it, it was odd. I think because it happened so few times that it was a bit of a shock and also, it was my parents who comforted me when I cried; I expected kids to cry, but not the parents. As a kid, I remember thinking that adults never cried; they comforted the kids who cried, but they didn’t cry themselves. That probably had something to do with it.

But to be honest, the last time it happened, I was expecting it (my grandmother had just died) and so it wasn’t a shock, and I didn’t feel uncomfortable at all. It made me want to cry too. And I had rarely cried in front of my parents as a teenager.

@Ivan Oh. My. God. Ivan has a different avatar… What is this world coming to?

Because our parents are supposed to be able to handle everything! Or thats what we think when we’re little anyhow. So you kinda keep that mindset, I think. It’s just an odd thing to see. They’re usually the ones comforting you when you cry…not the other way around. I’ve always thought it was a really sad thing to see.

My mom is highly emotional. It is easy to remain straight faced when she becomes so because of the callous that has formed.

If my dad were to cry it would just be too peculiar to be upset about.

i could never watch my father cry without having to withdrawl and release my sympathy tears elsewhere. My father was a man of granite, and rarely showed emotion like that. when it did, it was over something that strong strong man was unable to bear. We weren’t supposed to cry in our house.

@DominicX Haha, I know. Apparently I started a trend, too.

I don’t know why it’s uncomfortable, but it’s one of the few things that makes me cry.

My parents never cry, so when they do, there must be something seriously fucking wrong. I think I only saw my dad crying when I was younger and my parents got in a huuuge fight, and that was really hard. And then my mom’s cousin lost her son and she cried about that. I remember that well. I was really scared and uncomfortable seeing my mom cry, because it’s like parents are always supposed to have it together. She only got a little teary, she wasn’t even full out sobbing or anything. I can’t imagine seeing her like that.

I’ve rarely seen any of my parents cry and it’s kind of an understood and courtesy thing that if any of us get teary over a subject or situation then we don’t look each other in the eyes, we don’t pry unless the person wants to share and we refrain from trying to cheer them up, just let them be in their own way.

I’ve only seen my father cry when there’s been a death be it human or pet My mother is emotional, and I’ve seen her cry many times. I’m even more emotional than her, and can cry pretty much at the drop of a hat. Crying doesn’t make me uncomfortable.
I will say though, it is odd seeing my father cry..because you know it has to be bad..same if he’s angry. He never gets angry unless there’s a good damn reason. It’s rare.

I’ve had a pretty good life, nothing traumatic has ever really happened. On my list of bad experiences though, was watching my mom cry about a few things going on in her life. It’s something I will never forget as long as I am alive.

@le_inferno i legit cannotttt imagine aunt becky crying about annnything… that’s so weird.

Nothing weird about it, you are connected to her..

aw man when i see either of my parents cry it breaks my heart because thats who you were raised by and your parents always tell you to be strong so once you see them break down its like you feel you have to be strong for them;-( </3

I never saw my mother cry, my whole life, ever. But in Jan. I saw my father cry for the first time, when my mother passed away. I didn’t know what to do. I just sat there with him, and hugged him.

I’ve only really seen them cry when they’re drunk, I usually walk away. Just because I know its non-sense

I’ve seen my parents cry a bunch of times. And I’m a parent and I cry a lot. I have great compassion and empathy for my parents, but I don’t feel uncomfortable (or go run to wash the dishes or mop the kitchen floor) like when I was little.