What is the longest grudge you've ever held against someone?

14 years with my biological father. Still holding it.

2 years and counting! Ex-girlfriend cheated on me and i haven’t spoken to her since.

@FishGutsDale YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!!!! i know youre a guy

@deni Thank you? lol

@deni I thought you were approving of the ex at first. I was confused.

<—is pissed of right now just thinking about it.

I usually don’t hold grudges, but I have had one for about a month right now. No, the problem isn’t solved and I don’t think it ever will be. I could care less about that person right now, I don’t even care.

I usually let things go pretty quick. It takes too much energy to hold a grudge for long.

I can’t hold a grudge more than a few days. I’m very forgiving.

I don’t hold grudges either so I don’t think this is a grudge- a very dear friend that I had known since childhood involved herself in my marital troubles to an extreme, I never spoke to her again. It’s been years now and I have heard through family members that she wants contact but I do not. forgotten, no hard feelings.

@deni har har har so funny

5 years..and its still holding on..

I can’t even think of any examples because I just don’t hold grudges against people. Probably the longest has been a day. Some of mine haven’t even lasted more than an hour or so.

Now, there are people on the internet that I wish to never speak to again and I do not intend to, despite the fact that they might be on this site… o_O

@DominicX It’s not me right? :O

I don’t hold grudges. Never have.

check out the little write-up in my profile.

Well over a decade grudge against the man who was supposed to become my husband but instead knocked up a high school classmate and then went on to keep making babies with every woman he met. I got over it a few years back, we even talk now but he was my childhood dream, yup.

Two weeks after I got married, one of my closest friends asked when the baby was due.
I said “She isn’t pregnant!”
My friend said “Of course she is. There isn’t any other reason you would marry her.”
I hung up the phone, and my friendship with that ass.

I try not to hold grudges, I guess I only have held one. I hate when people cheat on others, and continue doing so over and over again, even when they know that the other person is really weak. Also, a person who would lead a whole bunch of people on at the same time. =\

I don’t think this grudge can ever disappear, because I know that this person, that was once a good friend, will never change.

There was a work met friend that almost used me up. When she found a man, I was history. If I do think of her i feel a little cross. That’s about 5 yrs.

About 15 years. I have undesirable parents.

@Tink1113 Of course not! :) It’s not that big of a deal; I don’t mean “grudge” as in I’m constantly angry at a person, just that I have no interest in communicating with them.

I wouldn’t say ‘grudge’ exactly, but when my sister refused to pay back my parents for a loan, because “her family comes first”, meaning herself and her kids; and when she said “it’s important for her to stand on her own two feet”, I quit loaning her money, and after 30 years, I have never loaned her another cent.

Every time she has asked me for money, I always tell her that I know how important it is to her to stand on her own two feet and I wouldn’t dream of insulting her by loaning her money. I do send cash for gifts two or three times a year, but never a loan.

There are some people in my life that I don’t think I’ve managed to fully forgive. I hope I can one day, but it seems far off.

@YARNLADY: Throwing her words back at her multiple times since then seems like a grudge all right, it’s especially odd to me since the original problem wasn’t even your concern. You didn’t mention if she ever backed out of the money you loaned her.

@asmonet Yes, I “loaned” her money a lot, but not paying my elderly, ailing parents back was a last straw. When you say “throwing her words back” I don’t get that part. She told me how important it is to her, and I believe her.

@DominicX Yay! :D

I’m still holding one against my father. I always will. I know it’s unhealthy to hold a grudge but I’m afraid that if I forgive him, he might come back into my life, and that would be even more unhealthy.

@YARNLADY: “Every time she has asked me for money, I always tell her that I know how important it is to her to stand on her own two feet and I wouldn’t dream of insulting her by loaning her money.”

Same words you stated she had said.

I have several grudges that I hold, but the one that sticks out right is the grudge against my father for being a horrible husband to my mother and father to my sister and I. That is one personal grudge I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to let go of.

I told a joke ending with a really long annoying whale sound in the hallway of a dorm as a freshman. Turns out the girl in the room we were outside of was trying to sleep. She poked her head out long enough to identify me, and immediately commenced her grudge against me that still exists as seniors:)

I’m not usually a grudge-holder, but there are a few things peppered in my past that I have not been able to let go of. I guess the longest is related to my first relationship, the first person I ever fell in love with (completely head-over-heels), the first girl I dated, slept with, etc. I was madly in love with her. She came from a Fundamentalist family, couldn’t handle the duplicity of lying to her family, and broke it off with me and started dating a guy right after.

She then dated a whole bunch of other people, including a few more girls, then came right back around and married this guy. I have an irrational grudge against him and wish she’d married anyone else but the guy she started dating right after me. It’s been almost 12 years and I still inwardly go grrrrrrrrr when I think of him.

@asmonet yes, but how is acknowledging the fact that she finds it important “throwing”? She said it, and she lives it.

I have a pretty short fuse so I get madder than a wet hen and then I usually go off and forget what I was mad about in the first place.

Or I move to Australia and let it all behind, heheheh.

I really don’t hold grudges, takes too much energy.

I don’t really hold grudges. You might say I used to hold one against my mother, but I wasn’t even aware of it at first. When I finally figured out that I was angry with her, I tried to resolve the issues… she was really quite incapable of that, so I held in my anguish for a long time. I don’t speak to her anymore, but not because I have a grudge against her. It’s just far better for my mental health that she and I don’t have a relationship. I bear her no ill will at all.

@YARNLADY: Oh, never mind.

@asmonet Ok, my Daughter In Law uses that phrase from time to time also, and I just wondered how it applied.

my longest grudge is 9 years and counting, and a lot since then.
if people burn their bridge with me it can’t be rebuilt
they better hope they never need my help
for anything

The only grudge I have against someone right now is about 3 years old. A 20 year old guy jumped on my 15 year old brother. Yeah, I got my revenge for that, but wouldn’t mind extra revenge if he crosses me again.

@sliceswiththings oh no!!!! if anyone ever made whale noises outside my room I’d think they were saying I was fat and I’d be sooooooo hurt!!! OMG even though this is not what you were doing, is it possible that she got hold of the wrong end of the joke and took it personally? if so, poor girl, and poor you! I’m so sorry,

re the question, I haven’t ever been able to hold grudges, not really. I wish that I could a bit because I’ve been very very hurt by what I thought were close friends over the years and even though I haven’t spoken to 2 of them for a few years, I know for a fact (because it happened once before) that if i moved near to them again, they’d be right back to visiting and conning/stealing from me again like they did for years. So the fact that I’m living so far away is pretty much keeping me safe from them. I am such a what my Dad called a “mug” and I hate that. I do seem to have been put on this earth for users to use. Maybe in my next life I’ll smarten up.
hugs xx

Oops. Neglected to say that my grudge began 25 years ago.

Fifteen years and going strong…..

29 hours 47 minutes and 15 seconds. Then I finally managed to ignore the thoughts about that person. My goal is to reduce this time span every year.

I try not to hold grudges, possibly because I would be a good grudge holder! I just think holding a grudge is like locking myself in my own prison. So I don’t go there.

Maybe a week.Thats about it

Usually I move on very quickly and don’t hold grudges longer than a few days or so, but I recently left a relationship where the person I loved was incredibly selfish and emotionally abusing me. I have a feeling it will take me a long time to let go of this, but I have to be strong.