NSFW Is it normal for men over 30yrs old not to want sex for more than ten minutes at a time?

mmmm how much over 30? about 30 is when they start getting it.

@trailsillustrated: between 30 and 40. They weren’t talking about not being able to keep an erection (they probably wouldn’t admit to that) it was more they were sexually satisfied with that little trysting.between bodies.

after 30. I would say this amounts to a—-bad lay——and no in my experience this is not usual

They just made it very easy for you to avoid getting entangled in office relationships.

obviously you don’t work with Sting.

im 30, and i can tell you, it’ll last longer than 10 minutes, baby.

….just come over here, baby, and let daddy take care of you….

/barrywhite

Over 30 like as in 95?

As a rule. I do not pull the trigger till she has had her fill.

@editingdiva: yeah, really :D

@eponymoushipster: Hey simian! I kind of chuckled because one of the guys was talking about a lady he met at one of the restaurants and is hoping they will work out to date awhile. I felt like leaning over and suggesting he not tell her about the ten minute thing. Lurve for Barry White ;p

@chazmaz: if you’re 95 and still boinking for more than 10 minutes at a time then, go you!

@ChazMaz usually, i let her pull my trigger.

10 minutes is average if you’re having sex for the first time, maybe! By the time you’re in your 30s? I suuuure hope not!

Man, I think my average is probably between 1.5 and 2 hrs… Maybe I should compare with some friends.

As I have said on Fluther in a different context, sometimes you just don’t have the stamina.

I am 60 and there are simply limits to the amount of time one can spend on this (or anything similar) at any one time.

But the desire to do it all over again 20 minutes later never fades away. To paraphrase: “The spirit might be willing, but the flesh is often weak”.

SRM

@eponymoushipster – Bad monkey!

:-)

10 minutes??? No way! If someone was with me for just that amount of time, they’d be history! We take a generous amount of time in foreplay to get the motors running. Then afterwards, we lay & cuddle. We take a nice leisurely time at it because it’s so good. Who wants to rush it?

@jbfletcherfan – Awwwwww. Sounds like muskrat love.

Such a cute squirrel. :-)

@ChazMaz LOL…when you’ve been together as long as we have, we’ve just found what works. :-}

I actually only take about a minute. . .

. . . but I can do it 10 times in a row.

oh shit…never mind

I’m not quite sure what the question is about. There is a wide range of experience, and if some guys report that their sexual experiences last ten minutes on average, then I would believe them, but I wouldn’t think they were representative. Similarly, if someone told me they spent hours at a time, I’d have to wonder.

There are no terms defined here. Are we talking about the whole seduction, from restaurant to post-coital bliss? Are we talking about the amount of time in actual intercourse?

Even if we had clear definitions of what we are talking about, the only data we get is self-reported data, which is notoriously unreliable. If every woman here who said she had to have an 8” dick really required that, we’d have a hell of a lot more virgins on fluther.

People think they have good ways of estimating things like size and time, but if you are just guessing, the rate of accuracy plummets. We have no means of verifying what anyone says. On fluther, where everything is virtual, I wouldn’t be surprised if most of the personal claims are also virtual. That is why I try not to make any claims whatsoever. I’m sure that a lot of people look on @eponymoushipster‘s claims in a fond way. He’s a character, all right! But there’s just no knowing what is true.

So I wouldn’t pay much attention to what any guy says with respect to such personal and private matters. Or any girl, for that matter. The only thing that matters is your own personal experience, hopefully with someone you actually care about, and who also cares about you.

@daloon there’s a way to know, oh there’s a way to know….

@daloon I think she’s talking about the actual act. and to most women’s minds, this would be lackluster. on any level.

“The research focusing on the ideal length of time of penetrative sex was made on a random sample of American and Canadian subjects. People rated 7 to 13 minutes most ‘desirable’, but intercourse of 3 to 7 minutes was regarded as ‘adequate’, while anything less was “too short” and over 13 minutes was ‘too long’.”

(From pretty much the same article once, twice, thrice.)

Are these men parents? This might play a factor in the duration of the sexing.

