How do you convince your parents to let you go out with older girls?

Turn 18.

Have your mom meet the 20 year old?

I don’t think my parents would have cared.

I’ve been married to my wife for over 10 years. She’s 3 years older. Not much difference here. Just take it slow and time will give you your answer.

Is 16 and 20 legal? You could be jail bait kiddo.

@Judi
That depends on the Country.
In Germany this would be a very grey zone. Technically it is legal, but it can still be brought to court and if it is shown that the older one exploited the minor’s emotional, uh, incompleteness or confusion, then it’s jail time.

@ragingloli

Not only the country, but the state too. In California, if this were a sexual relationship, it wouldn’t be legal, but in Nevada, it would.

I can’t help but say: just wait. I knew a girl who at 16 dated a guy who was 20. It didn’t work out. You have your whole lifetime for relationships and I hate to say it, but this isn’t the kind of thing you can easily change people’s minds on; it’s almost a hysteria-inducing thing and if you are in an area where the legal age is over 16, you might as well just give it up.

If your mom is set against it she could have this girl thrown in jail and she could have to register as a sex offender for the rest of her life.

I am pretty much screwed, haha this sucks but I dont have a sexual relationship at all. When I said go out I mean just hang out, not literally date. But I am considering all of your answers and I am wondering if I really choose to break it up cause she I feel has feelings for me but I dont know so…

Wait a year or two.

Yeh I mean I dont know if she will wait for me but it is possible I just can’t do anything crazy for now with her. I like the waiting part I mean I don’t find her going anywhere so quickly so I am just gonna play it out

Do you know what 20 year old girls are good for. Making babies! well, all girls are good at this but I just seem to know more who got pregnant after they turned 20.

Anyways I don’t think you can convince them, as an adult a relationship between a 16 year old guy and 20 year old woman doesn’t seem healthy. Of course to a 16 year old its freakin awesome.

Give it some time bud, when you get to college it will be nothing but hot beautiful 20 year olds.

Yeh it feels awesome but like I don’t know I agree again with all that but I don’t know I would find anybody as not into themselves that is so drop dead gorgeous has an amazing personality that likes me for who I am, like I really had a somewhat a difficult time getting girls my age, and I look up the spectrum I have had the best chances with the older women it’s quiet odd, it is as though the girls my age don’t respect my maturity towards things and so on. And like all the older girls I have gotten have been on the really gorgeous side. so? idk

All bets are off when you leave HS. YOU don’t have to be any of those stereotypes you were labeled as. Act like the hottest hunk and people will believe it. They don’t have 4 years of history to judge you by. You can be whoever you want to be.

Yeh like I am a really good flirt but I have only found meaning in mature women and its not like a Pedophile kind of way they feel towards me it is really different. Yeah I will go to College meet all these hott girls but like which one is going to be worth it, I am stuck on this girl now because she has something to offer me and its more than just a good hook up its like good conversation, fun stuff to do and everything it is interesting. And really now in High School I do what I want not what everybody else thinks, I really try to stay above everyone else and just be me and look where it has led me and I don’t know how to deal with it

If you could keep her as a platonic (i.e. no sex, no snogging, no compromising situations) that would be great. But I think that might pose a challenge to you. Why?

You are 16, and a guy…..and she is 20, and according to you…attractive. Do you find her attractive enough to send her to the “big house” for a few years? Cause that may be where things end up if it is illegal for you to be with her.

I’d steer clear. For your sake….and most certainly for hers.

I wonder what any 20 year old woman would find they have in common with a 16 year old
boy. I might have had a brotherly or nephewly feeling towards a 16 year old but I can’t imagine anything other than that.

20 & 24 is no biggie but 16 and 20 is worlds apart in so many ways. Sorry just sayin

What I want to know is: how do you convince your parents to let you go out with a girl?!?

Also if he waits a year or two she would age alsooooooo soooooo that’s not such a good plan.

You’re interested in her, but is she interested in you in more than just a little brother sort of way?

Say you think you are gay and need to go out with a girl to make sure that you are not.

IMHO, I think there is a bigger difference (emotionally and experientially) between 16 and 20 than there is between 30 and 34. And that alone could cause relationship trouble.

I remember the feeling of having my parents be able to chime in on my friendship/relationship choices. There was a point in time where they had the authority and the will to tell me who i could and could not interact with. Then i turned 8.

The problem here is not getting your parents to “allow” you to see a 20 year old… the problem is that at your age they still have a say in you interacting with someone that is not to far from you age wise. Sure there’s an emotional difference and of course the maturity level is usually different (of course when a 2 year old girl is trying to hook up with a 16 year old guy that really comes into question), but this is how you learn. You earn by experiencing life and messing up.

Just tell your mother you’re going to see a girl you like and who likes you… and afterwards be sure to share the milk and cookies (I still have those before bed pretty often… it’s not an age thing).

I don’t know what I am going to do age really doesnt bother me and it wouldn’t be any other problem if my mom didn’t care so much, like if she did not care I would be fine and like is it worth keeping it a secret? I mean like I asked my friends and stuff and they don’t find it a problem and then like no one else would know.

Either wait until you are 18. Or talk to your mom and see if she can possible be open minded and meet her, or hang out with her and keep it a secret. My parents wouldn’t have cared, but that is what I can think of

Yeah, its weird. It makes me wonder what’s wrong with her. What does she feel she’s lacking that she seeks out someone miles away in maturity, if not in age?

Your parents are absolutely right in this if they tell you no.

I really do not know either what she finds in me but she has grown on me so idk what I feel, but I think ill wait till I am 18 to do something serious. I’m not that immature according to her and yeh. But like my last girlfriend was 17 when I was 15 and like if we were still together should of been 18 ya know so like also I think about that and my parents were totally cool with what I was doing. So it is kinda weird

You’re use of the word “like” even in writing tells me you have a little maturing to do.

hahah thanks Judi the word actually “LIKE” is in every kids vocabulary even my 28 year old sister that graduated from CAL Berkeley in Political Science says that and she is above Genius so its an everyday saying not always based on maturity :/

Hey, @EmpireoftheSun11 nice grammer and punctuation.~

@Damn_Tony, don’t you mean “grammAr”? ~

@Dr_C Yeah, I thought it was an E. I guess I was wrong.

Hey you guys are sickkk keep it up