How do you get your parents to let you start dating at the age of 13?

you are too young for a ‘boyfriend’. How about a friend that’s a boy. You still do things together, hang out. You are too young for dating. Do things in groups, with your friends that he is one of. Movies, skating, etc. Groups.

Don’t tell them you are dating.

I completely agree with @trailsillustrated. ga!

Why is she too young? It isn’t like they are sexually active. If they were it would be a different matter. I just don’t understand.

@reacting_acid I became obsessed with boys at the age of 13. If I would have concentrated on school and others things that interested me, I wouldn’t have dealt with the heartbreak that I did. I also would have graduated with an “A” average instead of a “C”. It’s just too early to worry about boys. Develop friendships first. Just as @trailsillustrated suggested. Boys will always be around when she is ready for a relationship.

Ohh I guess I see your point. But I have to add, most girls who have boyfriends at age thirteen usually have a lot of self esteem. I am just guessing, but isn’t having self esteem important too? Also, it is easy to say later on that you wish that you had paid better attention to important things like grades, but it is a lot harder to do when you are going through puberty. Sorry I like to argue :)

hey @ reacting acid- you don’t get self esteem from dating at 13. You get self-esteem from the inside. I have 13 year old twins, and they talk to me. I’ve seen my son’s myspace. I can only hope to god he’s using protection and those girls know what these guys are saying about them . My daughter tells me how pressured she is. You have all the time in the world to be beautiful, popular, and the smokinest woman that men will stare at and date and treat well. It’s not something to worry about at 13.

They’ll probably be more likely to say yes if you can show them that you’re responsible. Maybe suggest only going on group dates or to places where there is an adult they trust. I remember dating at that age. I didn’t think about it this way at the time, but when you’re 13 guys are kind of just arm candy. :p

How do you know you have all the time in the world? You could die tomorrow in a car crash for all we know. You have to act in the moment. And why can’t you get self esteem from boyfriends? I mean at age thirteen they probably aren’t dating you for your intellectual side, so the only other option is because you are good looking. I’m not saying that the girls they are dating arent smart, its just that at that age boys don’t really care about the fact that their girlfriend can read above a grade two reading level. Although, I have no experience in the matter, it just looked to me that all the girls who were popular, pretty and had self esteem had boyfriends at 13.

You don’t.

@reacting_acid it seems to me, the girls with self- esteem were the ones who genuinely had a good self image, and it wasn’t about the boy friend. Really pretty, attractive, girls, good enough grades to be on the cheer team or things like that, maybe had sort of a friend who was a boy, but went out in groups, lots of friends, had fun, enjoyed being a kid. Had boys that they hung out with, but more of a group thing.

@reacting_acid at that age boys don’t really care about the fact that their girlfriend can read above a grade two reading level.

I’ll show you two boys that did do care if the girls they are interested in are intelligent. They are my sons who are now 15 and 17.

Any parent in their right mind would not allow their child to date at such a young age. How do I know this? We’ve all been that age before. We know from experience. I also know that anyone that age hates to hear what I just said because ‘I’ve been there’.

The only person that you can rely on for self esteem and happiness is yourself.

* facepalm *

It is a big deal at 13. That’s when all my girlfriend’s and I started talking about crushes and dating, But when i was that age i remember dating wasn’t so serious as i see it now thats im 19. Back then we didnt even think about sex, maybe just making out and stuff like that but it was also just someone’s hand to hold and someone to go to the movies with and such.
If your paretns don’t let you, still go out with him, maybe hang out with him with other people. Your parents said you can’t have a boyfriend, they didnt say you couldnt hang out as friends. What if you told them you were working on a project together. what if it wasnt a lie and you really were just studying or something, There are ways around it. just remember to not put yourself in vulnerable situations. be smart

I was your age when I had my first relationship. My parents allowed me to go over to his house, and he could come to ours. We were also allowed to go to after-school functions together and group dates, although I don’t remember many. Mostly we just talked on the phone A LOT. We were “together” for basically all of the school year.’ I learned a lot from that experience and I don’t think kids should be denied it, as long as there are boundaries and open communication.

I think you should talk to your parents frankly and try to establish some ground rules (i.e., you’re not completely alone in the house, the bedroom door stays open at all times., etc.) Keep your grades up and show them that you can be responsible, and hopefully they will see reason in that.

@RA

Since you’ve stated that you are still a student yourself, you are obviously in roughly the same age group. Don’t take what I’m about to say personally. It’s pretty universal.

To the OP. I agree with your parents and the other adults posting. Go out in groups and really get to know many boys. You don’t see it now, but your parents have more life experience.

It’s far healthier for you to develop numerous friends instead of obsessively wrapping your entire life around one boy.

They are doing what they are to protect you and give you the best shot at healthy emotional development as well as academic development.

I’m sorry that’s not what you want to hear. Your hormonal reactions are normal for your age. But it’s their job to set healthy limits for you. That’s just the honest truth.

The future day will come when you thank them for it. Trust us on that.

As Bill Cosby used to say about boys at this age,

They are hormones with feet.

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There is one thing uppermost on their brain. Hint, it starts with the letter s and ends with an x.

You’re a bit too young to date. Have him as a guy friend for now.

I sound like my Mom… And, she was right.

Invite him over to you house for popcorn and movies and to meet your parents. Why would you want to lie to your parents? That is a childish thing to do, and makes it seem you are not mature enough to date.

you don’t!!! too young. oh man, im starting to sound like my parents

@reacting_acid You’re how old, 14? 15?

I am 13 years old. Do great in school. Am a responsible child.

I find it is ok to have a boyfriend at 12 or 13. just as long as you don’t do anything to serious. I personally stopped at making out. And actually like hugging better. But as for how to ask your parents, I think you should ask them their concerns and try to convince them that they don’t need to worry. Compromise, but in this case I wouldn’t give up. And for the whole self confidence thing going around. A boyfriend is not what should give it to you, it does though. just make sure you give yourself some too.