Husband left me. Should I send Christmas cards?

If you like sending Christmas cards, then of course! And sure, sign with your name.

Just sign your name. He isn’t there and they will know. I’m sure you might get a few phone calls so just be ready for that.

Put:
“Love_________ and [insert your name]”
this way, they will know for sure.

I’m joking—just put your name!

Just sign your own name. That will say enough.

Or send one from some group other than the former “you and your husband.”

For example (sorry all I know about the world is college) I’ve sent Christmas cards from me and my roommate, my whole a cappella group, or now my three housemates, our new puppy, and I. Maybe your sibs will be up for reprising the Christmas cards from their youth?

just your name, you are a free agent now :D

First let me say, in the case that this is a hurtful situation for you, that I’m sorry you’re going through this. I would suggest that you do send your cards with just your name, and use only your name for the return address, to people with whom you wish to keep in touch. You will probably get some people calling afterward and, if you can screen your calls with an answering machine, you can decide who will be supportive to speak with and who can just leave a message. Others you may not hear from if they feel uncomfortable, but you can feel that you’re holding your head high instead of withdrawing. But as far as a “protocol” goes, you should do what you feel is best for you, either way.

Sorry to hear about your troubles. You should sign however you like. It’s not their business.

If sending out cards will make you happy and help you heal- then yes. If they will depress you and make you worry- then no.

Perhaps consider a compromise. Send them out to those who know and those you know support you. The other people can wait.

It may feel awkward but send out the cards if you enjoy to. Sign your own name and maybe include your address and phone number.

There is a silver lining, sort of. This year you get to pare down your list to just the people you really like. No more cards to his Uncle Elmer.

So sorry for you!. But yeah… just signing your own name will get the point across without lengthy explanations.

You have all of the right ideas above. I just want to say that I am sorry about your situation. That is very hard to go through.

One reason to send Christmas cards is so you are not going through it alone. People are sometimes afraid to reach out. If there is someone you’d like to see or talk to, say so in a note on the cards.

Also, there is more to you than your husband. You are not just the victim of divorce. Are you doing new things? Say that. Just took up waterskiing or I am going to ski at Mt. Skibum this winter.

I agree with @Marina when she says people get afraid to reach out. My ex husband and I threw a divorce party which really helped but there were still people really uncomfortable, even a few who were angry at us. You reach out but don’t be too hard on the people who take their time to respond.

No offense, but why do people send christmas cards in the first place. They are such a waste of money, they get looked at once (half the time not even read properly because NO one gets excited about recieving them) Then they are thrown away.

But if your adamant about sending one, just write it without his name included. ;)

I would not send a card with someone’s name without their compliance. It doesn’t seem honest. And if you’re not ready to acknowledge this yet with some people, just wait until next year when you feel better. I’m sorry for your loss whatever the circumstances were.

@pjanaway Speak for yourself please. I get excited about receiving Christmas cards, and I even have a card hall of fame, where I keep the nicest onces and re-hang them on my little card hanger every year.

@renee, yes, just sign your name. You might enclose a little note inside to your personal friends, just to let them know (name) is no longer living there.

@YARNLADY – Its probably just my generation I was talking about ;)

@pjanaway I don’t know what generation that would be, my nieces, nephews, and son and his wife all use the card holders I made for them and we often get together and make new tree ornaments from the prettiest cards we receive.

I do volunteer work at the local teen group, and they have actually asked me to teach them how to make card holders to give out as gifts to their families.

@YARNLADY – Maybe its just the people I know then. ha!

@pjanaway Judging from your used toilet cleaner as a gift idea on another question, maybe it’s no wonder.

@YARNLADY – I was joking :’(

Put your name.

Then under your name write a long explanation as to why that no good bum will no longer have his name included on the Christmas cards any more.
;-)

Awwww, hugs @pjanaway xoxo

Lurve for Yarnlady for keeping traditions alive. Sometimes traditions can seem empty but sometimes It’s the only thing that keeps us all together. I think we need more glue in society today.

I agree with Yarn Lady (who is always so helpful.)

It’s an interesting thing. I am a maker of cards. I love making cards. When I was first married, I always made “couple” cards…two birds, two snowpeople, etc. Then, when it tanked, I chose a card with just a woman on it…a woman skating…a woman mailing a package…a solitary angel. (You get the picture.) I didn’t do it because I felt sorry for myself…I did it because I realized that being single was not the kiss of death…it was really, really special and I was proud of it and it felt powerful. I celebrated being single…especially after the “unfortunate” experience I had being married.

I know that this must be incredibly, incredibly painful (I’ve been there.) Do not sign his name to the card——he doesn’t deserve to even be mentioned…

Find the most beautiful card, put your name on the return address…and you can sign it…and if you wanted to use a little graphic….you could put your name inside half a heart with a little jagged edge showing that it’s been broken off from the other half….but if you do this…put wings on it, too! :)

A big, big, big hug to you….brave, brave woman on her way to a much more beautiful life!

If you like sending Christmas cards, then by all means, send cards and sign your name (not his). As others mentioned, this is a terrific time to pare down your card list to only those people you want to stay in contact with. Leave out all his business contacts and any of his relatives or college you don’t like, and only send cards to people with whom you are interested in being friends, whether they were from his side or your side or gathered jointly.

Folks may ask what is up, but you can deal with this be rehearsing what you want to say by way of explanation, and then saying that to anyone who asks who doesn’t deserve more details.

Good luck!

it depends on you if u still love him send it if u don’t then **** him :D

What would you like to do?
Do that. forget about anything else. only you and your emotions are relevant in this situations. Think about yourself.