Do you think two people starting out only on a "hooking-up" basis can end up in a good relationship?

Nope. Sorry I do not believe in one night stands as a basis for anything.

You never know anything can happen.

I doubt it, but anything can happen.

Yes, because I’ve seen it happen. No guarantees, but you never know. :-)

I think it depends. I personally would not want to start a relationship with any of the people with whom I have had a random hook up simply because we view each other as a release for sexual urges and not as potential romantic partners. But, hey, that’s just me. In the future, that could change.

my best friends have been in a relationship for 6 years and they started out as a one night stand, but they were quite young when they started out. i think you can be with someone, hook up afterwards and get back together, but im not too sure many one night stands actually turn into “healthy” relationships.

It definitely can. Hooking up often leads into something more serious.

I agree with @jackm. I’ve actually seen it happen more often than two people starting off as friends and then developing into something more.

Anything’s possible, but not always probable. Lots of factors are involved. Were the people only hooking up with each other or was it a “free-for-all”? If one of you (or both) were hooking up with others as well, would you be able to trust they would stop hooking up with others? Where is the line drawn? (And by “you,” I mean the “you” in general.) You have to learn your own boundaries and figure out what it takes to cross them. Draw your lines. And if someone crosses that line, fucking stick up for yourself and boot them.

That’s how most relationships I’ve seen start.

I figure that by hooking up, you’re at least establishing that there’s a sexual connection, and you find out if there’s existing sexual compatibility. If you are mature enough to maintain respect for someone, then sure there’s the possibility of a relationship growing out of a hookup.

I don’t know if it’s a generational thing, but I would think that the possibility of a future relationship with someone you’re actually attracted to would be one excellent reason for not starting out with casual sex. It’s no basis for any kind of future. Instead the future has to overcome that beginning. I would think you would feel cheap every time anybody asked “How did you two get together?” Would you rather lie about that all your lives or have to admit that you both were just scratching the itch?

I know it’s possible, but I’ve only seen a hook-up turn into something more twice. Once was my first bf in college (we called it quits 2 years later) and the other was a girl I knew at my last job a year and a half ago. I don’t know if she and the guy are still dating.

since there are no rules, i have no reason to believe that it’s impossible.

Yes I think it is very possible

Foundation for a good relationship is having things in common and a love and respect for each other. The hook up is based on attraction and everyone knows those pherimones (sorry not sure of the spelling) last only about 5 years. Where are you after the sexual urge goes. Stuck in far too many cases.

@candylady: I can’t say that I was aware that pheromones only “last” about 5 years… I’m not entirely sure where you got that idea from, but you might want to check your “facts.”

Absolutely. Honestly, I think the best way to get to know someone is by hooking up. My favorite time to talk to someone is post-hookup lying in bed. That’s how I decide if I’m actually into a person or not, and if I would want to date him.

Read that fact many years ago in an article about why relationships die. Sexual attraction is based on pheromones. They don’t last forever. There must be some bases to this since you can now buy synthetic to attract the opposite sex.

@candylady: A definition of pheromone for you: any chemical substance released by an animal that serves to influence the physiology or behavior of other members of the same species. Pheromones don’t “die.” Sexual attraction, with age and other factors, can change or wither between two people, but pheromones are for life.

Absolutely, that’s how I met my boyfriend. We “hooked up” on two separate occasions before he finally asked me if I wanted something more. We now have an extremely close relationship. Although we’ve been together for only about six months, the term soulmate gets used a lot with us.

That happened to me!
me and my boyfriend of 2 yrs were commitmentaphobes, we started hooking up no strings, and fell in love. Now we live together and can’t spend a night apart!