I may have misunderstood the question, also. I thought it meant over the WHOLE session, not just the coupling.

@daloon I totally agree with you about not taking too much stock in what someone says on here. I’ve read so many claims here that just have to be bogus. Especially the young people who want it to sound like they’re sex machines. My eyes have rolled heavenward many a-time.

only if it’s a quickie

I sure as hell hope it’s not true of most men. If they’re happy with having sex for only ten minutes at a time once they’re “past 30”... I’m becoming a lesbian. :P

@DrasticDreamer trust me it is not true of most healthy men 30 and over

Prep time is key. If he gets you almost there, you might only want 10 minutes. ;)

@daloon: they were most definitely talking about the actual intercourse part of sexing.

@casheroo: yeah, all of these guys are parents but only a few are still married or have a steady partner.

@MacBean: that survey is really depressing to me.

@hungryhungryhortence take it from real life. really. this is not the way it is. really.

im 26, and I love going long time.

I didnt mean to sound chineese, but I decided to leave it. It made me giggle.

hehehehe ya you sound very…esl

@trailsillustrated: I hope not. I mean, I’ve been with a few guys over thirty and they had no problems going for a half hour or a lot longer so I was kind of shocked. For all intensive purposes I’m single (not married, not cohabitating, no bf) and I want to think there are more than a few men out there I won’t break.

@hungryhungryhortence ha, well there are those magical men that just intuitively know- but really, your average lover imo goes alot longer than that! ( and I don’t mean the types that can’t ‘get there’ saw, saw )that’s not what i’m talking about

I regularly have sex with a guy who is 30 which lasts, on average, an hour or more. Ten minutes would be… well… honestly it’d be nice sometimes because we’d actually make it out of the house in time for work in the morning, but apart from that… yaawn.

at this point in my life, I’d be grateful… but..that’s not the way of usual things and so , yeah, ....after 30–40 minutes I’m like, come on now, hurry up

I think it has more with them not caring so much about their partner’s satisfaction. For example, on average, guys watch porn for 7 minutes before getting off. So if you’re focused or interested only on your own pleasure, yeah, you can get off that fast and be satisfied.

@MacBean I’ve read the same reports, 10 minutes of actual intercourse is considered ok.

There are also different kinds of sex. Vanilla sex takes less time than kinky naughty sex does.

Only if they’re selfish jerks, lazy or impotent.

@drdoombot Good to hear. ;)

If my girlfriend isn’t sore, I feel I haven’t done my job right.

If my wife isn’t happy, then I’m disappointed, but I don’t feel like it’s my job to make her have an orgasm. For one thing, she told me it isn’t; that sometimes she doesn’t like the pressure. She also doesn’t really enjoy being sore. Sex, as most things, has to do with individual preferences and individual bodies.

I suspect that there is a large separation between various definitions of sex. The ones who go for hours—I don’t think that is hours of intercourse. So, one could have ten minutes of intercourse and yet be making love for a much longer period of time. I must say that hours of intercourse sounds kind of boring to me. There are so many other fun things to do. Oh yes indeedy!

Intercourse always seems short to me. You’re having so much fun and then you look at the clock and see that hours have passed.

@drdoombot I know exactly what you mean. That’s part of the reason it makes it so hard to get to work in the morning. Either that or it really cuts down on sleep… making it hard to get to work in the morning.

I don’t think it’s abnormal, but it does sound strange. Why only 10 minutes?

It’s a cruel twist of fate that the male sex drive starts to wane just as the female sex drive kicks into high gear.

Yes if it’s a quickie! My boyfriend is 43 and we do longer than 10 minutes, though I don’t start the stopwatch so don’t exactly!

Hmmmm, as a 33yr old, that would only do as an emergency bonk! Ideally I’d rather a couple of hrs session, or even better, a whole nighter!

@TheJoker You don’t live that far away from me do you?!

@Dibley Heh, no, not too far :)

Don’t worry, your safe, was only joking.

@Dibley Well, even if I had for one minute thought you were serious, I would hardly have been worried!