Do males, on average, crave variety in relation to sexual partners more than females do?
I was thinking about this recently. On stag nights for example, men in happy relationships will often mess about with strippers and some will even sleep with prostitutes. Of course women rarely find out about this. I don’t believe this type of thing goes on anywhere near as often on hen nights. Do males appear to be generally less emotive when it comes to sexual encounters than females are? Is there a predatory instinct men have that women do not? It seems that most women on any given night could go out to a bar and sleep with a man if she desires – yet the same can not be said about men whom generally need to work a lot harder for it. It seems that the ratio of men seeking a casual sexual encounter far outweighs those of women. Finally, do most men also seek/desire variety? I recently heard a man say in relation to women (and his wife) that he has a favourite wine he drinks that will always be his favourite wine, but that doesn’t mean he wants to drink it every night. Is this comparison realistic?
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Not if she is all the things you are looking for.
I don’t really know what women want, so I can’t answer the question directly. I do think that biologically, women operate as the control factor on natural selection. This is observable in many species, and there is no reason to believe that it is not also true of humans. Men have a basic biological drive to fertilize as many women as possible, whereas women have a biological imperative to accept only the best males. This occurs because a given male can easily fertilize multiple women in a short time span. Even multiple women every day. On the other hand, once a woman is pregnant she’s off the market for the next 42 weeks plus. So biologically, I think men have more of an innate desire for “strange”. However human beings have the unique ability to subjugate their biological drives to higher purposes and feelings, so in terms of what we actually want and go after in life, maybe there is no difference at all. On average though, I expect that mean are more disposed toward “variety” than women.
I sport a penis and fancy a single vagina. It takes time to get to know girl parts.
My friend on the other hand had his “Different pussy every day plan” and was unfortunately successful. He went to great lengths to have sex with a different women every day. I hate that guy now.
I’m not sure if that helped to answer your question. My point was that lumping people together doesn’t really work.
@johnpowell I’d hate to think about his sexual health. Every woman he sleeps with is at risk. Isn’t that just lovely??!!
I am female-bodied and I’ve had many male-bodied partners and I have ALWAYS craved sexual variety more than they have…
@jbfletcherfan :: I had the opportunity to sleep with one of his ex conquests. I passed. Ick. I don’t fuck culture plates.
If I remember my college days correctly, from a sociobiological standpoint, females are considered more selective about mates since they have a much larger investment (pregnancy, childbirth, and child rearing). Therefore, they tend to spend more time looking for the best potential father of their children to insure survival (strength, health, intelligence, wealth). Males, on the other hand, are potentially more successful at passing on their genes if they have multiple partners since their investment is so small (sperm).
Does anyone know if The Selfish Gene is still considered current?
I don’t think you’ll be able to find the answer to you question here, unless someone goes off and looks up a study. I could make an educated guess, but that would be worthless as far as science is concerned. Then again, everyone would make the same guess. Probably, on average, men like more sexual variety than women. I’m sure we’ve all seen the evolutionary biologist’s explanation for this.
This is not to say that there are no individual women who want sexual variety—to judge by the stories of numerous women here, that is decidedly not the case. There are hook-uppers galore! Male and female.
I think that while both men and women seem to be able to see sex as just sex, men are more likely than women to be able to do that. Or at least, they claim to be able to do so. I have reasons to doubt that sex is just sex in most cases, but I won’t go into that here.
For me, it’s not so much variety, as much as quantity. But it’s not quantity of sex, for me. I link sex with love, for whatever stupid reason, and so, for me, sex is an affirmation that I am loved. For unknown reasons, I don’t seem to be able to get enough love. So I always find myself watching and hungering for the beautiful women and girls (on campus).
Some people think that there are evolutionary reasons why men indulge in more extra-pair copulations than women; I think it was probably adaptive for both genders, and that it is just underreported for women, but I have no proof
Coolidge Effect
In biology and psychology, the term Coolidge effect describes a phenomenon – seen in nearly every species in which it has been tested – whereby males show continuously high sexual performance given the introduction of new receptive partners.
The term comes from an old joke, according to which U.S. President Calvin Coolidge and his wife allegedly visited a poultry farm. During the tour, Mrs. Coolidge inquired of the farmer how his farm managed to produce so many fertile eggs with such a small number of roosters. The farmer proudly explained that his roosters performed their duty dozens of times each day.
“Perhaps you could point that out to Mr. Coolidge,” pointedly replied the First Lady.
The President, overhearing the remark, asked the farmer, “Does each rooster service the same hen each time?”
“No,” replied the farmer, “there are many hens for each rooster.”
“Perhaps you could point that out to Mrs. Coolidge,” replied the President.
I think a lot of women crave sexual variety a lot more than most people believe, they don’t speak about it as much. They view sex more emotionally than some men, but the same goes the other way about some, I think it is just the individual and that men may be more open about it
Not a study, strictly my opinion but I think women have btter imaginations than men so it is easier for us to sleep with anyone we want to. Close your eyes and open your mind, presto-hubby George becomes George Clooney.
Women are probably just better at hiding it.
As a guy, I only want one girl (one particular girl), but I do not imagine that I am typical in this.
Speaking for the females her :) lol. What I personally have noticed is that if a girl has sex with a guy and the guy knows exactly what he is doing and “gets her off” then she is all for that guy and his knowledge.. On the other hand if a guy is “bad” at sex then the girl will cheat to get GOOD sex and not have to deal with the pain of breaking up. (and no i havent done that before)
Guys who here would honestly want to go have fun with someone who just layed there the whole time and made you do all the work? Its no fun. (personally it makes me wanna get off and just walk away if the guy is clueless lol)
Some men do, others don’t. There are two male evolutionary strategies for passing on their genes.
1) Have sex with as many healthy women as possible being always on the move.
2) Have sex with one healthy woman and make sure that as many children as possible from this relationship grow up to have sex themselves.
I think women need variety just as much as men. Especially me.
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