Did you walk away?

I tend to walk away when I’m really angry and need to calm down. I just say “Oh, I am so angry right now. Please do not talk to me. We will talk about this later. I need time alone.” and I leave.

It’s better to take a few minutes (or hours, days!) to cool off and contemplate your words/actions in a rational way than to just BLOW up and cause damage.

Yes, several times. I’ve walked away from a situation where I saw the person I got upset with wasn’t in any condition to engage me (drunk/high out of their wits) and I would have ended up furthering my own panic and tirade, nothing good would have come of it. Some people might say, “if you really cared then would have stayed” but I disagree. There’s a point when people do things to themselves that I don’t feel it’s my place to navigate. I’ll pass judgment in silence and let them own up to themselves. I feel “if they cared about me” then they would try to be better to themselves to share the best of their time with me. I’m really on the fence about this stuff lately.

I wish I had walked away when soon after a man asked me to be in “committed relationship”...I picked up the phone at his house and when I asked who it was so I could take down a message (he was at a meeting) she said, ” I’m his girlfriend from Tokyo.”

Uh…what? Exactly. I fell for his weepy-teary-blah-blah explanation….I was an absolute idiot. This led to a string of “girlfriends” emerging from all over the place….much like Tiger (but with none of the glamour, dosh, perks and settlements).

Just a lot of lessons learned and mega—grief.

I wish I had walked away last night when my fiancé and I got into an arguement. Instead I let my anger take over and things got broken. Of course after I calmed down I felt ridiculous and embarassed. I was very disappointed that instead of walking away when I felt myself getting upset, I chose to throw things and scream. I need to learn when to leave a heated situation.

I am walking away from a 10 year relationship right now. I feel that I am doing the right thing for me and I guess we’ll see, won’t we?

I do not walk away – I find that life is short and valuable and one must always try to seize the moment. I have never walked away from a person even if we broke up or are no longer – that is they can always re-enter my life if they need my help.

One day I realized the bad days were beginning to outnumber the good days in my life. I had tried to talk to my husband but he was pretty happy. So I walked away before I grew to dislike him.

On another occasion, the company I was working for was taken over by a competitor who had a horrible reputation. I had to fire my staff of 7 and 90% of all employees were let go. I was offered the job as assistant controller with the explanation that their current controller (and partner) had terminal cancer and wasn’t going to be aroundd long (ugh!). I needed a job and they needed me so I asked for a contract and a raise. They agreed but almost immediately they asked me to lie to a vendor. I walked away.

I’ve walked away from bad relationships there was a period of my life when I used to lose my mind over witches… with brooms and everything!) To me walking away from that has meant a start of new episodes in my life and a discovery journey where I’ve found that I’m stronger than I thought…

I’ve walked away from a lot of potential freelance “jobs”. A lot of which consist of “We need you to work 40 hours a week, time intensive environment, and you’ll be doing the work of a small team by yourself. Oh, by the way, we won’t be paying you, but it’ll look GREAT for your portfolio!”

You worry about the paycheck, let me worry about my portfolio.

I walk away a lot because what my bipolar son wants more than anything is to start an argument. That’s why I have made the screened porch into a second but outdoor living room. Depending on where he is in his cycle I may spend a lot of time out there.

Sure did. It was never going to work. And I had to admit that I never liked this person and was never going to like this person enough to make it work. Actually, I think we’re both better off.

I walked away from a job in a production plant… awesome.

I haven’t walked away from some things which I’m currently wondering about..

@Simone_De_Beauvoir What a great answer that was. I never even thought of that, I try not to walk away, but there was one person in my life that I can’t have contact with because he is a truly evil person.

@pinky perhaps I have never interacted with a truly evil person – I will consider myself lucky..and welcome to fluther

@Simone_De_Beauvoir Yep you dfinitely are lucky. I added you to my fluther :-)

@pinky I know, thanks!

I discovered a long time ago that I cannot help everyone in the whole world. I have discovered my Power of Ignore, and I use it frequently.

I walked away from my conversation with you, daloon, because I realized I was too close to the issue we were debating. I’m sorry. Should have sent you a note explaining this.

In real life, I tend to never walk away. I have this deeply neurotic need to hammer everything out right then, which leads to worsening spirals of arguments.

I walked away from a relationship that turned really sour. We were living together and things went downhill after a year, fast. I changed the locks on our house one day when he was at work. Best decision ever.

But I still get scared when I think about how angry he was, before and after. I felt it was an act of selfprotection. I wish I’d walked away earlier…

I have walked aay from relationships for various reasons.Sometimes you just have to.Life is too short not to.