Men - would you sleep with a transgender woman? Women - would you sleep with a transgender man?

Do you mean transexual or transgender?

yes

I would and I have.

Nuh i wouldn’t be able to stop thinking what use to be hanging there.

Well, I’m married. So unless my husband decided he was really a woman, no.

But if I were single, and this person and I were interested in each other? Why not?

Both genders have almost the same equipment anyway. It’s a bunch of nerve endings that feel good to touch. I don’t understand – are people afraid that they won’t know how, or something?

Who knows what love will bring?

No. And I’m gay.

No.
But then again, I’m not sleeping with anyone.

I may. There’d be reservations, I have a few transgendered friends and I’m not sure I would jump headfirst into that kind of baggage, those men and women have gone through a lot. But on a purely physical note, I don’t think it’d bother me too much. You never know until you’re there.

If neither of us was in a committed relationship, we found one another attractive, and there was chemistry, I don’t see why not – with protection of course. That goes without saying.

I do have to give @asmonet lurve for some great points about the baggage that might be involved here.

What does it matter what type of gendered person you sleep with? Once you’re asleep you can’t really notice…

I do, every single night, and it’s lonely! Any of you open-minded folks wanna come and snuggle with me? I’m not a blanket hog, I promise.

I’m married. I don’t believe in cheating.

@asmonet Thanks for the insight.
Can I hide under the sheets with you MacBean? You can hog the blanket if you want.

as a Denobulan, i will gladly join

@loser: Absolutely! :D

Gee. I don’t know. I probably would. I mean, why not?

Absolutely, I am attracted to intelligence, not sex parts…and I know my way around many different types of bodies

i doubt it.

Probably not

I might, if the timming is right and I am cought off guard.
She better be friggin hot. Like wow I would have never known hot.

And, I am top only. :-)

Absolutely not.

Pre-op or post op?

Well, pre-op no, because I’m not into dongs.
Post-op, I hope not. I’ve stumbled across images of those. Terrible looking monsters, they are.

@Sarcasm that is really insensitive of you to say…transgender people, pre-op or post are certainly not monsters…no more than you are

I mostly meant their, eh, downstairs.
But I’ll agree to being both insensitive and a monster.
Transgender is not my bag. Someone else can take my share.

@Sarcasm don’t worry, we will

If their hot then yea why not

@loser / @MacBean: I’m pretty sure you both would be excellent snugglers. I’m in.

I would rather sleep with a trans-parent woman. That would be fun.

@jfos Should I have written have sexual intercourse with, or is sleep in italics not clear enough? And if you are just joking around – it’s too soon in an otherwise serious and interesting thread – so thanks for nothing.

Hey guys – I asked this – then went to work and came back to 27 replies – so it must have struck a chord. Thanks for your answers. As promised – I said I’d say mine too: I’m not sure. Sorry – but until I meet one, I won’t know. On the other hand – I am not saying “no” flat out – as some have said here.

Lurve.

@NewZen (Only because you asked…) I think you should have written have sexual intercourse with or any other form of the phrase that isn’t a euphemism which means something else if taken literally (as would be characteristic of a serious thread). And yes, I was just joking around—I knew what you meant.

And it would depend upon the specifics of the situation. I would not want any penis (that isn’t mine) action. That being said, I would not look down on anyone who would be open to this, just as I would not look down on anyone who is transgendered. Transgender. Transgendered… I don’t know which term is correct, but I’ll leave both, so as not to be ignorant.

EDIT: I would still opt for transparent.

Yeah, totally. I’d sleep with a transman OR a transwoman. I have strict criteria with regards to who I sleep with, but something that I do not take into account is what sex they were born, what their gender is, or what gender/sex they have been at any point in their lives. My criteria are whether I am attracted to the person, and whether I trust the person. And it’s completely within my realm of possibilities to be attracted to transpeople. I have been before! There are some very attractive transpeople in the world. (A note – yes this means I would also sleep with someone who is intersex, or rather, this would not be something that would “rule someone out!”).

One other thing – yes, there is usually some baggage that comes with being trans, but I usually date gay people and there’s usually some baggage there, too. Basically, there is usually some baggage that comes with being HUMAN so I probably wouldn’t worry too much about that aspect.

@fireinthepriory will you marry me? I mean I know I’m married, but will you?

@Simone_De_Beauvoir Hell yeah, you’re adorable. :D

@fireinthepriory good good, that’s settled then

I doubt it. I’m not sure I could understand or be empathetic enough with a transgendered person in order to enter into a relationship including sexual love. I could love them as a friend, and I might be tempted, on occasion to take that further, but I don’t think it would happen. Not that I’ll ever get a chance to see.

Nasty.

I usually like my sex partners to be less fucked-up than I am.

^ Wow, to both of those.

@asmonet It’s no different than asking if you’d sleep with the guy with warts all over his eyeballs. Everyone is shallow to some point and has their own preferences for things. Admitting it shouldn’t be a shocker.

