Do you have any tricks for getting your bf/gf to be more romantic?

How romantic could it be if it only happens as the result of a “trick”?

well ive tried talking to him and (to tell you the truth) its my first relationship, and he says its his 1st as well (we are only 14) so it will feel awkward at firt for both of us. and he says he doesnt kno the signs so im just tryin 2 help him out a bit

Ask them to be more romantic with you. Or initiate the hand holding and stuff.

I think the best thing to do would be to talk with him and tell him that you like romantic gestures such as what you listed. He may not be the kind of person who is comfortable with public displays of affection, but If he cares enough about you and your needs, he will know that stuff is important to you and make a point of trying. If he doesn’t make an effort after that, then he may not be the one for you.

You don’t need romance at 14, and you cannot expect a 14 year old boy to be or want to be romantic. Don’t rush your life

Being kind, doing little things for him, being romantic with him… if it isn’t reciprocated, and it is important to you, then I’d move on.

Tricking someone into behaving the way you wish is manipulation.

How can you enjoy being romanced if you are the one pulling the strings?

Your best bet is to show by example but do not get upset if he just does not get it.

There are some good suggestions regarding romance in the nearly identical question you asked yesterday. Link.

14 year old boys are rarely romantic or at least experienced enough to exhibit the intricacies of a romantic relationship.

I’m sure this will change as he (and you) grow up. Enjoy the innocence of youthful relationships :D

Slow down, it will develop naturally as you both come of age.

can’t use my first answer considering you’re only 14

I’m going to do two things here.
1) I’m going to agree with @pdworkin that it’s not going to be much romantic if you feel you’re manipulating your bf/gf into making the gestures you want.

2) Now I’m going to say from experience that you’d better speak up about the things you really enjoy that person doing or would like to share with them- don’t say “I wish you would do such-and-such” even though that’s exactly it. If you draw attention to the type of things that really mean a lot to you with your bf/gf then an attentive bf/gf will get the gist and make the efforts. If they don’t make the efforts it could mean they’re a bit on the self centered side, maybe used to being the receiver and not the giver or it could be they’ve been a giver in the past and felt taken advantage of. Just speak up.

A 14-year old, huh? Just be happy you got him off of Xbox Live.

@PrancingUrchin i did NOT get him off xbox live, we have known each other since we were little, and i talked to him about it and he was very good about listening and has gotten alot better, he even seems happier!

Yay for you! Good job and have a happy relationship!

@pnkmnkygrl Haha, I’m 21 and my girlfriend eventually gave in and bought an xbox. Maybe you’ll get to that and then the romance will really blossom.

@PrancingUrchin hmmmmm what ever….....

@pnkmnkygrl – wow, I am immensly impressed that you have been together for roughly 6 years and are only 14.

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