Why is it that I can continue to be treated like crap in a relationship, and I still come back for more?

I don’t know, but I often feel the same.

unless you are dependent on this woman to live ( in that case you just pull that string on the top of your head up, down, up, down ) you should leave. Some people are just unpleasable asses, and their lives are all about them. They are always right, everyone else is stupid. So unless you are dependent on her for everything, maybe you should get out.

Make positive strides to improve your self esteem and you’ll learn to stop letting yourself be taken advantge of.

Have you talked with her about it? Not at a time when things are going out of control, but at a moment when things are okay? When things are not okay, it’s too easy for things to become an escalated argument. You need to have a discussion about this, and not a fight.

It sounds like the relationship has hit a fork in the road, and you’re either going to have to re-evaluate where the map is taking your or perhaps you’re going to have to come to a parting of ways and go in different directions.

You tell us…you must enjoy the vicious cycle of up and down emotions that it brings…

Suppose you just haven’t met the right one who appreciates you – thats if there is a “right” one – I have no luck either !

Trust me here, You are not alone. Welcome to being a guy.
@ModernEpicurian and @kathyyorks Welcome to Fluther. Lurve.

You most likely feel the need for her acceptance. I used to be a similar relationship (but I’m a girl). It’s very unhealthy so I suggest talking things over with her. Explain exactly how she’s making you feel. I have to warn you though, it’s a very hard cycle to break and in the end it might be best for you to walk away. Depending on how much hell she has put you through, even if she fixes her behavior, you might never let go of that resentment of what she’s done in the past. Before making any hasty decisons, tell her how you feel and take it from there. Good luck :)

I’m with @ItalianPrincess1217 on this one! GA

take an objective look at your personality, habits traits and qualities and try to determine if you are indeed crap. then base your decision from the results.

if you are, learn from it and grow. if not, well… i say go.

I’m in a relationship and I seem to constantly get made out to be the bad guy or made to be in the wrong.
Are you being told you are wrong or is that your frustration for not understanding what needs or wants your woman has in relation to your own?

I do nothing but try my hardest for this woman and do every little thing in my power to make it work but I feel like I just come out worse for wear everytime.
Are you feeling this way based on what she says she’s looking for from you, do you tell her what you want from her, do you tell her how important she is to you that you are trying in the first place for a serious relationship?

Am I the only person stupid enough to do this?
No way and it’s not to do with stupidity unless she is verbally and/or physically abusing you and then that would mean she’s not worth your efforts whether she accepts them or not. You feel unappreciated and probably unreciprocated. Again, have you said what you want from her?

Will things ever change?
They might if the two of you talk and are honest about what you each really want from each other and then decide if you can be that for each other. Could be you want this more than she does and she’s just making time because she can’t yet justify cutting you loose. Maybe you feel that way about her that she’s not your optimum choice but you are stubborn to try and make something serious anyway?