How do I approach an acquaintance I'll call 'Jess', who I know is bi, to join my girlfriend and I for a threesome?
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November 18th, 2009
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I let my girlfriend know I was thinkin about it but she didn’t really say how she felt until a night out for drinks with my friends and jess happened to be there. Later that night she says ‘maybe jess will have sex with us?’ I’m thinkin sweet but not sure how best to ask jess. I’m pretty sure jess likes me but not sure about my gf.
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I wouldn’t suggest threesomes with someone you and you girlfriend know well. Lots of people have had huge issues with this sort of thing.
Ask him if he’d like the opportunity to ruin a friendship and a relationship both at the same time.
Just because Jess is bi doesn’t mean she’ll be into threesomes. Maybe next time you are talking to her about your girlfriend, mention that you two are interested in trying a threesome and are on the lookout for a third person. If she’s into it, she’ll let you know herself. If she isn’t and you ask her outright, there’s a huge chance that you will offend her.
Leave my sister out of this!
Too much information-I’m gonna go ostrich.
If you really are @Mr_Quick maybe you should stick to 1 sex partner at a time. You may not be able to make 2 people happy.
Thanks for all the input. I have to agree with PnL, thanks I’ll prob take your advice. The added bit of humour was good too, but no there is definetly no problem in this department.
(Problem with “definitely,” however. And thanks for shortening the text)
@Mr_Quick Welcome to Fluther. Lurve.
And Lurve to everyone else here. A very entertaining thread!
I’d hang out with Jess. Maybe have her over for drinks or dinner, and seduce her as you might seduce anyone else. Except this time, the two of you are seducing, not one. As always, if and whenever she says no, you back off.
Of course, these days, I guess sex isn’t such a big deal. So people walk up to one another and ask, “Wanna fuck?” Or whatever it is you ask. I am blanking on that other word for friends with benefits.
I dunno. Maybe ya’ll are hot enough that chicks dig you and you don’t have to say much. But when I was single, seduction was where it was at. And I don’t mean it’s sleazy seduction. It’s just the fun, flirtatious, getting-to-know-you kind of seduction. I sure as hell hope that hasn’t gone out of style. ;-)
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