How do you feel about the matching system on Chemistry.com?

They probably just randomly pick people who live near you.. lol, thats their secret formulae in my opinion! Same for all date sites. :P

I like the idea of it.. you don’t browse people, you automatically get connected with people who might work with your personality and interests. It just, I don’t know, doesn’t seem to be very good. :P

Lo those many years ago when I was single, I used it. I put in all my info- answered honestly and- no matches. I am, what the French call, Le Fruitcake.

I don’t put much stock in the ‘matching’ system because people tend to answer what they think is the right answer. So the results are moot. It needs to be a blind response. Ask a question to where you don’t know wth the answer is for. Like a quiz about pop-tarts and banjo’s that shows how you feel about Catholics.

Is this the one that claims something like “19 dimensions of compatability”? I don’t remember which matching site likes to make that claim. Whichever one it is, I went to it once. About half of the survey questions were about your religion and how important it is to you. It seemed to me to be biased against Atheists in that regard, and I therefore didn’t bother trying to complete the survey.

Fancy slot machine.

Dating sites are nothing but marketing.
ANd eager people that will believe anything in hopes to find their “soul mate”.

Chemistry uses the 4 Helen Fisher personality types, right? Explorer, Director, Negotiator, Builder? I saw it covered on an evening news magazine a while back, and have read this article that includes links to a quiz to find your type.

I find it too limiting. I don’t mind having questionnaires to use as a guideline for matching, though. A few years back when I used Yahoo Personals they had a couple different quizzes so you could get an idea of their personality but even if the ‘system’ might have indicated incompatibility, you could interact with anyone equally. I liked that better.

Yes, then there is eHarmony.

By the time you are done with their questionnaire. There are no matches.

@ChazMaz eHarmony. I think that’s the one I was talking about. My bad

Well, they use a specific formula. Maybe their formula just doesn’t work for you.

Also, I’m impressed that they let you match with women! I’d heard that most dating sites are all heteronormative and only let you match with people of the opposite sex. So at least that’s one plus?? :)

eHarmony is the only site I’ve seen that is hetero-only. Most places I think recognize that ignoring the gay market is stupid financially. I heard the creator of eHarmony is a devout Christian, so I have a feeling this was intentional.

Man, I thought way more of them ignored the gays. I wonder why I thought that? Sometimes I think I assume homophobia unless proven otherwise… Wow, what a depressing state of mind, I should work on that! Anyway, that’s good.

I prefer to meet actual people in real life who show that they share my interests by running in the same circles, then making my own judgments. One of my best friends met her husband on E-Harmony, and they are very happy together. That just isn’t my personal preference for finding a trustworthy person to share my life with. I still don’t trust computer programs to make irrational, emotional decisions on my behalf. Of course, I’ll always trust a computer’s brain over my own if the domain is more rational.

Okcupid.com seems to be a free version of Chemistry, though aimed at a slightly younger crowd (or at least that’s my perception). They have a bunch of random questions for you to answer (and how you think your ideal match would answer), and based on responses, assign a “Match,” “Friend” and “Enemy” percentage to other users. Anyways, I’ve spoken to a few ladies here and there, some quite interesting, but no matches yet. I recently got to the email stage with one, but I don’t know where that one is going yet.

@drdoombot – That’s pretty cool.. I’ve heard some good things from other people about OKCupid. May have to check it out.

As an aside from the main topic, I’ve joined a couple of free sites in the past, such as Date.com (for me, it’s lesbian.date.com) and plentyoffish.com. Now, I don’t know if it’s just me, but it seems like the quality of matches/users goes down on free sites. It makes no sense to me because it’s widely available to anyone, so why aren’t the awesome people using the free sites?

Free sites brings all the unwanted out from under their rocks.

If you pay less uninvited shows up to the party…

But they still do.

The biggest problem with dating sites is it has become “kids in a candy store”.
No one wants to get to know the other individual or will hold on long enough to get to know them. Some one new and different shows up on the radar and off they go. Always chasing that unicorn.

Eventually they end up settling because they are tired of the chase and or being chased. Only to discover that they were probably better off with their first pick. But by then that individual found someone or they are not looking to be the last on the list person.