Would you kiss a guy in a relationship under these circumstances?

“he is in a relationship” “alot of mixed signals” “kiss” “keep it your secret”

Of course he wants you to keep it a secret, he has a girlfriend. Sounds like he may be playing with you. The fact that you like him is irrelevant.

Wow, what a toolbag! His mixed signals are probably part of the reason you like him so much, because it’s like a roller coaster. I couldn’t like someone so manipulative. What he’s doing is disrespectful to you and his girlfriend. You should both get together and beat him up! >:( (Okay, kidding on the last part. But I hate it when two people get played and they blame each other instead of the player. You should really tell her.)

@seekingwolf and @Haleth
I agree that he is being a player, oh n fyi, this isnt ma problem, my best friend is going thru all this, we just wanted to see the reaction of others too…. and the girlfriend lives far away, he sees barely 2 times a month… so its not she can get to know her or get contact…

Yikes….poor gal. I hope you’ll share with her our thoughts on this…it’s all very sketchy.

So you and your best friend beat this guy up? I keed, I keed.

@Haleth I actualli love that idea mwaaahahahahahaaa (evil laugh)

A good rule of thumb is that if he is cheating with you the odds are good that you will soon find yourself in the position of the person that is being cheated on. Assuming they ever break up with the other person.

She should go for it – that is if she’s not wary of a guy kissing other girls even tho he’s technically in a relationship – what does she have to lose? Go ahead and “hook up” (or whatever the hell they call it) and have your fun. Then again, if she wants a guy with any amount of backbone, trustworthiness or the other good qualities anyone with self-respect should expect, tell him to grow some balls and sort out his existing relationship first.

Are you asking if you should kiss him simply because you’ve always wanted to kiss him? Sure why not go ahead. Who cares.

Are you asking if you should kiss him as a prelude to getting in a relationship with him? Hell no. He’s a cheater. You get any closer to him, he’ll break your heart, just as he’s cheating on his current girlfriend.

I hate those raging adolescent hormones. They make you do the stupidest things!!
Re-read your question and look at it as if a perfect stranger had asked it. Do you see that this guy is a total looser douche bag now?

ohhhhhh the confunsing signals!!!! maybe he just wanted to make out with someone and you just happened to be there!!!! Forget it (it depends, if it was a good kiss, then don’t) but as far as you can think of, it meant nothing, so don’t stress yourself :)

By kissing you right before you leave, he’s got you right where he wants you- wrapped around his finger. Kiss him all you want. Do what you want. But just be warned that he seems like a player and may not be worth the heart ache in the end.

Frankly, no. I require potential love interests to deal with their current relationship before kissing or anything more than that. By that, I mean that they need to figure out who or what they want before I am willing to go there.

Kissing someone while dating someone else is shady, wrong, and really doesn’t bode well for a relationship. I mean, if they’re doing it to that person, who’s to say they wouldn’t do it to you?

And if you can’t be with the one you love, honey, love the one you’re with.

If his girlfriend is not aware of this (which I have to assume she isn’t, if he wants you to keep it secret), then I have to say I hope I wouldn’t. It is of course impossible to say what I would do, but I certainly would not consider it the right thing to kiss in secret like that.

All’s fair in love and war.

Just because he has a girlfriend doesn’t mean he should keep her. If you really like him, take him from her!

And if it turns out that he was just playing you, dump him. But you might just find that he’s trying to find a way to break up with her to be with you.

Stranger things have happened.

Sounds like a Playa to me. Step away from the playa. If you let him kiss you, he’ll figure that he can have his girlfriend and play around on the side. If you guys get honestly, truly interested in each other, you have to let him know that he needs to make a choice.

And then, if he decides to be with you, you’ll probably always have this uncomfortable feeling he’s out there sending mixed signals to other women.

Hate the game…

I wouldn’t because I will be no one’s secret for long, especially if I want a relationship…when my husband and I were falling in love, he did keep me a secret from his wife – I didn’t care too much…their marriage was dead

@Simone_De_Beauvoir Notice that my friend is leaving the country in a week !! So no relationship is sought from both sides !! Thats the thing…

@stratman37 I love the saying: All’s fair in love and war !! but isnt it a little harsh ??

I used to be very judgmental in these situations, now I see things as more morally ambiguous. It’s hard for anyone outside the situation to offer you much constructive advice; just try not to get too hurt. At some point, you will probably want to talk to him and ask him what is going on but that is up to you.

@Roory well I didn’t know he isn’t coming back…if my feelings were involved, I still wouldn’t kiss him…if I had no feelings for him, then yes I would kiss him…and not care that he has a girlfriend

Nooo I wouldn’t kiss him again. That would just show him that it’s ok to cheat and use women. Not cool.

No I wouldn’t kiss him again. I wouldn’t even be happy with him kissing me for the first time if he is in a relationship. The fact that I liked him wouldn’t matter because if I was in a relationship I don’t want to be cheated on, therefore i don’t want anyone to cheat on someone else with me.

Run far away from this person.. as hard as it may be..

removed my moi. Probably should read the question thoroughly next time instead of skimming through it. My apologies.

Carry on.

No, I wouldn’t not unless he breaks up with his girlfriend. I absolutely refuse under any circumstances to be “the other woman”. The guy I used to date cheated on me on our five month anniversary with a girl he was taking to a “concert” and just decided to stay the night. It hurt a lot, and no matter how much I liked a guy I would never want to put another female through that, even if I hated her guts.

He sounds like quite and asshole. I would stay away from him if I were you.

He’s got a girlfriend and he’s stringing you along. If he wanted to be with you, he would be with you. I wouldn’t do it again unless he was single.