My girlfriend,whom I'm very in love with, broke up with me...what should I do?

To be honest I made it about 33% into that wall of text and my glasses punched me in the face.

You can’t really do anything. Everyone goes through this. What is done is done. Learn from your mistakes and move on.

ya. Im really sorry for ranting like that…there is just a lot to the story that I’m so confused about =/ Im honest to God in love with her…and it is sooooo hard

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I think we’re good. But yeah, that’s life man. You’re probably just going to have to get over her. May be hard, but keep talking to your friends and family and find stuff to keep you busy.

All first relationships are hard. It’s the first time you felt love for another person, and the first time someone loved you back. It is exciting and new and fresh, and when it ends, you feel terrible. Believe me, we’ve all been there. And I don’t mean that diminish your feelings, as I’m sure you are heartbroken, but we have. I’m pretty sure most of us would tell you that breaking up sucks, especially when you really love the person. All I can tell you is to take some time to figure out your life in your own time, and then start hanging out with friends and doing the things you did before you started dating her. You’ll be fine, but it takes time.

Thank you for sharing every single detail available…
Short answer to a long (super long) question… things will get better eventually, you will heal and move on, you will find someone else, stop staring at a closed door, you’ll miss an open window. I agree with les, the first time is difficult, and it hurts like hell, but after that first time, new relationships will be more interesting and exiting, think about this whole break up think as a lesson learned, next time you won’t make the same mistakes and you will be able to appreciate you significant other in a whole new way, believe me, you have a loooong way to go… and yes, find something to keep yourself busy

It never gets easier. Just remember that experience is what you get when you didn’t get what you wanted.

Let her go and move on. If she see’s you living your life and moving on (even dating) without her, there is a chance she will realize that she wants you back. It’s never going to happen while you’re clinging. What will most likely happen is that you will move on, get your head on straight, (this situation has obviously messed with your head.) and when she is ready to take you back you will have the perspective to realize that you don’t want to go back there.
In matters of the heart, it just takes time. You will be fine, and this is probably not the last time you will get your heart broken.

‘Talking to strangers over the internet about my problems’.
Welcome to Fluther. We are not really strangers, we are like a sort of big & strange family, so you don’t really have to worry.

My girlfriend of 1 year 3 months and 12 days recently broke up with me.
You counted the days. That’s enough for me to understand how much you care about her.

People say that it is because of her age (she is a freshman) that she doesn’t want to be with me and that she will eventually grow up and take me back. Should I hold on to my feelings for her?
No, you shouldn’t. Even if you think this is not simply possible, you will fall in love again and again many other times. Just relax, time will heal everything, and as Judi said, you’ll probably find yourself in the same situation once again, if not twice or more. Move on, with no regrets.

Trust me…I don’t do much but sit at home now
That’s a big mistake. Go and take back your life, immediately.

How old are you?

This seems like your first love, except you aren’t entirely sure if it is love? Anyway, as others have said, one day, you will look back on this, and realize that it is possible to survive a breakup like this. Right now, it hurts like hell, and you can’t see the end of it.

It will end.

It might take a while. My first relationship lasted a year and a half, and it took me two years to get over the breakup.

It sounds like your girlfriend—what is she? Fourteen? is really young. Especially emotionally. She finds herself being very attractive to all the boys, and she enjoys that attention. She may not be ready for a steady relationship. In fact, I’m sure she’s not. She wan’ts to get laid and to experience the fun, and since you wouldn’t be there with her, she is leaving you.

Another sign of her immaturity is that she listens to her friends more than to herself. She is more interested in being accepted by the community than in pairing off with you.

You are obsessing about her. Counting days. Watching her. You are dangerously close to becoming a stalker. I hope you don’t do that. It’s not good for you, and it’s not good for her.

As hard as it is—and it may be the most difficult thing in your life—you have to start mourning your loss. She’s gone. She’d dead to you. You will be angry. You will be deeply sad. You won’t know how you can go on. And it will be worse because you will see her every day. You’ll be tempted to try to get her back. Perhaps the best thing that could happen is that she does sleep with one or two guys. That might provide you with the pain you need to cut yourself off from her.

Believe me, you don’t want to go there. Lose her in your mind as fast as you can. Then pain now will be child’s play compared to the pain later.

You’ll have to distract yourself. Find activities (maybe in the church) to do that keep you occupied. Take long bike rides. Or run. Anything to get away from seeing her. The physical exercise makes you stop thinking about things for a little while. Find other friends, and spend as much time with them as they will tolerate. Keep your whining and complaining to a minimum. The more time you spend remembering your pain, the longer it will last. You won’t be able to cut it off entirely, but you’ll be able to do a little less.

Keep on getting counseling. I’m not sure your Pastor is helpful, since he keeps saying you and she will be together. Tell him to help you get over her, or go to someone else.

This will be the hardest thing you ever do in your life. And you are the least well equipped to do it. You’ll get over it—some day. But if you’re wise, you’ll start the mourning process as soon as you can, and you will stick to it! Good luck, man. I feel for you.

The truth is you weren’t together for very long.
It hurts now and it will lessen as the days go on. In the meantime, find something else to do. Get a new video game. Read a new book (not Twilight). Spend time with friends.

Here’s my advice:
1. Don’t call her!
2. Don’t post on her Facebook.
3. Don’t ask her friends what happened.
4. Don’t call her!
5. Don’t get jealous when she starts seeing someone else you know.
You two are done. Finished. Over.
6. You will not get back together. She has made her decision.
Coming to grips with this will get you past this.

Good luck to you.

Try and be realistic. With the problems you’re currently having with her, and with her flirting with other guys, etc, do you really think the relationship will work anymore? If not then you simply have to move on. Sitting at home is the worst thing you can do, you’ll dwell on it and it’ll only make you upset. Get out and do stuff…anything to keep your mind off of her will make it so much easier in the long run. It’s a shitty situation but we’ve all been there…good luck :)

Fill your life with old and new hobbies. Time heals everything.

i think you should talk to her & tell her how you feel. thats what i did with my ex & we started going out again. we lasted for a year but then i broke up with him & i met the love of my life.