Do you think slightly overweight people should still wear revealing clothes or dress to hide?

I think they should wear what they are comfortable in.

Wear whatever you want. If you’re so petty and superficial that you “gag” at something you consider unattractive, that’s your problem, not anyone else’s.

I have never thought of myself as petty or superficial and ‘gag’ is just a figure of speech. It’s a discussion not a lynching.

Watch What Not To Wear. You should dress to accentuate your assets and minimize your flaws. Clothes can really shape a body. The right outfit could make you look 10 pounds lighter than you really are.

This question reminds me of that Simpsons episode wear Homer buys a muu muu

I would like a muu muu. It would embarass my daughter so much!

slightly overweight people try to cover up, but there are some obviously thick folks who put on tight clothing or revealing clothing thinking it is hot and sexy. problem is, some people are not ready to accept they are fat or overweight, so they chunk themselves into clothing that is not so suitable. fact is, america will make clothes for anybody no matter what size. so the consumer slides into it with the thought of “this is for me.”

want your fast-food meal super-sized? ok, no problem—we can do that. so is the same with sizes of clothing. clothes in america adjust to the demand.

No, I don’t think they should. I don’t ever want to look at anyone’s muffin-top but my own.

or camel toes.

There shouldn’t be sagging mounds of flesh hanging out of your clothes, but you don’t need to try (I say ‘try’ because you can’t really hide anything) to hide your body. That said, being within a healthy range with your body weight and body fat percentage is ideal. This discussion makes an image of a 200lb woman in a tank top and hot pants come to mind :\

What I’m talking about.

kinda OT question, what’s it called when you can see panty lines in the front? anyone know?

@Facade It is interesting, the mounds of flesh that is acceptable.

@ringaroundtherosie Interesting in what way? Breasts aren’t supposed to be “acceptable”?

@faye “that’s your problem” is a “lynching”? Really?

@Facade Interesting that exposed breasts are accepted, but fat isn’t.

It makes sense to me. People enjoy looking at breasts.

@MrItty again, a figure of speech

yea breasts!

i gave this a “great question” because i have often wondered the same thing myself. i see girls in malls or on the street, slightly overweight, with low cut jeans, tight tee shirts and their stomachs and back fat hanging out. i wonder if they think they look good or if they just don’t care, or do they not know any better? sometimes i see girls on the street, pretty heavy girls with big butts and heavy legs, with tight leggings where you can see their cellulite and bulges through the pants. again, i wonder do they think this looks good or do they just don’t know any better?

They might not care. Maybe they like the way they look.

(@faye don’t worry about @MrItty. :))

@jca Yes, I have seen many sexy women who are overweight but dress so well.

Dear people of all shapes and sizes;

Please do not force me to look at inappropriate amounts of your flesh. Wear what makes you comfortable, but try to remain moderately covered in public. Thanks.

Love,
MacBean

I have gained weight in a short period of time. I not only wear clothes that hide, I hide. in my house. All my size 8’s are hanging in my closet. I never shop anymore, when I look at it in the size I wear now looks like a jackie gleason dress. I see fat people wear stuff all the time that I think looks shocking. when the lowrider pants and midriff top were in style I saw young, young girls with huge, fat, muffintops. makes me sick. I am in mourning for my old size

another look that i see a lot is girls that are very top heavy with bra straps way too tight, so their torso looks like a segmented insect, rolls of fat hanging out all over the bra straps. it looks like it must be very uncomfortable. i think some people need someone in their life to say you know what, that just does not look good. you need some bigger clothes.

@jca totally

Who gives a shit.

Overweight people, just like other normal people , should learn to dress in clothing that fit their body size . That means they must be comfortable in their own skin, as they are comfortable in their clothes. Unfortunately , there are many people who wear clothes in sizes that they expect their bodies to fit into , which is pretty sad .

I once worked in a lingerie store , and there was this lady who was obviously a size 14 but insisted that she is a size 8 and despite us telling her that she needs a larger size, she chose to buy a size 8 underwear . Ouch .

I feel that people should learn to be comfortable in their own skin .They should learn to accept themselves for being plus sized , but every thing has its limits .

It strikes me as funny that every example listed so far has been of an overweight woman, yet it seems the vast majority of the complainers have been women as well. Meow, meow.

@FutureMemory: you’re right, so here’s an example of a guy: a guy with a big pot belly and a dress shirt, bulging at the buttons, buttons ready to pop and fly off, and the pants not fitting so they sit low on his hips, more back fat rolls over the back of the pants.

There are many men who wear 10 year old T-shirts that don’t cover the belly and sweat pants that don’t cover the crack. I dated an overweight man who was so cool about himself and he made sure the t-shirt covered his muffin top.

I agree, but until I mentioned it the chosen examples put forth were all of women. Meow.

I don’t think it’s catty to be aware of how bad another woman can look with rolls hanging out of her bikini. I tried my tankini from last year on a month ago and needed sedatives!

@FutureMemory I was reading it and thinking the exact same thing. The question said ”...overweight people…” but all the examples given were of women, and I was becoming a little disgusted.

You know, it’s probably because men don’t dress sexy.

I’m pretty sure it’s because people are more turned off by an overweight woman than an overweight man.

