How come every time my boyfriend says he'll call me right back, he calls like 4 hrs later?

Ugh. Some people are just like that. My ex ALWAYS forgot to call me. Leave him a text or something asking, “Are you alive?” or something to get a response out of him.

QUIT calling him. Hunter- and all that macho stuff. He wants to be the caller.

My ex used to do this constantly. Eventually I started calling him out on it, and it still didn’t change his ways. If he’s doing it repeatedly I’d bring it up to him, and if he doesn’t care enough to either call you back sooner or stop saying he’s going to call you back it may say a lot about how reliable he is.

Because he’s busy?
Because he forgot?
Guys don’t really like being held accountable for things like “not calling”.
Let it go.
Pretend it doesn’t bother you.

But it bothers me a lot!! I tell him al the time and he still does it. If I ever do it to him, he calls me and says “what happened”. But when he does it then I’m being annoying for asking him why he didn’t call. Why are men so annoying?!

Don’t get annoyed, it doesn’t help. Just try to play it off like it doesn’t bother you. If he calls, awesome. Don’t text him or call him and let him do all the work.

What did I say! DON’T call him. It is against his genetic makeup.

@faye Yep!

Because you’re bugging the shit out of him with “You didn’t call when you said you did! Why did you do that? You need to stop doing that!” and so on. You’re not going to change his behavior… except the ones that have to do with dating you.

Plus, in the beginning for a little bit you want to talk to each other all the time. However as time goes on, you’re okay with just talking when you need to or really want to. There’s no use in talking just to talk sometimes. It’ll just burn you out, and you will eventually run out of things to talk about.

Because he is a douche.

Is he easily distracted or does he tend to lose himself in things? I used to annoy my ex girlfriend with the same thing. He may be distracted or found something that caught his interest that held him up a lot longer than he thought it would.

Take some time, never be where he is

He’s ADD, or, like my brother, is a resident of a timesink, into which minutes and hours vanish without any sign that they ever existed.

He doesn’t play video games, does he?

Call you in a few = hours. Your few is minutes, his few is hours.

a lot of people i know do this, not just guys. some people either don’t really like talking on the phone or they get wrapped up in other things they just tend to forget. my best friend says she’ll call me back in five minutes and usually it’s the next day if not longer. i have simply accepted that she has a flaky personality trait where returning phone calls in concerned

I feel ur pain!!! He won’t call me either! I mean my bf not urs

His girlfriend gets annoyed if he calls you too often?

Hes probably out being busy while youre worrying about the phone. Don’t worry, be happy. Pick up a book! Make him wait once in a while.. ;)

@doxie_chick – I can relate to this… some people just aren’t phone people. Unless I’m organising something or needing to discuss a specific topic etc, I find it draining and pointless.

I know others don’t share this feeling and find myself trying to formulate excuses to relieve myself of the phone call. With people close to me, I have just been honest and said that it is nothing personal, I am just not a phone person.

Is it possible he feels this way about phones? If you feel your relationship is healthy in other aspects, it may be that he isn’t avoiding you just the phone.

Hunni – it’s really quite simple… It’s because he’s a man!!

It happens all the time! Boyfriend or otherwise, the all do the same! Remember – 90% of them have goldfish memory spans!

i have a friend whom i’ve been friends with for 10 years now. and his girlfriend keeps calling him, then she calls his house phone. The reason he doesn’t answer is because he feels trapped, like she’s controlling him. he needs his space and she wont give it to him. after a while it starts getting annoying to him and sometimes his friends. i think this may be the same thing with your boyfriend. give him a little space, try not to control his way of life by calling him multiple times within an hour (if you are doing this) Hope this helps! :)

I know how you feel. My SO is always “losing track of time” and, because I worry if he doesn’t call me when he says, I have now told him to stop telling me when he’ll call and surprise me when he is able to. I’m not bothered that his time keeping is crap, he’s a very busy man and I know he doesn’t mean to worry me so I don’t get angry with him I just get scared that something bad has happened.

Reading the comments, it sounds like it could be:
1. You’re calling him too often
2. You call him “just to talk” and he a) doesn’t like talking on the phone or b) when you call him just to talk, it could just be chatter, and he doesn’t find what you have to say as interesting as what he’s doing
3. He’s busy at the time you call 1) working on something 2) playing video games 3) watching sports on TV

Quit calling him as much as you do, and let him have a chance to call you. When you do talk to him on the phone (or anyone for that matter), say what you need to say, and get off the phone. Unless you haven’t talked to someone for a few weeks, there’s no reason to be on the phone for more than a minute or two. Cultivate other interests, or hang out with your girlfriends so that you’re not sitting by the phone, waiting for him to call.

You guys are not understanding! We’ve been going out for two years now. I never call him because I am not a phone person. I do absolutely nothing to annoy him! He just calls me for like 2 seconds then he says he’ll call me right back and never does. I don’t call him just to talk! He’s just a duche I guess

@Justnice I think we all think there’s more going on than what you’re saying. When you do talk to him again, do you go on about how he didn’t call when he said he would? That’s one of the many things that you could be doing that you don’t see as an issue that he might.

@Justnice That’s exactly it. You’re out of the “honeymoon” stage, so for him, there’s no reason for him to call you all the time. He’s not a douche. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. We used to talk on the phone every day, plus text and instant message. Now if I’m out with whoever or at work, I really don’t ever get texts from him. The only time we really text each other is to let each other know we got to work or home safe, or if we need the other to do something at home, or pick something up at the store.
It’s really not crucial to talk on the phone, it’s more of a luxury. Don’t call him a douche, that’s not nice, especially if he’s just busy, or sidetracked or just doesn’t want to talk. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you. Most guys just aren’t phone people. Don’t read into it or over-analyze it.

@Justnice, how frequently do you actually see each other?

I see him almost everyday or every other day. I agree with you guys that we don’t have to talk on the phone all the time but I just don’t see why he never calls back. I know he’s not busy and I don’t even think it’s cause he doesn’t want to talk to me. I don’t know, maybe something always comes up

If he is honest with you than he is probably forgetful or busy enough otherwise you can think yourself what other possible reasons are there.