@avvooooooo ”Yes, promiscuity can be a symptom of something bigger, but it can also not be a sign of something wrong.”
You may well be right. I doubt it, though.
@daloon “But why would you want to?”
@sliceswiththings ”Because it’s fun! It feels good. I never feel better than the day after I’ve had sex. For me it isn’t just the sex that’s satisfying, it’s the whole bodies together part, the kissing, the being that close to someone. It acts like a long fantastic hug in terms of improving a mood to me.”
”Having sex in a relationship would be great, but not everyone is lucky enough to be in a relationship. In the meantime, why should I deny myself all the positive feelings that come with sex?”
”Make sense why someone would want to?”
Sure. It makes sense. I’m not making any moral judgment about it. I’m not even trying to stop anyone from doing it. I mean, I’ve used sex in exactly the same way. I’ve used it to improve my mood. I’ve used it to keep me from committing suicide. I would do it again, if I needed to.
In your case, I think you understand how you are using it, and that you would prefer not to have to use it that way. I know other people here who are doing the same thing, who would much prefer to be in a longer term relationship.
Unfortunately, I think there are a lot of people who don’t understand. They think sex is just sex. They are unaware that they are filling a hole in themselves in an attempt to make themselves whole. They don’t even believe a relationship is better.
It is these people that I worry about. I think they are missing the point. I think they may even never have known there is a point, other than fun. Or maybe conquest.
I could well be projecting again. I know that I crave love, and that I experience love through sex. I am not in a position to engage in casual sex, but if I were, I would always be trying to establish a deeper relationship with someone I wanted to fuck. I’m sure I would fail sometimes. Anyway, I know that, for me, desire for a lot of sex and the need to fall in love are symptoms of my mental illness. I know that many people who share my disorder also use sex the same way.
I also know that sex doesn’t elevate my mood for very long. Maybe a day; maybe two. Then I need another fix. Drives my wife crazy, since she’s not into it so much. Like I say, maybe I’m projecting. But I wouldn’t be at all surprised if other people use sex in the same way, whether they have a mood disorder, or not. And if that’s the case, then maybe they also would benefit from some work building their own self esteem, and learning to love themselves. I say “also” but I have yet to achieve that state of affairs. I have a small bit of faith that if I do learn to love myself, that sex will no longer be nearly as important to me.
I could be wrong.