When one guy asks another why doesnt he ask the girl out all ready, and the other guy responds with: "I like her but, i have commitment issues"?
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November 29th, 2009
My guy friend found out that i like another guy (their considered to be “ok” friends). So of course my friend took the liberty of bugging my crush in the locker room about it, and now, he texts me and flirts with me at school, but i don’t see it goin anywhere. What exactly did he mean by “commitment issues”...Should I just forget him?
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If he’s interested, he’ll ask you out. But if he came right out and said he has issues with commitment…don’t hold your breath.
Just forget it…. its if he’s taking his time and being annoying about it then its really not worth it. In the end it will of always been your idea, or you’ll be feeling like you forced it…. either way it will of ended badly.
I’ve had very recent experience with a guy like this & it didn’t turn out well for me. As hard as it is, I suggest moving on now
I know your all right, this is depressing.
I know exactly what your going through.. you want him so badly, and you think that he would be perfect with you… he just doesn’t see that.. and he cool and awesome…. but you can’t have him…?? i know its hard
@bluegirl I’m guessing you’re still young if you’re in school…Don’t be depressed over this guy. You have plenty of time to find the right man for you.
Do you want to be with a guy who isn’t sure if he can, or wants to, commit? Do you like guessing from day to day if he feels like being with you or not? Doesn’t sound like my idea of a stable, minimally-angstful relationship, but some people thrive on that edge of bliss and misery.
@laureth
Uh no not exactly my idea of a relationship, but i guess i was always just hoping that i could change him…..
He’ll only change when he’s ready to change. Many try to change their guys, few succeed.
You cannot change guys. If you want a project, redecorate your bedroom. It’s far more rewarding, and you’ll be happier with the results.
Commitment issues? Come on! You’re too young to be worrying about that, or thinking that any relationship you have now will lead to something as serious as that.
You can date him. Find out more about him. Date other guys. Find out about them. But don’t get your heart set on any guy when you’ve never even been out with him. You know nothing about him, and you can’t make any kind of sensible decision about him based on what you know now.
If you think you like him, then get to know him and see if you really like him. All this other stuff about what one guy tells another is crap. It doesn’t matter. What matters is how mature the guy is around you. What matters is your opinion of him. Making choices based on what I, or anyone else tells you is just plain stupid. Are you a sheep? Well then make your own decisions based on real knowledge, not on herd mentality and innuendo.
“i was always just hoping that i could change him…..”
Forget that noise. It won’t happen. If you are going to fall in love with someone it had better be someone whom you like just as he is.
“People don’t change. Only their costumes do.” ~Gene Moore
“There’s only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that’s your own self.” ~Aldous Huxley
“Be not angry that you cannot make others as you wish them to be, since you cannot make yourself as you wish to be.” `Thomas a Kempis
The first time people show you who they really are, BELIEVE THEM.
Maya Angelou
An important principle for now and throughout life. Wishing you can change him won’t make it so.
I like the previous suggestion. If you want a project, redecorate your bedroom.
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