BTW, what is “slightly overweight”?

@FutureMemory : you’re right. i think maybe that is because women know all the womens’ styles that are available to someone wanting to flatter, compliment, disguise, hide. there are so many styles and now a lot are in plus sizes, so it’s really not necessary to wear clothes that are ill fitting whatever size you may be.

I mean the extra 20–30 pounds. I’m short so I look as round as I am tall now! So for a tall woman 50–60 pounds. I think low rider jeans are about as unflattering as can be. And if you have quite a tummy, maybe don’t wear really tight tanks.

Some people pull it off well (Queen Latifah?) Others don’t. (Roseanne.) Most women who are larger CAN show their cleavage though. It distracts from other parts.

@jca Fair point, for sure. It still seems petty to really give a shit either way. The tone seems to be rather high school cafeteria-ish. I’m much more put off by people that walk around acting like they’re hot shit. Call me a party pooper :) Continue ladies.

Ahh ok here is where I guess I’ll quickly eat my words, at least on a certain level. I’m the biggest fan of cleavage on the planet; titties are my life. But I don’t care to see a large woman’s cleavage. Something about it just..meh.

HAH!!

@faye :)

Is this question about social etiquette or our personal views? Personally I believe one should wear what makes them feel comfortable since we live in a free society nothing stops us. Socially i think consideration of others is important, we are our lives experiences which are formed by our connections with people, so first impressions can be important, so though there may not be anything wrong with wearing and appearing as individuals with distinct and unique styles, it may hinder the connections we might have made with people. Some may consider people that judge others to be superficial but we are all judgemental and make judgements with the limited senses we have been given.

Neither. I would prefer that they neither show off nor hide themselves – I would like for them to just comfortable with who they are. I think they should dress to fit their bodies. Not because that is what I want to look at, but because I think that would make them feel best about themselves. A sexy dress, jeans and a t-shirt and just about any other fashion (except a bikini) can be done tastefully at any size.

However, I will say that I find scantily clad women tacky. You can look trashy or sloppy at any size, too. I much prefer to see a frump over an exhibitionist

@Supacase GA! That’s exactly how I feel. The choice between showing off or hiding our bodies with no middle ground just shows how messed up our culture is over body image. It’s like saying your body is either a sexy object for people to look at, or an unattractive mess that you should be ashamed of. Especially if you’re a woman. WTF is that all about? I just try to wear clothes that are comfortable and flattering.

I’m a 5’2 and a size 12 (“slightly” overweight?) and sometimes the most comfortable clothes are also a little revealing. There are situations where it can be appropriate. I wear halter tops all the time when it’s hot out or when I’m going clubbing, and I wear a tankini to the beach. Maybe the guy equivalent would be wearing swim trunks or a wifebeater. I wouldn’t bitch at someone bigger than me for wearing the same clothes that I am wearing. Everyone deserves to be comfortable.

The circumference of my waist is the sum of my inseam and the circumference of my chest. I feel sexy in my Speedos because no part of them is visible when I wear them.

Camel toes are cute.

I was a little bit more wondering if I have to wear loose tenty clothes. But my muffin top has taken out a franchise. I guess I can pretty easily tent it thru our winter but what if I met a guy who eventually wanted to have sex with me? I an frantically trying to lose weight so by the time I meet someone maybe I’ll be ‘normal’.

I am “slightly” overweight for my size. I try to wear things that fit and don’t reveal too much.( More often than not, that is a t-shirt or tailored-with-spandex button-down with jeans or slacks.)

However, I have a friend who is “slightly” overweight who wears “revealing” clothing—tank tops/spaghetti strap shirts, often. Which is not to say she looks bad, on the contrary. She is confident, and looks just fine. At the same time, she’s not “bursting at the seams”, either.

It’s one thing to wear tight clothing that is the right size for you. It’s another to deny your size and squeeze yourself into something much smaller.

Random side note: my lurve is at 3333 right now! :D

@faye Tent clothes are a lot less flattering than clothes that fit correctly. Just buy things that are tasteful and fit well, and you will look a lot better, because it shows that you care enough about your appearance to look put together. Tent clothes just say, “I give up.” If you meet someone who wants to have sex with you, he’s obviously already attracted to you the way you are. It doesn’t follow that you would need to lose weight to get naked together.

@ratboy Shake ya ass! Watch yourself! Shake ya ass! Show me what you’re working with

@FutureMemory But I don’t care to see a large woman’s cleavage. Something about it just..meh.

This sounds way shittier than I thought it would. I think it would have been more accurate to say it’s not as attractive to me, but it’s still damn sweet eye candy.

It takes a certain level of fluther-coolness when you end up @‘ng yourself

@FutureMemory Meh..too late

@faye I totally agree with @Haleth! Don’t tent yourself! It is a misconception that overly large clothes hide what is underneath. They actually make you look larger, but they often help the wearer feel safer. (This is coming from experience – I was once 240 at 5’4” and wore jeans and t-shirts most of the time.) Clothes that fit properly truly do look the best.

clothes that fit correctly – neither too tight nor too baggy, and are a flattering style (accentuate the positives, hide the negatives) are the best bet. there are so many styles and fabrics to choose from for men and women.