@NaturalMineralWater Agreed, it shouldn’t be a shocker. I think it’s quite easy to see why someone might not want to HAVE SEX with a transgender person.

Fair enough, I guess. I wouldn’t want to have sex with people who are close-minded enough to fault me for having been born with the wrong parts and needing medical procedures to fix it. So maybe it’s really for the best that those people call us nasty and fucked-up and monsters.

@MacBean Now you’re just being facetious. No one is so noble and perfect that they’d jump at the chance to sleep with someone who had an army growing out of their forehead.. or a foot where a face should be. Let’s just be realistic.

@NaturalMineralWater: It is absolutely not the same fucking thing.

I don’t think so, @MacBean. If they’re going to be prejudiced, they could at least be polite. It makes me incredibly sad when people don’t have the decency to not be rude and hurtful to others.

@NaturalMineralWater: You’re likening a persons arguably natural body to a deformity.

That’s fucking insulting.

@NaturalMineralWater: As ‘mo said, it’s absolutely not the same fucking thing. And anyway, a post-op transperson is “repaired.” So if you really want to stick with your foolish analogy, the person in question has had the arm removed from their forehead or their foot-face reconstructed, so they fit into your nice pretty societal standards. You’re still turning them down point-blank without getting to know them, and calling them nasty.

@asmonet Sorry, I really didn’t mean to try to make some sort of comparison between foot-faced people and trans-gender people. That wasn’t my intention. Sigh. Right back on the roller-coaster of misunderstanding.

All I’m saying.. my base argument.. if you want to call it an argument… is that some people like things that others don’t. Should I be upset that you don’t like brussels sprouts? Should you be upset that I don’t like mayo?

It just doesn’t make sense to reprimand someone for feeling differently than you about something. When I said “nasty” .. I meant.. yes.. that seems nasty.. to me. That’s just one person’s opinion. If you say that I am nasty.. I’m not going to cry in my pillow tonight. It’s just the facts ma’am.

It’s Brussels sprouts. Why can’t anybody spell it right, dammit!?

@NaturalMineralWater: Yes, you did.

The point is instead of saying, no – I would not. Or explaining yourself further you chose instead to lob a one word insult at entire group of people and then state you saw them the same as you would if they were deformed.

Trust me, no one misunderstood you.

@asmonet Sigh irl. Have a nice night.

Just gonna GA you, asmo, instead of trying to formulate an argument here… @NaturalMineralWater, you really were extremely insulting up there, whether or not it was intentional. If you didn’t mean to be, you really need to reread your answers before posting them.

The fact is, most people would leave it at ‘not my type’ or ‘not attracted’. I would never describe who you were as a person as nasty, based solely on your genitalia or gender identification.

I don’t know. It would totally depend on the person, and the circumstances.

If they were a wonderful person who I was in love with, I wouldn’t really care what “parts” they had or have.

Love is grand, wherever you find it.

I wonder why we, as activists for the trans community, have our work cut out for us…people above who are being close-minded probably have never seen a trans person, let alone many others naked…yet somehow they know it’s ‘nasty’...been watching porn much? because that’s so proper…someone really needs a good lesson in life and to feel what it’s like for strangers, without any reason, to think they’re freaks…

I will also never have sex with a man (physically, genetically, mentally). Don’t think that transgender is the only “type” I’d never get with.

@Sarcasm
I will also never have sex with a man
you forgot the “again” :D

I doubt I could ever be comfortable doing that.

Yes if I wasn’t already engaged

Possibly.

nononononononononononononononononononononononononono
did i mention no?

Take note, @Facade knows how to be honest and avoid being insulting. GA, girly.

No. I don’t think I would do it.

I don’t think that I would.

(man answer): No, I don’t think so. Though, I notice I end up doing some things I thought specifically I wouldn’t do. So I’d’ve been more comfortable not seeing nor answering this question. ;-)

Well, y’all are missing out. TRANNY SEX IS THE BEST! All that extra baggage equals a very strong desire to please. Think about it… Guys, who else would understand your dick better than someone who used to have one. And ladies? What guy could know how to please you better than one who already understands the equipment?

I just don’t know. That’s me. Very indecisive.

I do know that I lurve @loser. =)

(And loser lurves you!)

unfortunately, I wasn’t given the chance to make that decision for myself…..............I had a realtionship (over 6 months) with a man that did not divulge that he was Pre Op….on hormones…Transgender M2F….....Harley rider, Gun Toting, Macho Man…..................I stumbled upon his ‘other life’ .....quite by accident. At first , he denied it, then confessed, saying he had gone through 3 years living as a woman….hormones,but the transition was stopped before I met him….but he still dresses as a woman when alone. I stayed with him….trying to understand….....but the deceit and untruths were too hard for me to handle. I felt manipulated & deceived in every way. there is NEVER an excuse for bringing someone you supposedly love into a long , intimate relationship…and not being truthful & forthright from very early on. I was devastated by the deceit…..not the fact that he is transgender.