Men: Do you care if your wife is "put together" every day?

A man should think that his wife looks good no matter what she’s wearing.

@holden 10 GAs for that one!

“Look great” does not equal “hair done, make-up, nice clothing”. My favorite hair “style” is messy (especially, mussed from just having got out of a tangle with me). Make-up seems best to me for occasions – I like to see her most of the time as she is, not paint/powder/whatever. I like women in comfortable clothing too, especially shoes. Some comfortable clothing can be very tasteful too, though some can also be sloppy. Sloppy sometimes is fine, though I wouldn’t like always tasteless/sloppy… though if I loved someone and didn’t like her taste in sloppy/tasteless clothes, I’d talk about it and see what we could do about that.

Hmm… I don’t know that I care. Does that count? I feel like it’s hotter when women seem not to put it together but still look cute. :~)

I simply prefer her to be her everyday.

Clothes and cosmetics are for little girls playing dress up.

I wouldn’t want her body parts laying all about.

@PretentiousArtist LOLOLOLOL!

She is always beautiful.

Sorry – just sounds like Humpty Dumpty to me.

My husband wouldn’t have married me if he cared. I’m in t-shirts and jeans/lounge pants 95% of the time. He gets excited if I so much as wear a headband hahaha…

I know this is directed at men but- I am a stay at home wife. I am expected to: have the house tidy. Not be in a ragged dressing gown by lunch time, not a torn up hoodie. hair styled, (brushed and tidy or how I usually do my hair), clothes that I can leave the house in, go to lunch in or the shop, face presentable ( for me that is a little make-up so I don’t look like I just got up) legs and nether regions hairless ( here is where I sometimes go on strike). One time when for about a week I didn’t take care of my hair and slogged around in torn up hoodie and jeans I got seriously chatted….

@trailsillustrated: Who expects those things of you? Do you put those expectations on yourself to provide some structure? Did you and your partner decide them together? Did he (or she) ask you to do those things? How do you feel about needing to follow those expectations?

what do you mean, got seriously chatted?

@hannahsugs it’s complicated. long story. it’s okay, really. it’s pretty good. chatted = talking to

@trailsillustrated Whoa! He & I would split the sheets in a hurry! I wouldn’t put up with that for a minute! How controlling!

My husband appreciates my looks when I AM all done up, but he’s just as happy when I have no make-up on & my hair isn’t done. After 44 years of being together, we’ve seen each other in every way possible. We are each other’s safe place to fall & we don’t care WHAT we look like! I don’t/won’t wear sweats. I hate them. I’m always in jeans & a nice looking shirt. I wear t-shirts to bed. If I have to run out somewhere at the last minute, it doesn’t take me 15 minutes to transform myself to go.

@jbfletcherfan yeh well. It’s not hard, my hair’s easy and I don’t wear alot of make-up, takes 10 minutes or less. yeah well. it’s ok. 44 years wow that’s really cool.

@trailsillustrated If you’re good with it, that’s what counts.

I just care that she’s bathed in the past 48 hours. Beyond that, she’s adorable no matter how I see her.

My wife always looks good to me… but it’s nice when she dresses up too.

@trailsillustrated : That’s unfortunate. If it makes you happy, then there’s no problem. But if you need a break from playing Betty Draper, then take a break. Nobody will suffer if you feel like wearing sweats for a day. Nobody will really suffer if you do it the rest of your life. Be comfortable and live for you. You only get one life. Do it the way you want.

I like the balance I currently see in my soul mate: She wears make up as an expression of how she is feeling. She is beautiful without it. When she wears make up it tells me that she feels like some special is happening. I take a double take and compliment her and verbally recognize that she looks really nice.

She is beautiful with her normal clothes, and when she dresses up she takes my breath away. I think she balances it the best way there is, when she feels like getting dressed up and wearing make up she does, and she doesn’t feel any pressure to do it any other time. <shrug>

I try to always look nice for my fiancé. If I accidentally skip a day or two of shaving and he rubs my leg, I tend to apologize in embarassament. And he responds the same way every time, “You’re beautiful to me whether your hairy or not.” Thats why I love him :)

She never needs to be put together. She just inflates.

I think my wife cares more about her make-up than I do. Around the house, I’d prefer she just not worry about it.

@AstroChuck – you outdid yourself on that one, lurve!!!

My man doesn’t care. I think he actually prefers me au natural in every sense of the word..gross lol It’s kind of odd because I take time to look polished.

I love my wife either way, but to be honest, I appreciate it that she always looks her best when I come home. She wants to be attractive for her man…beats comming home to a slob.
and trust me, she is no slob

@AstroChuck OMG…I literally laughed out loud at that one. You’re a mess.

To all of you guys who have answered that make-up & hair isn’t important to you, you’re top rate. Kudos to you

@AstroChuck I have to second that! That was one of your best bon mots ever.

@trailsillustrated If I can be politically incorrect, is your husband American? Or, even if he is American is he from a typically macho culture?

@JLeslie he’s american. old-fashioned. it’s okay I get dressed and ready very early in the morning just like alot of women do probably to go to work. I am able to persue my own interests.

@trailsillustrated I just ask because I used to have South American women tell me all of the time, “you have to keep yourself looking good, and always look nice for your husband.” It is more of a standard in some cultures. I sometimes feel I am falling short because the women in my husbands family (Mexican) and in my x-boyfriends family for that matter (Ecuadorian) always look so put together. It is not that my husband says anything really, especially if I am just home for the day. Although, if we are leaving the house he sometimes comments when I wear the same old thing too often, and he likes to see me wear more jewelry than I do when we are going out of the house. The more I write this I realize he also asks me to wear skirts and dresses more often. But, it is not said in a way that I feel like it is a requirement, more like he is telling me what he thinks I look good in. The same way I tell him he looks great in his black turtle neck sweater.

@JLeslie it’s not a bad thing I guess, if left to my own devices I would be in raggy torn up jeans and a hoodie with a skull on it, with newspapers and magazines and dishes all over the place, bed unmade for weeks…lol

@trailsillustrated But, sounds like he is being controlling in your case?

@JLeslie meh, yeah. it’s ok. he’s not an ass about it. give and take, I guess. very controlling person, I just yep, yes, yes, then go do my own thing.

Get up, wash face, brush teeth, brush hair, throw on underwear, t-shirt and jeans. Is there more to being put together than that?

@JLeslie I come from a Latino culture and those not born in America seem less put together. There is still a bit of a “women serve a role” idea.

@tinyfaery So you are saying Latin women are less put together? This is why it is impossible to generalize. Interesting that this is your observation. The “role” you mention, do you mean as wife (cook and clean) and mother?

Yep.

Many of the Latin Americans I know work hard not to look like wife and mother to their husbands, so the husband doesn’t look for a girlfriend.

I don’t give a shit about that. My wife could not wear make up for the rest of our marriage and I wouldn’t care a bit.

You all are awesome. So many wonderful husbands. Yesterday my husband came home and I had been cleaning all day, never did a thing to my hair after showering and had pajama bottoms and a sweat shirt on, and he walked in and gave me a kiss with a smile.

@JLeslie I’d walk in and give you a kiss with a smile if you’d been cleaning my house all day! :-)

@janbb & @JLeslie My wife would give you a kiss if you were cleaning our house all day long.

@valdasta funny.

One of the things I found most appealing about my wife is the fact that she doesn’t get dolled up everyday.

She’s probably the least vain person that I know.