How do you tell your friend that you have been friends with for years that you may like her as more than a friend?

First, is she straight? Does she know that you’re not? If she’s straight and doesn’t know that you aren’t, I do not suggest revealing your feelings, at least until she knows that you aren’t straight.

If she’s straight and already knows you aren’t, yeah, you can reveal your feelings, but I don’t know what you would expect out of revealing how you feel. At best, she’ll be understanding and continue to be the friend that she always has been. At worst, she’ll shoot you down – probably nicely – but nothing more will blossom from the friendship. It could very well put a strain on the friendship, because she might become worried that you’ll never be able to get over your feelings, which will lead to her possibly worrying that she might lead you on, or it might make her uncomfortable, etc.

If she isn’t straight either? I say go for it and tell her. She may very well have feelings for you, too. Either way, if you choose to reveal it, do so carefully. You already have an excellent friend, so I’m sure you don’t want to jeopardize that. You’re not in an easy situation, and I wish you the best of luck.

she is bi too

ok thx

@HeartsPain Okay, in that case, definitely go for it. Life is short, and you don’t want to have any regrets. If you don’t say anything, you won’t ever know what might have come from it. :)

thx i will try it thx for your help

You could play this song for her.

When courting, you need to play it cool.

Making a big scene with “you know, I really like you and was just wondering if you know, you’d like to go see a movie or something?” almost always results in a profoundly awkward and unsuccssful moment.

Let things progress organically by doing things together that you like to do already.

If it’s meant to happen, let it happen. If it doesn’t, let it go so you can be friends still.

However if it does come down to romance, understand that there is rarely any going back to “just friends” after.

I’m a believer in if there is mutual attraction then it’s going to come up sooner than later between “friends” and when it doesn’t that means one of the two has been putting on the brakes, putting out the signals of ”just friends”. Keep your ears pricked in conversation and try to make yourself as relaxed in her company as possible so she can pick up on your natural body language, tone of voice and facial expressions, I’m sure she’ll get it.

Just say you love her ;) lol.

If you guys have a good relationship and connection, it should be easy for you to express your feelings without her having to think you’re a weirdo. True friends will understand and even if she doesn’t feel the same way, she will respect them :)

Do you think she likes you too or feels the same ?

Just tell her how awesome you think she is :) and that she’s pretty…what you like about her…..if she doesn’t know you’re bi/lesbian then you should let her know.

And you want to do this all with Grace- don’t force anything onto her just let her know how you feel :)

You gotta let things flow ~ !

6thanks for all your help guys i talked to her and we are dating now so thx

If you feel like it will not end the friendship, I’d say don’t beat around the bush….........just say it. But make sure you are prepared for the worst, but hope for the best! Good Luck!

My wife and I went through something similar some 22 years ago. I think having such a strong friendship before we “fell in love” has been a great strengthening factor in our relationship. There have been times when I have reminded myself, “Is that the way you want to treat your friend?”

@HeartsPain congratulations!! I’m so pleased that it’s worked out for you <hugs> what a lovely way to start the new year,
huggles xx