How do you keep from crying?

Grow up and don’t let people hurt your feelings.

Think about what a hateful person they are to intentionally try to hurt you, then blank them out.

Is this someone you care about or a bully-type situation?

@Sarcasm Easy…

Just ignore them. If it’s too hard, then cry. Then look at yourself and realize that you’re above that and nobody deserves the right to make you cry. Put on some happy music, take a deep breath and make yourself the bigger person.

knee em in the crotch. The face they make will make you smile!

@Sarcasm Thats kinda rude…
You should just walk away from the situation and clear your mind from what they have said. Dont let people bother you so much but, if this hard just dont have them as friends anymore. If you call them friends and they make fun of you and try to make you cry you need to just kick them to the curb. I personally think if someone cant respect you enough to be nice to you then then they should hit the highway! Lol. If it ever gets physical or threatening go to an adult IMMEADIATELY its not worth getting physically hurt… Trust me on that one.

“Grow up”? Seriously? That is why people are becoming so cold-hearted and sarcastic.
There’s nothing wrong with crying. But at the same time, you should know that others don’t validate who you are. Them trying to bring you down only shows insecurities in their own lives. Don’t sweat it.

Hold your breath. Crying is like hick ups…..it’ll pass.

@Sarcasm how dare you be so sarcastic?!

I just bury it inside like any future rampaging, angst-filled person would do, and save it for the day that I go postal.

If you need to cry, cry. Let it all out. Don’t hold it in, just don’t cry in front of them. If what they are saying is not true don’t try to prove them wrong. If you argue with them they will just try to hurt you more. Don’t let those bastards bring you down.

I would say you make a decision not to allow this person to know that they hurt your feelings at any time. Bullies feed on emotional reactions. Also you need to set up a kind of internal protection that this person can not touch your innermost feelings. Don’t attach any importance to their hurtful words until they show you they have no ulterior motives or are just ribbing you. And don’t discount that this person may be doing you a favor by helping you be a little more thick skinned. Above all don’t be too serious or you’ll make it all about control and you’ll fall apart. Learn to laugh. Be strong. You can do it. Good luck.
And if at all possible limit your “friendship” with this person.

I’m a blubbering idiot. and I never cry appropriatley. I’m sorry someone is hurting you’re feelings. Mean people suck.

Mean people suck. I loved that slogan.

Nice people swallow..

@Brenna_o @rangerr @Facade
OP was asking what we do. That’s what I do. I keep from crying by not getting hurt emotionally in the first place.

When ever something truly funny happens I catalog it for future use. When I’m close to tears, I’ll remember one of those hilarious moments and the tears are canceled out.

I don’t. I just let it out, but not in front of them.

@SeventhSense Ew!

You have yet to tell us if you’re in a situation where you’re face to face (hold your breath) or…...after a phone conversation. In which case, don’t try not to cry. Let it all out. Unless it’s going to freak your kids out, in which case, hold your breath.

I use this method to turn their dickishness into pity. Most people don’t lash out unless something has them on edge already. I just imagine that their SO was banging someone else and they just found out.

I’m old… One word of advice. If you feel the need to have the last word you suck. Really, just turn and walk away. The person starting shit will be pissed that they didn’t get the argument they were looking for. Just walk away. I love it when people don’t get the reaction they expect. I just say, “later” and walk away.

Can help but welcome to Fluther!

The only way I know to “keep from crying’ is to die, or insulate yourself from life so much that you are numb enough to be effectively the living dead.

try to distance yourself emotionally when they say things like that to you.

i am curious who the person is that is mean and has the ability to get to you that way. whoever it is, stay away from them when possible. if it’s someone you can’t avoid, like someone in your family, try telling them that they are hurting your feelings. if they already know it, just tell them you’re not going to listen to their ranting today and try to walk away. another thing to try is as a last resort, tell them to go fuck themselves. sometimes if you get nasty back they may back off. fight fire with fire.

I will not keep from crying. I will cry If I have to. Let them know they did a good job of it. God help them when they realize what they have done.

Tough question! I’d never been able to hide my tears when they were upon me. Instead if it happened at work or somewhere in public, I’d try to walk it off, talk myself down.

@hungryhungryhortence Good point. Nothing worse than feeling like you want to cry at work. (I used to work at a place where this one woman cried all the freakin’ time! I would have been totally mortified with myself if I ever cried even once, excepting seriously serious situations. Kid in the hospital or something like that.)

Try biting you lip, or sing a song under your breath. Write it down, or cry in private. Try not to cry in front of the person, because from my experience they will see that they can harm you, and they may continue.

As much as I think sarcasm as a first answer may have been harsh it’s pretty clear that these types of situations are apt to continue based on some of the other answers. I mean @rockette, you are obviously a sensitive person and there’s nothing wrong with that. And we can all identify. At one point in our lives we’ve all felt hurt deeply by someone’s behavior. And that is completely acceptable, but developing new coping methods is important. And crying in a group or to elicit sympathy will not help you but actually make you more vulnerable. In private or in limited doses with a boyfriend/girlfriend it’s healthy but I think what your aiming for is a method of dealing with a public situation.

To expect the world to change as a result of one person’s feelings is not realistic. You have to take responsibility for your reaction to people. People don’t do or make us feel anything. As long as you believe people have the power to harm you then they will, because you have basically given them your power. And NO ONE has that power unless it’s given over to them. This is where self esteem begins and dependency upon parents/protectors is left behind.

Or you can hate the meany weanies and take your ball and go home..

I don’t cry, it takes a lot for me to cry, even when someone is deliberately trying to cut me down. However, after so long I just break. It shows your human and it’s inevitable. The only way I can think of is to have a talk with this person and ask what their problem is or just sit and endure it and put your mind somewhere else instead of in the situation. Think of something funny.

First, find a reason to leave the area and look for another activity or task that will absorb all of your attention. Take deep breaths. Quick, shallow breathing will bring on the sobs. Repeat calming affirmations to yourself, such as, “I am OK. I don’t need to cry right now.” You can even tell yourself “I can cry about this later tonight.” Odds are, if you give yourself permission to cry later on, you won’t need to.

@lonelydragon
Sounds self empowering to me.

I will gently avoid such people from my life

Its pretty hard if what theyre saying stings, ignore them or fight back.

Think about eating a bowl of hair!!!